rina_r Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 You know, Gemma, what else I believe in? I believe that if someone truly wants you in their life - they will find a way to get in touch with you, and they WILL call as promised, etc. I kissed a lot of frogs like that. Right not i am dating the most amazing guy in the world. So good luck.
Guest Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 There's no time limit. I just heard from a guy I met in April...it's now September. That's 5 mos. it took for him to call...and I had only met him once. Talk about shocked. I never thought I'd ever hear from him. I blew him off of course. I think this guy will call you, though not sure when though. It could be 2 weeks from now, but he will call. Guys are bizarre creatures. It's really hard to tell what goes through their minds, and their reasons behind things.
Author gemmab2020 Posted September 8, 2006 Author Posted September 8, 2006 They are bizzare! I had thought there for a while that I had started understanding guys but then they just dazzle you all over again and make your mind boggle! Maybe "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" would be a good read.... I just always thought there was a 3 day rule, but I suppose (just like us females) that guys have their own set of independent rules, depending on the occasion! lol!! Thanks for all of your wise words of wisdom. mwahhh!!! x
Poboy Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 most guys would have called by now , no point in waiting for him or his call ... if he is really intrested in you , he would have contacted ... better luck next time
littlekitty Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 Ehhh men! I can't understand why he didn't call. But if you're heading back out on to the dating scene, it's worth noting that this might happen. I've had guys take my number before and never heard from them again... it always knocks you a bit and you wonder why...! But don't spend any time dwelling on it....! Onwards and upwards as they say! The good 'uns are out there... I know... I found one!
Guest Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 I never understood why we women do this. This WAITING nonsense. Just give him the number and make it an afterthought. Invest ZERO in every encounter until something tangible arises. Like, say, AN ACTUAL DATE. Just because someone doesn't call you back posthaste - or ever for that matter - doesn't make them a total tard. They just weren't interested. Would you rather they issue a memorandum on the subject? That's ridiculous.
Mary3 Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 The waiting is Crap. Either pick up the phone and dial , telling him you are having a BBQ.... and don't mention the fact that he never called. Or : Throw this off as another inconsiderate person who no intention of ever calling you back. Waiting 2 weeks and calling you back is BS. I give it 5 days. 7 Days if he started a new job. Period.
Marielle Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I never understood why we women do this. This WAITING nonsense. Just give him the number and make it an afterthought. Invest ZERO in every encounter until something tangible arises. Like, say, AN ACTUAL DATE. Just because someone doesn't call you back posthaste - or ever for that matter - doesn't make them a total tard. They just weren't interested. Would you rather they issue a memorandum on the subject? That's ridiculous. I don't think you where reading this tread ...doesn't make sense to me and sounds judgemental towards some woman: You say maybe "they weren't interested" HELLO! The guy insisted on having her number, flirted, etc..and she gave him her precious number , that I m sure she doesn t give out to everybody. And the guy has the nerve to not call her...at least promptly. He should've call next day, like a real man who knows what he wants and IS NOT AFRAID TO SEEM "NEEDY" because he is not. Sorry I really got into it Gemma, but this kind of things did happen to me in the past once or twice, and I found it very annoying and bizarre...
Guest Posted September 9, 2006 Posted September 9, 2006 I don't think you where reading this tread ...doesn't make sense to me and sounds judgemental towards some woman: You say maybe "they weren't interested" HELLO! The guy insisted on having her number, flirted, etc..and she gave him her precious number , that I m sure she doesn t give out to everybody. And the guy has the nerve to not call her...at least promptly. He should've call next day, like a real man who knows what he wants and IS NOT AFRAID TO SEEM "NEEDY" because he is not. Sorry I really got into it Gemma, but this kind of things did happen to me in the past once or twice, and I found it very annoying and bizarre... I read her posts just fine. Since when was getting a phone number and acting like goofy bint (the man, NOT Gemma) any sign of something serious/indicative of interest? It shouldn't be. If it sounds harsh and judgemental, well, them's the breaks. It just chaps my onions to hear women just get so needlessly bent out of shape (and downright hateful) for no reason. I'm telling you. It's bad for your inner mojo, so don't do it to yourself. I'm just surprised at the amount of time and energy invested in one douchebag who won't call back. Shocking.
Author gemmab2020 Posted September 11, 2006 Author Posted September 11, 2006 So maybe you could shed some light on the topic for all of us.... Why do guys constantly ask for womens numbers and then never call???? Is it a male ego thing?? Is it something they grow out of once they hit retirement age??? I would never even waste my time (or my energy) asking a guy for his number if I had no intentions of calling him...
Guest Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 So maybe you could shed some light on the topic for all of us.... Why do guys constantly ask for womens numbers and then never call???? Is it a male ego thing?? Is it something they grow out of once they hit retirement age??? I would never even waste my time (or my energy) asking a guy for his number if I had no intentions of calling him... Plenty of people ask for email addresses at conferences/work/class/ice cream socials/whatever, in an attempt to establish friendships. Before someone here chimes in with: "But friendships are not the same as relationships." I realize that. But relationships start out as friendships. Or so they should, in theory. Do they actually use them? Hardly. I don't hear from them, even when I wrote them first. However, I am not exactly broken up over it. People move on and so should you. And I know plenty of women who do the same. They're just trying to line their ducks in a row and see where the respondent fits into their plans. Or, they (men and women) are just bloody misguided and think they are being polite. Same as the email exchange tradition. We just do it. It's part of our socialization techniques and etiquette. We don't always (re: almost never) follow-through. It's not an ego thing. To say that implies that he/she is actually thinking that hard over nothing. It's just one of those social burps that we have been mistaught to do. We think we might be into someone but then - after some time - realize that our expectations of a person have changed in retrospect. So we don't call, because it is a closed-end social project. Or, we don't call because we got hit by a lorry on the way to the bloodbank. I dunno. Could happen. Regardless, we're human, and we're retarded that way. That's why I say: don't sweat it. Save your vitriol for worthier targets.
arniebuteft Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 The waiting is Crap. Either pick up the phone and dial , telling him you are having a BBQ.... and don't mention the fact that he never called. No, don't call him up and ask him out, he's got her number and he knows what to do with it. That would just reek of desparation, after a few weeks of his not calling, to ring him up and oh-so-casually invite him out. The guy will think he's king sh*t, if he doesn't already.
Green Posted September 11, 2006 Posted September 11, 2006 I actually have a thread going right now about a girl who won't answer my calls. As for this guy I once or twice got a girls number and never called it and it had nothing to do with being an A-Hole about things it just my situation changed and it was no longer something that I wanted. He may never call you it doesnt mean it was all a big joke to him or he's a jerk it just means who knows what happened he could have met some one else or maybe he lost your number or forgot about it and now hes embaresed to call because he waited so long and he feels like an idiot there is probably an infinite number of posibilities. It sucks that you've wanted him to call and he hasnt but try not to get mad at all men for this, after all I'm going through worse with a girl that for absolutely no reason at all never answers her phone or calls me back.
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