pinkFirm Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 Okay Tell me if this is right. I have dated my bf for about 4 yrs already and we have been together for the past two consecutive years. But he hasnt really introduced me to his family. One time that i dropped him off at his brothers bar-b que -- he came back and told me "my brothers want to meet you" But they were a bunch of older men only outside. But i was embarrased especially bc there were not other females around, so i said "no, im embarrassed" Then a year later, he invites me to a family cook-out. Something that i get ready everyday just incase. Well that day he invited me I was going through some problems at my house and i was feeling depressed and i did not want to go anywhere. So i didnt go. Well we have been seeing eachother for about 4 yrs and he has only made two attempts to hang with his family. Well when i have gone over to pick him up or watch tv his mom will tell me Hi! But thats about it and all his family know that he has a gf but they have not personally met me. They have seen me from a distance only. I think my bf may be embarrased about me but i dont see why -- im not an ugly girl-- i am a nice quite girl who drives a nice jeep and goes to college every semester including summer sessions. My EX-bf loved to show me off to his friends.... uhg, so whats the problem here?
tikigods Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 Well he has invited you, twice now, and each time you come up with a reason not to go. He might have gotten the idea that you have no interest in meeting his family based on these actions and has stopped inviting you places with them.
Author pinkFirm Posted August 27, 2006 Author Posted August 27, 2006 Yeah you're right but the first time i was not dressed appropiately bc i had been cleaning all day, so i happened to drive him over. The second time was unexpected and there has been many more opportunites that have come accross and he hasnt made an effort to invite again and now im beginning to wonder. However, i have confronted him about it why hasnt he taken my to hang with his family on holidays and he just ignores the question. That seems kinda fishy and i even told him that if he isnt serious about me -- he should just tell me now instead of wasting my time. I have dated some guys that on the first week, they have been like come meet my family, let's go here with my mom, come gambeling with my family, etc. Now, this BF of 4yrs come on-- two invites in 4 yrs that ive known him... Fishy. huh?
serial muse Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 have you thought about setting up an event yourself? after 4 years together i think it's totally okay if you take the initiative with that. it sounds like lots of his family live nearby (do yours, too? and has he already met them?) so it would be fairly easy to arrange. maybe you could arrange a bbq or brunch or something at your place and invite them?
Author pinkFirm Posted August 27, 2006 Author Posted August 27, 2006 You know thats a good idea... i should be getting my own place this week and maybe i will arrange a bbq or dinner. And yes he has met all my family and i keep wondering "uhmm its your turn now."
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