whichwayisup Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 sorry lovestruck... guess it is, didn't mean it that way You gotta use the and the when making a joke like that, until people know your humour abit better. Silly dink!
Author lovestruck234 Posted August 28, 2006 Author Posted August 28, 2006 sorry lovestruck... guess it is, didn't mean it that way It's cool...
Author lovestruck234 Posted August 28, 2006 Author Posted August 28, 2006 Argh.....I had a dream we slept together last night.... I'm still thinking about him. I have to see him again this weekend cos Rhys isn't going to be here so I have to drivet he excavator and clear that land for him..... Eek. And I can't get out of it either....they need it done, and I'm the only other person round here that can drive the excavator... I'm so scared....thinking about him puts butterflies in my tummy...
TheSilentType Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Ask for a raincheck. I mean, what's the rush that they need it done so fast? See if you can wait till your bf can go do it on his own....
norajane Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Invite his girlfriend along and teach her to drive the excavator....
scrybe74 Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Slowly...but steadily...back away from the Dane.....and then run to the closest cold shower you can find. Seriously....the more you beat yourself up about it the stronger the feeling will be. Just accept that you are crushing big time on this augy and stop feeling guilty about it. Just because you're taken doesn't mean your dead! Enjoy it for what it is....a simple crush, fantasy and keep on livin'. If that doesn't work then really have an honest look at your relationship and but I doubt that it's more than that. You'll find that if you'll accept it then you'll be able to manage the lust.
Author lovestruck234 Posted August 28, 2006 Author Posted August 28, 2006 Great points.... Except his gf is in QLD and they need it done by this weekend cos they're holding a SuperX event scheduled for the weekend after that.... I don't have time when I get home from work and Rhys finishes late as well.. I have no way out. I HAVE to do it.
Author lovestruck234 Posted August 29, 2006 Author Posted August 29, 2006 Just because you're taken doesn't mean your dead! Well what does it mean then?
TheSilentType Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 if you must go, invite one of your friends to go along with you....that way you'll be on your best behavior when someone is watching you
Author lovestruck234 Posted August 29, 2006 Author Posted August 29, 2006 I know it sounds like I'm trying to make up excuses...I'm not....but all my friends live about an hour away from me...they all hate coming down to my house cos they're all city slickers....they would HATE hanging around watching me dig up dirt all day....
TheSilentType Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 So what you're saying is that his gf is in QLD (I don't even know what that means), your bf won't be able to come, and none of your friends can come too? This is not good! If all else fails, say you have bad food poisoning and won't be able to make it
Author lovestruck234 Posted August 29, 2006 Author Posted August 29, 2006 So what you're saying is that his gf is in QLD (I don't even know what that means), your bf won't be able to come, and none of your friends can come too? This is not good! If all else fails, say you have bad food poisoning and won't be able to make it QLD is Queensland (state in Oz)....she is in another state for a week. And yes, that's basically what I'm saying. I have to do this work...they are paying big money to have this track built....I'm not the type of person to bail on something as big as this. ARGH!! I'm so so so so so nervous. Think about it, we'll be in the bush...all by ourselves...I think one of his mates can only come for an hour or so to help out. But other than that, all by oursleves...waahahhaha why me?? For me...this is spelling out loudly and clearly DISASTER! *rocking back and forth in corner* I will not cheat on Rhys, I will not cheat on Rhys, I will not cheat on Rhys..
Paysh Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 lol, my wife said she'd never cheat on me either. "Never, ever, EVER!!!" Then she met some d-bag who charmed her with lines out of a Sweet Valley High novel, told her he saw a "sparkle" in her eyes, she "felt so comfortable" with him, two weeks later she's smoking his bone. My advice? Stay far, far away from Dane if you intend to pursue a long-term with Rhys. Nobody likes to be humiliated, and if Rhys ever catches wind of anything, he'll be one crushed, angry mofo.
Outcast Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 what if one day I throw all my inhibitions out the window and I'm just over-whelmed by my feelings Your thinking must not allow for that. Right now you're setting yourself up to be 'swept away' except there will have been no sweeping. You would have flopped, spinelessly, in front of the broom. You are creating this situation by allowing yourself to think about him. Stop it. You have a whole list of reasons why he's sexy which shows you've been allowing yourself to dwell on him. STOP THAT. Look. I worked with a couple of guys who, had they been single, would have interested me mightily. And I got vibes from both. And I could have dwelt day and night on how they looked and all their good traits until I thought myself into a crush with either or even both - and possibly even into an affair because there were DEFINITE vibes. But I WOULD NOT. When I found myself beginning to dwell on the idea of one, I'd get busy doing work or something else. If we were talking, I'd stand so that I wouldn't look directly into their eyes. And I stood away from them. And eventually it wore off, as these things always will UNLESS THEY'RE FED BY YOU. We think ourselves into love and can think ourselves right back out. The longer you spend telling yourself how wonderful, sexy, bla bla, bla he is, the more time you are spending doing a sell job on yourself. And creating an affair in your own mind. THIS is the meaning of 'love is a choice'. If you love, then your choice must to be to NOT allow your mind to dwell on someone else until you talk yourself into loving that person.
