Guest Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 1st off my sitch My son broke up with his GF of 4 years due to her messing around (of course she denies it) that was in may...THEN on june 16th my husband says he wants a divorce and leaves...they had been talking online after son broke up with her i come to find out..he then is hanging with her all the time takes her out *as friends* he says...well we are still having sex up until first part of august...he gets caught sleeping with her and is now living with her and her parents...(there is grandkids involved) and I am almost 2 months pregnant. My question is this how long does this rebound other woman normally last...and what can i do to get him back???????????????????? he has not mentioned the divorce for a long time now once in a blue moon throws it in my face...I try to be nice and blah barf vomit but what can i do to get him back????
Tony T Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 Are you saying that your husband started seeing your son's ex??? Now, DUH! Why in heaven's name would you want this scumbag back? You're a pregnant lady...and children need stable, responsible fathers who will give them a decent home. Obviously, your estranged husband is incapable of that. Get a good lawyer...for you and for your unborn child.
lovernotafighter Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 being the OW I can tell you if my MM didn't struggle with leaving his marriage because of his son I would think he was a real sh*t. also if he acted a venomous as your husband seems to be by throwing things in your face I wouldn't want to even be his friend..I hate that I'm in a A however I am still in love with a half way decent human being ( negitive affair factor I know) your Husband is acting like a real assh*le..do you want him back seriously? check out the 180 tactics on surviving infidelity then..they seem to work for the BS's on the site. best of luck to you and your children
consternation Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 I don't understand why you got pregnant AFTER your husband ran off with your son's gf.
Last Mohegan Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 This doesn't sound real for some reason.... 1st off my sitch My son broke up with his GF of 4 years due to her messing around (of course she denies it) that was in may...THEN on june 16th my husband says he wants a divorce and leaves...they had been talking online after son broke up with her i come to find out..he then is hanging with her all the time takes her out *as friends* he says...well we are still having sex up until first part of august...he gets caught sleeping with her and is now living with her and her parents...(there is grandkids involved) and I am almost 2 months pregnant. My question is this how long does this rebound other woman normally last...and what can i do to get him back???????????????????? he has not mentioned the divorce for a long time now once in a blue moon throws it in my face...I try to be nice and blah barf vomit but what can i do to get him back????
stillhere Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 I'm having a hard time believing this, not that i'm saying you're lying. What kind of parents does this girl have? And how old is she? I say get out while the getting is good. Your H sounds like a real loser, and how dare he do that to his own son and W. If i was you, i would not take him back. I'm an OW as well, but my MM would never stoop to such a level. If i was in this same situation, nothing would have ever happened between the two of us, and i guarantee that my parents would never allow him to move in. They would probably disown me if i had pulled a stunt like this. Good luck to you, cuz you're going to need it.
Roo Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Seriously... he's dating your son's cheating ex??? Divorce him, and find a real man... I am so so sorry but that is beyond low and he clearly has not only no respect for you but none for your family or your children.. GET OUT!!
Pink Amulet Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Please don't doubt or question the credibilty of this post... If you have nothing else to say- don't respond. Guest- It sounds like your self-esteem is at an all time low. Being pregnant I am sure your maternal instincts are telling you to be with the father but you must divorce this man. (The fact that you are pregnant again leaves me to wonder) How old is your sons ex-girlfriend!? Wow- I am in shock. I really thought these horrible situations only happened on Jerry Springer! Is there a local counsellor you can speak to?
travellingman Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 what can i do to get him back???? write a reconciliation into the next chapter of your story
Pink Amulet Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 get an abortion. seriously. That is really tacky advice. Please avoid advising people so thoughtlessly next time.
Guest Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 I'm having a hard time believing this, not that i'm saying you're lying. What kind of parents does this girl have? And how old is she? I say get out while the getting is good. Your H sounds like a real loser, and how dare he do that to his own son and W. If i was you, i would not take him back. I'm an OW as well, but my MM would never stoop to such a level. If i was in this same situation, nothing would have ever happened between the two of us, and i guarantee that my parents would never allow him to move in. They would probably disown me if i had pulled a stunt like this. Good luck to you, cuz you're going to need it. I know it does not seem real and YES he is dating my sons ex..its his step son..and dummy me had sex with him...believing his BS at that...she is 21 hubby is 30 Im 38..her parents say * we are staying out of it* yet they are allowing him to live there now as of tonight i told him i am done with the drama you want her you can have her..he wont stop calling now and i am not answering him.. I feel like im in some hellish soap opera and If he wants to be part of the childs life then he has to grow up pull his head out of his ass or just go away..his father is backing me 100% and is p*ssed off at him as he has changed in the last 2 months to someone know one knows...HOWEVER i find out she is already doing her crap she did with my son to him (hubby) controlling, jealous, pouting bawling and having an online affair at this..I will sit back and watch the fireworks...but not allowing him to step on me anymore..If he wants that Hoochie let him have her..and hope he gets checked when she is done with him... People hear my sitch and say no way but yes way i have to live in this bs everyday and try to move past the crap...I NEVER and i mean NEVER in my wildest dream imagined he or she would sh*t on this family like this..boils down to immature, selfish, childish crap... thanks all!!
