sassiex Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 my mm has been onholiday with his wife a 3 kids and i ahve missed him so much ,ive had n/c since he left two weeks ago! i have had a couple of text messages one saying miss u lotsxxxxxxxxx other one thinking of you xxxxx i some how feelthis is not enough am i being silly??? we have been together almost a year now !!! now im in a panic cause hes back either today or tomorrow!! and i hate waiting for him to call ! are these feelings normal??? :( :(
superconductor Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 If you're involved with a MM, be extremely careful about sending messages. OWs have a tendency to be snoopy.
whichwayisup Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 i some how feelthis is not enough am i being silly??? No, actually you're being realistic and noticing that YOU are selling yourself short by continuing a relationship with a MM. You're missing the full benefits of being in a relationship because he has a wife, and has children. He has his life built already, and even though he may have deep feelings for you, he more than likely isn't going to leave his wife... Maybe it's time for you to figure out that what he is doing isn't fair to you. Yes, you're allowing the affair to continue, but you'll only have him on HIS terms, when he is available to you. Holidays, birthday's, Christmas, Thanksgiving, all those times you want him to be with you, he'll always be with his family. Don't you feel you deserve more from a man? To be with someone who will meet ALL your needs and be there just for you?
Author sassiex Posted August 28, 2006 Author Posted August 28, 2006 No, actually you're being realistic and noticing that YOU are selling yourself short by continuing a relationship with a MM. You're missing the full benefits of being in a relationship because he has a wife, and has children. He has his life built already, and even though he may have deep feelings for you, he more than likely isn't going to leave his wife... Maybe it's time for you to figure out that what he is doing isn't fair to you. Yes, you're allowing the affair to continue, but you'll only have him on HIS terms, when he is available to you. Holidays, birthday's, Christmas, Thanksgiving, all those times you want him to be with you, he'll always be with his family. Don't you feel you deserve more from a man? To be with someone who will meet ALL your needs and be there just for you? do you know what , your right!! so right it brought tears to my eyes!!! its time to tell him how he makes me feel, then the rest is up 2 him!! i cannot handle this relationship[i use this term lightly] anymore !! i am better than this !!! watch this space x wish me luck !!!
whichwayisup Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 I'm glad I opened your eyes, but sorry I brought you to tears... It is a reality check though...And I really hope you DO end it with him. You need to get on with your life (when you're ready ofcourse) without him in it because I believe you don't wanna stay the OW forever...
LittleWingedOne Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Its so sad to read these posts sometimes. I mean, I know what it's like to be in love so much, but a lot of the women here (and I do notice it's mostly women) stay in relationships that aren't possible and spend most of their time worrying about when they will talk to the man next and so on.... I couldn't imagine spending most of a relationship unsure and waiting. When Im with a man I love, I want to hold hands and kiss in public and not worry about looking over my shoulder. I'm not saying you or the other women are stupid because you can never control who you fall in love with... but I do wish for you (and all the others involved with someone married) a love that you can scream about from every rooftop, because that is the most beautiful joy in life. My mother always says if it's meant to be, it will be. And if most of a relationship is pain... then it's probably not meant to be. Good luck with figuring out what YOU really want. Don't be waiting for a man who is too much of a coward to follow his heart. You deserve someone who will put you first and take you on holidays and spend his nights cuddling with YOU in bed. Good luck, again
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