Noos Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 What do I have to do to get attention (apart from setting myself on fire) this weekend when I go to a fashionable bar for dinner and drinks? I'm well-groomed, have been told that I am physically attractive by many others, have friends, have a life, am not desperate enough to take just anyone, friendly... Any advice?
Pink Amulet Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Wear heels. Lift your head up high, and straighten your back. When you walk, think of flowing rather than stomping. Make sure you leave your body langauge "open" when sitting at a bar. Smile. If you see an attractive man, try and catch his eye. Hold his gaze. Touch your neck. Glance down. Laugh with your friends. ... Failing this, wear a low cut top
stoopid_guy Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 What do I have to do to get attention (apart from setting myself on fire) this weekend when I go to a fashionable bar for dinner and drinks? That would depend. What kind of attention are you looking for?
ladyfair869 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 yeah ive had trouble attracting guys too. I am not thin or like the typical attractive girl of today but i hate to think that id have to be like those other girls to get a guys attention. i liked a guy but he has a gf so i decided to not pursue him. I really was attracted to him though because not only is he amazingly good looking but hes also very nice. ive never talked to a guy like him thats been polite and just nice and not like a cocky jerk like most of the guys have been that i liked. and i just looked into his lovely eyes and it probly showed in my eyes that i really liked him. i expected him to be a real jerk but hes not. i just dont want to try to win him because id rather a single guy try to get me cuz i hate tryin to get to know guys. it feels so awkward and silly. but does anyone have some tips on being more attractive to guys.
burning 4 revenge Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 What do I have to do to get attention (apart from setting myself on fire) this weekend when I go to a fashionable bar for dinner and drinks? I'm well-groomed, have been told that I am physically attractive by many others, have friends, have a life, am not desperate enough to take just anyone, friendly... Any advice? Yeah, take me
hooghie Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 I agree with P.A. - do exactly what she says and I bet you'll get some attention! Wear something that you feel attractive in. Be absolutely sure you look confident- guys love that!
Author Noos Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 It seems that if you are confident, that scares them too. They won't approach. Is there some sort of middle ground?
Sand&Water Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Be friendly. Be open. Be touchy feely. Don't walk around with a grudge, and a sword. OR you can... Spill a few drinks here and there, ask for assistance while unbuttoning your blouse.
lovestruck234 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 SMILE!!!!! I have found this to be a pretty good one. I ALWAYS smile at people, so i guess it's just a natural response from me, but when guys HAVE approached me they will comment on how nice my smile is or "It's nice to find a friendly girl, not an ice woman"... Get up and dance. Come across as approachable. Have fun WITHOUT him. Then, when you DO start having a few drinks with him, have just as much fun. Independence, confidence, friendliness...can't go wrong.
stoopid_guy Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 wear a push-up bra Or wear nothing at all. Hate to say it, but men just like seeing skin. For example, the most attractive lady at a party won't be the one in heels, she'll be the one that kicks her shoes off and goes barefooted.
Pink Amulet Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Or wear nothing at all. Hate to say it, but men just like seeing skin. For example, the most attractive lady at a party won't be the one in heels, she'll be the one that kicks her shoes off and goes barefooted. Are you refering to the middle aged drunk lady at the saddleranch steak house after a few too many beers?
stoopid_guy Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Are you refering to the middle aged drunk lady at the saddleranch steak house after a few too many beers? Nah, drunks are never attractive. I'm refering to the lady who'd confident, comfortable, and approachable. She's having fun, so you know you'll have fun around her. She doesn't need to impress anyone, she's not "on the prowl," she's just being herself. She might be middle-aged, and will probably be at least mid-20's. (And PA, I agree with all your suggestions above too, except the heels vs barefoot part.)
DeeBrod83 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 I think if you spend a little time and have fun getting ready, you tend to give off a much better vibe. You'll feel good about yourself, you'll be pleasant to be around, and people will want to talk to you. Don't fold your arms, or stand like you're annoyed, smile a lot even if you feel a little silly at first. Don't drink too much or you get that annoying drunk girl thing going and then guys only want one thing from you. But most of all, be yourself and people will want to meet you. And there's never anything wrong with starting up the converstation yourself!! If you see a guy at the bar look at you, maybe you need to go refresh your drink!
a4a Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Give them attention. Something as small as a look can get them to react in a way that you want. talk to them. Just decorating yourself and sitting at a table may not be enough. Don't expect to hit a home run every time you take a swing. Honestly I have the opposite problem. I hide in the corner when I go out. But I do joke around with people if they approach me.... so I guess that is why they come back for more? Not just men but even old ladies.....
stoopid_guy Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 But what about tetnus!! Well, first of all, she should be up-to-date on her shots. And, if she's afraid of a little thing like tetanus, she'll certainly be scared of me anyway.
a4a Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Well, first of all, she should be up-to-date on her shots. And, if she's afraid of a little thing like tetanus, she'll certainly be scared of me anyway. is this in some reference to a needle dick? :confused: :p :p
2sunny Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 is this in some reference to a needle dick? :confused: :p :p Is that the same thing as a pencil dick?
stoopid_guy Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 is this in some reference to a needle dick? :confused: :p :p HEY! I'll have you know that I keep my needle clean!!!
blind_otter Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Well, first of all, she should be up-to-date on her shots. And, if she's afraid of a little thing like tetanus, she'll certainly be scared of me anyway. I happen to think it's gross and rude to walk around in public without shoes on. I went to massage school and all the hippies ran around barefoot and made the whole place smell like patchouli and feet. Keep your shoes on. You're at a BAR for God's sake.
stoopid_guy Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 I happen to think it's gross and rude to walk around in public without shoes on. I went to massage school and all the hippies ran around barefoot and made the whole place smell like patchouli and feet. Keep your shoes on. You're at a BAR for God's sake. It would depend on the location. Clean feet don't smell though. And agree, not at a bar, but at an office party, wedding reception, anything outdoors weather permitting...
lovestruck234 Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 I happen to think it's gross and rude to walk around in public without shoes on. I went to massage school and all the hippies ran around barefoot and made the whole place smell like patchouli and feet. Keep your shoes on. You're at a BAR for God's sake. I agree. Very un-lady-like, IMO.
JamesM Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Listen and talk to each guy as he is the best looking and sexiest guy in the room. I know a girl I work with that when she talks to me...and others...she has a look in her eyes that makes me think that she thinks I am the greatest guy to walk this earth. I have no clue how she does it. Yes, she is pretty...but it is because of her personality...she is not that beautiful. She has a good figure. But when she looks at me with that certain look, well, I would do anything...it is all in her eyes and body "language." She is incredibly easy to talk with. She is not critical. She is accepting. And everything I say...no matter how stupid...is important. She is actually on the shy side. She is not very "bubbly." I think it comes down to the total attentiveness in her expression. Yes, she knows I am married. She knows my wife. My wife likes her and trusts her. I have met her husband...he is a good guy. I envy him...if she treats him this way..I think she does. So, I KNOW that this would work for you in a bar. Work on your body language and listening skills. Most of the guys going there are hungry for that special attention. Most...even if they don't realize it...want someone to treat them with incredible respect and great admiration. Most men are looking for that special friend...not just a one night stand.
pricillia Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Or wear nothing at all. Hate to say it, but men just like seeing skin. For example, the most attractive lady at a party won't be the one in heels, she'll be the one that kicks her shoes off and goes barefooted. ah but make sure that you have a good pedicure!
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