MissSenorita Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Tacky yet true She has less than 9 months to prevent 18+ years of responsibility
Guest Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 get an abortion. seriously. that was cold..Sorry not my style to end a life to person who mentioned counciling..yes i have 2 different ones now as of today..I being pregnant ya emotions are at a all time high and self esteem is low..BUT will work toward it to get past this garbage
BohemeRose Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Tacky yet true She has less than 9 months to prevent 18+ years of responsibility She's already raised one child. She knows what she's in for as far as that goes. This post was not to question what she should do about the pregnancy, but about her estranged husband. Don't be so thoughtless and insensitive. For all you know, she's pro-life (or simply against abortion, if the "pro life" term makes you squirm) and you've offended her deeply. ___________________________________________ As for the situation...I'm not sure inviting such a man back into your life is such a hot idea. He evidently doesn't care much for your feelings, or those of your SON. Men hurt their wives all the time with cheating, but something about hurting their own flesh and blood really, really crosses the line. Not only that, but if he's willing to leach onto the life of a much younger girl like that, moving in with her family and whatnot, that suggests to me that he doesn't have the maturity or mental stability to be the man you need him to be while you raise yet another child. And whose to say he'll give a hoot about this baby? It seems he hasn't been so loving to you and your son. I understand wanting someone there because of your delicate situation, but hell, you don't need someone like that. Good luck with everything.
Adunaphel Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 My question is this how long does this rebound other woman normally last...and what can i do to get him back???????????????????? First you should be asking yourself if you really want him back. Your post left me speechless, I'm sorry that you are in such a situation. Please do not run after him after he has disrespected you this way, I think you are too scared of losing him to realize what a kind of person he has proved himself to be. You should be the one wanting a divorce. I do truly hope you will soon be glad that *he* asked for it. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck.
BUTAFLY Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 So was the girlfriend of 4yrs doin' your husband the whole time? SCANDALOUS! I'm not going to call this thread bogus yet, only 'cause my xwbf/xmm married a 33yr old who has a 20 yr old daughter(another case of kids having kids). But to answer your question- How do you get him back? Well he seems to be a pretty simple minded person so...just call him and tell him to come home
Guest Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 So was the girlfriend of 4yrs doin' your husband the whole time? SCANDALOUS! I'm not going to call this thread bogus yet, only 'cause my xwbf/xmm married a 33yr old who has a 20 yr old daughter(another case of kids having kids). But to answer your question- How do you get him back? Well he seems to be a pretty simple minded person so...just call him and tell him to come home Ya dont feel bad..no from what we gather no BUT before he left me on june 16th he tells me he has some feelings for her..then when they got caught at the bar he tried to tell me it wasa coinecidence..ya my big fat tushy...He also told my best friend of 14 years (he has known her about 7 years now) that he had oral sex with her in his dads room while his dad was gone and her kids (grandkids) sitting on sofa! THEN he denies it..i believe it..He tried to get me to be friends with her and i would have to DEAL with his friendship allll the while they are having this flirty crap in front of the kids and me. I told him do I look like i have stupid written on my forhead and he turned around said HAD i not pushed him about him being her friend this would not happen..I laughed so hard! WELL today we had an appt with the pregnancy center to talk about the baby and he refused to go as he thought it was COUNCILING...so i was upset went to talk to hi dad about it and his dad thinks he is being a complete ass about it all...Hubby was taking kids with the OW out and the kids were upset bawling about it...his dad ripped him in front of her today and last week...he told his dad today that he is trying to adjust to the new family arrangment since he moved in with her and her parents..Her dad is making him work his ass off around their home and the OW is telling him what to do..control freak...one thing we all have said is that he will get sick of that soon as he does not like being told how to do things or what to do.. What pi**es me off the most is here i am pregnant with his first kid ( my kids are his step kids btw sorry some of you got confused on that) he was soooooo close to my son to and now that friendship is shot...you DONT do that to people ya know? Anyway The ow wants son to give up his rights to the kids so Hubby can replace him..granddaughter age 6 told us this two days ago BUT hubby told his dad there is no way in hell i will be those kids daddy ever he would not do that to thier dad..ON TOP OF THIS the OW asked her daughter do you want pappa and i to get married the little one tells her if you do im running to daddys house and not coming back. That is my grandpa! Son told her he will fight for custody if that is what it takes ..it is a big mess due to these two selfish immature people doing this. She sent me a NASTYYYY email about how i hope the baby does not suffer due to my bullsh*t and to leave HER man alone blah barf all that... His dad and everyone is telling me to no longer call he wants to know how im doing and the baby or the kids he will call...