Author lovestruck234 Posted August 30, 2006 Author Posted August 30, 2006 Ok...so time for an update... He rang me last night?? Yeah, and ONE I have NO idea how he got my number, but he rang me while I was with Rhys... Conversation pretty my led in this way... Me: Hello?? Dane: Hey Tess, it's Dane, what ya doin? Me: Hey, how'd you get my number? Dane: Wouldn't you like to know... Me: Ha ha ha ha. So what you been doing? Everything still right for the job on the weekend? Dane: Yeah yeah...still good. Hey, Daniel (mate of Danes) can't make it at all. So do you think the two of us would be able to get it done in time? Me: Yeah, should do. As long as there's no dramas. Just gotta get straight into it, I guess. Dane: .......(awkward silence)...so what you doing at the moment? Me: I'm just with Rhys. (at this point, Rhys snatches the phone off me and puts it on loud speaker) Rhys: Hey hey loser, how ya goin? Dane: Hey Rhys...good mate, yourself? Rhys: Yeah good. Listen, no funny business this weekend while I'ma way with Tess, k? Don't lay a hand on her, man whore. (sarcastic). Dane: Ha ha ha. Tess, take me off loud speaker. (proceeded to do so)... Dane: Tess, I have to go...I'll see you on the weekend k? Still 7am was it? I'll bring the rubber.... Me: What?? Dane: Naaaaaah, only jokin. See ya sexy... Me: see ya. Rhys then asked me what he said. I just said he was being Dane, normal smart-ass self.... Man, I am dreading this weekend!!
whichwayisup Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 BE CAREFUL. Really think and do not put yourself IN that situation where you won't be able to say no to him. He isn't being a friend to your boyfriend if he's making moves or hinting at it to you......Your boyfriend WILL be pissed and you can kiss the relationship goodbye if you let anything happen...And their friendship would be over as well. IS Dane worth it???
Roo Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 do you have ANYONE you could bring with you, just to be a third party to keep you on the up and up, a friend??
Author lovestruck234 Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 do you have ANYONE you could bring with you, just to be a third party to keep you on the up and up, a friend?? Hmmm...honestly, it's not that I don't have any friends, it's just they are always busy....I rang a few of them throughout the week just to see what's happeneing, and all of them are going somewhere or doing something this weekend. The only other person I could turn to is Rhys' little sister. She's 14. But she's sooooo lazy. I know for sure if I ask her she'll be like "Nah, can't be bothered".... That's what she's like. Or she'll end up ringing up a friend to come pick her up. Like I said, I know it sounds like I'm making excuses, but this is how sticky this situation is.... Whichway, I know, I know. I am being the best I can be here. I am being the good girl. I haven't flirted back since that weekend when I have seen him this week. He flirts with me uncontrollably, but if anyone knows Rhys here, they'll know that he is so oblivious to that sort of thing. He wouldn't know flirting if it hit him in the face. Not that I'm saying I'm taking advantage of that and flirting with Dane, that's not my intention but....geez, lust is a pretty powerful thing, isn't it? I am not stupid. I wouldn't kiss him. I wouldn't. No. I'm stronger than that. But as Roo pointed out, he's the bad boy. I guess he is. He oozes sex appeal, he really does. You know how you see those guys at clubs that aren't overly attractive, yet and they have 10 or so girls swooning over him? He's that type. And you wonder, why are they going for him? Then you realise once you start talking to him how intense the sexual tension is... he's that type. Intest staring straight into your eyes, is really appealing and he doesn't even try? I know. I have to get all this outta my head. But he knows how to win over girls, that's for sure.
Road Rage Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 The guy is a player of the worst type, please stear clear. Don`t forget most players have herpes:rolleyes:
Author lovestruck234 Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 Oh don't worry about that, I know he's a player. Definetley. I have known the guy for about 3 years...some stories I have heard.... his name is under "Man Whore" in my phone....everybody calls him a man whore. He has been in some pretty desperate situations, like some of the girls he has slept with.... I know, I know. I have to get away, get it out of my head. It should fade soon enough. Just, like I said, when I don't see him, I'm not really obsessing that much, just when he gets talked about, I talk to him, or I see him is when I start to think about him a fair bit... Aaaaaanyway....that's the reason I'm dreading the weekend, cos it means I have to see him, and that's when I start to obsess, start watching him walk and all that stupid stuff. This is so stupid....
