LostSoul70 Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Im new here and just looking for understanding and help dealing with this. Last Saturday night on our way home from a wedding my wife turned to me and said. I cant lie to you any more. There is someone else. It hit me like a bomb. I freaked I grabbed her arms and shook her. Screaming at her. She pulled away and fell to the ground. I screamed as she lay on the ground. I pulled her up not so nicely. She got in her truck and left. We were both drunk and it was only a half hour till my B-day wich was Sunday. Sunday I hadnt heard from her. I got realy worried when her boss from job #2 called looking for her as she didnt show up. I went looking for her. I found her at the bar wear she works job #1. She was sitting at the bar with a guy. I kept calm and spoke with her. She said I beat her. No way. I never hit a woman in my life my mother raised me better than that. Anyway she told me she filed a domestic violance report against me and the cops were after me. Happy birthday to me. I tried to talk to her on the phone several times during the week without much luck. On friday we spoke for a wile on the phone. She told me she hadnt been happy for a while now but didnt want to nag me about things. Didnt want to nag me? This is a 7 year marriage. I asked her to come home because I still love her. She said She wasnt even thinking about that and things were too complicated now. I found out this Saturday that she got a Personal protection order against me. Now I cant even see her to talk. She has three grown children. One of whom the youngest that just turned 19 on the day she left is still with me. I love my wife so much. We had a realy speacial relationship as we were friends for 7-8 years before we got together. Now she wont even see me. I just cant comprehend how things went so wrong. I told her I was willing to work on what ever we needed to. I just wanted to at least give it a second chance. That all these years and all the good times must be worth at least that. She said she didnt think she could see that happening. Its Monday morning now and I havent heard from her exept for a voice mail saying she hopes I can respect the PPO. Im so lost without her. Shes my all, my everything. All I have worked for was building a comfortable future for us. Now I have no direction in life. My work dosent have any drive anymore. I just sit here all alone with our babies (our Chihuahahs) and try to comfort them as they cry for her all night long. Her children have asked her to come back and try but, she got mad at them for taking my side. What side? they just love us both and dont want her to make a huge mistake. This is the worst fealing I have ever had. I feel so helpless, so alone. What can I do?
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