(he is helping raise neice and nephew seeing them on thursday) Let him sink he will find out how she is and his dad said he is overly curious and when you dont call him he will call you for sure. I said ya that is true...Be the better picture...He told his dad i just want to have fun that the OW tells him oh i love you sooo much but told his dad that he loves her a lil but not like she loves him and does not want to get married to her ever..No one sees it lasting as she is already telling him you need to do this that dont forget this that..and told him she is a dead bitch if she does not back off...they are already having lil tiffs over the kids baby..her telling him what to do and they have not been a *couple for a month yet... SOOO im backing be sweet as pie and i have told him whent he appt is if he forgets it OH WELL im not his mommy ..he got upset with me because i did not call him to remind him of the last one..WELL i told him you should have wrote it down you get p*ssed if i call *to much* he had nothing to say to that... anyway trying to focus on moving forward if he comes back he does if he dont he dont..i have to worry about this baby and my health along with the kids...Its like most people are saying sooner or later he will wake up and see her for the real person he is then he will think oh sh*t what have i done...I will act as if i dont give a sh*t....He tried to start a fight with me over school supplies for my neice saying you seemed pissed cause OW and i got um I said well neice was upset because you told her you and i would get them but you know what i could give a flying **** less if you and her got um..tell her i said thanks ( did this 2 times already and she got PISSED cause i said it) not letting her rule my life NOR him... one day karma will bite him in the balls and when that happens im going to laugh
stillhere Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 WOW! There is something wrong with that man. And your son has children with her? OMG! What is wrong with that man? I am so appalled, i'm having trouble wrapping my brain around this! You are so much better off without him. I know it's easy for me to say this, but he has some serious issues. Issues that will never go away! Issues that are beyond your control. She needs her head checked as well. How could she do this to her children? My god, they see him as grandpa. Grandpa daddy, that has a real ring to it! Think of this child you are carrying, and of yourself. This is way too much stress for someone in your condition to be dealing with. Do your best not to concentrate on him. He's made his bed, let him lie in it and realize that the grass is not always greener on the other side. But think long and hard before you take him back. And if i were you, i would get tested for everything possible before you sleep with him again. You have another life to worry about.
BUTAFLY Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Wow, you get a prize for deciphering that post . I'm with consternation on this one.
BenThereDunThat Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Wow, you get a prize for deciphering that post . I'm with consternation on this one. Butafly, you made me laugh out loud twice this morning. Thanks!
Guest Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Wow, you get a prize for deciphering that post . I'm with consternation on this one. made me giggle to... lord knows i need a good laugh anyway last night he dropped off the school supplies for the kids..and tried flirting hardcore caught him 6 times checking me out...I thought ya go ahead check me out you jerk...cause guess what you are NOT getting this again...his dad told me he was complaining that the OW was not *kinky* like iw as and that he misses that with me..well WHOOOOOOPIE DOO his dad told him you made your bed lie in it...Had to laugh though cause he told me that he was out to find some fun blh barf vomit...and the greener pasture is now showing brown spots... I agree with you also he does have issues and your not the first to tell me this.. To me its SICK what he and she both have done and i cant wait till karma takes a big huge bite out of them...
stillhere Posted August 30, 2006 Posted August 30, 2006 Wow, you get a prize for deciphering that post . I'm with consternation on this one. Oh goody............what do i get?
Guest Posted August 31, 2006 Posted August 31, 2006 Oh goody............what do i get? LOL dont worry you wont win my husband thats the booby prize!
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