Road Rage Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Just goes to show that a guy doesn`t need to have big muscles or fancy things to charm a perfect ten:cool: Guys take note!
nicki Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Hi Lovestruck, just a thought here. Do you think you need some drama in your life right now? Sometimes when things settle down a bit and get comfortable with someone, we can get UNCOMFORTABLE because we are hooked on drama and newness. I could be way off base, but you seem to be putting a lot of thought into this guy. And I'm sure it's hard to stop your mind....so... Stop watching him walk. Stop talking to him at all. If he calls, don't take it, or be very curt. In short, stop fueling the fire in your mind and, er, in your belly. Maybe it's time to shake it up a bit with Rhys. Go do something together you've never done before....like go cart riding, or mountain biking...anything new. Studies have shown that when we do new things with our partners, we stimulate the production of the same "new love" chemicals in our brain. That could be what's going on with you. A natural dip of new love endorphins and oxytocin. These fantasies of Dane are creating that chemical cocktail for you.....so, create it with Rhys. Good luck! And watch out for Dane. He shouldn't be saying sexual stuff to you at all. Make him stop that, no matter how much you like it. Tell him Rhys would kill him if you repeated what he said.
Author lovestruck234 Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 Thanks nicki... That all makes sense. see, Rhys doesn't like change....well, he does, but you know what I mean.... Like I suggested doing things a little different in our sex life to spice it up and he's like "what do you mean? Aren't you happy with the way it's going at the moment?".... He does enjoy excitment though, he does, he rides motorbikes like me, enjoys that adrenalin rush like me, but doesn't seem to handle change very well, like me. His parents went away for a week to a horse endurance ride so him and his sister had to look after the place on their own (they have doen it before plenty of times)...but you could tell he was getting edgy toward the end of the week, then when they did get home he's like "Ah, it's so good to have things back to normal".... Me? I would LOVE it if my parents went away for a week. I wouldn't be happy that "things are back to normal"... I don't know. He likes a set routine. Even when we went to the snow he was gettign all edgy cos it was something new. I loved it cos 1) no parents and 2) new environment... Hmmm.....there really isn't much to do around my way apart from moto riding and just the usual things we do. He thinks everything else is "lame"...
Guest Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 dont take this the wrong way, but i fink u r being very childish in ur approach to everything !! every1 is trying to give u advice and u keep going on about how u lust n want him !!! Right.. so wat !!! its a fantasy !!! and one that will be a big disaster !!! just do things the hard way, stop speaking to him.. stop seeing him. make excuses all the time.. tell rhys he made some sly digs at you (not flirting) and that you feel awkward.. anything to stop you seeing him!! How would you like to find out that rhys has been fantasizing about a girl at work.. wishes he could strip her over his car bonnet and take her everywhere!! exactly you wouldnt like it.. and how would you react if he actually did it !!! If you even go any further i think your a selfish cow... you will not only damage and hurt your boyfriend but will also ruin his friendship !! Do the sensible thing !!! sorry for the harsh ness.. but i do think it is needed.. I would hate the similar thing to happen to me from my girlfriend and just thinking about it is making me angry
Author lovestruck234 Posted September 4, 2006 Author Posted September 4, 2006 UPDATE!!! UPDATE!! So....nothing happened.... And I am so glad. Rhys didn't end up going away so he came down to help as well... PLUS, a heap of Dane's mates came down as well and tested out the track...or what's been made of it so far. It was so much fun. I had the best day and I didn't even notice Dane that much. I mean, I did but...not like I was... Me and him went down the road to get hamburgers for lunch and for the other guys....anyway, the topic came up about bf/gf and he said to me that he would never be so low as took do anything with one of his mates gfs. Which was really good to hear cos 1) he's not so much the man-whore I though he was and 2) it's good cos it killed the crush in alot of ways cos it sort of clicked then that nothing would happen between us. He's a cool guy.....but I realised he's not perfect. Lol, damn crushes play with your head!! I see him as a really great friend, one of those friends you can see yourself being friends with for ages... Sure, I still had the curiousity burning inside me of kissing him, and there stilla re alot of things about him that appeal to me sexually, but there's no infatuation like there was. I realised it's just the way he is...knows how to lure girls. That's cool, he can do that all he wants, but I'm so glad I didn't make that mistake. He DID keep saying throughout the day that I'm a heaps good moto rider, I have really nice eyes, all the things he said to me before, and he may well really think that....but I'm pretty damn happy with Rhys that I'm not silly enough to fall for that...I've fallen stupidly like that too many times...never again!! So I would like to thank you all so much for taking the time to give me all your inputs...and all this time you were all seeing what I'm seeing now but I wasn't seeing before...ha!! I love you guys!!! Thanks!!
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