trulycute Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 what if u were dating a guy seriously for a while and he seemed to really enjoy sex at the beginning after waiting a couple of months but didn't really like to perform oral sex on the woman (hardly ever did it)and didn't even like to french kiss?....didn't like doggy style either....but he loved oral sex performed on him though with no hesitations, then after a while he stops wanting to have sex and then the relationship ends... he tells the woman he's deeply physically, sexually, and mentally attracted to her,....but.... could he be gay?....could he just have sexual issues?....over bearing mommy issues?.. i'd love to hear everyones opinions.....serious ones though please....thanks
superconductor Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 Oh jeez, who knows? There are countless reasons why this might happen. Could be mommy issues, could be homosexual issues (though, frankly, that seems a bit unlikely), could be he met someone else, could be that he's on some medication which suppressed his sex drive, could be that he's stressed at work or financially, or maybe the initial attraction just faded... (After seeing your pic, I find that a little hard to believe, but hey, ya never know...) There are just so many variables that it's impossible to give a reasoned response from a distance.
whichwayisup Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 he tells the woman he's deeply physically, sexually, and mentally attracted to her,....but.... Probably means he wasn't inlove....
sad-in-seattle Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 Man! What are the deal w/these guys? The same situation happened to me as well. He enjoyed sex at the start of the relationship. I don't like oral so I never ask (don't know in that department). His sex drive slowly lessened and now it pretty much dissapeared. He does ask for oral though! He said the same thing - he is attracted to me and all that. But he never has a reason for why is sex drive is so low. He said he's just not that sexual of a person. I was thinking the same thing? Could he be gay? I catch my man watching internet porn and doing "his thing" to it though... LAME! Have you talked to him about it? If this may have happened in past relationships?
superconductor Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 What is it with guys who won't do oral? Gawd... I just love it! I could spend all day enjoying that and pleasuring my partner. Nothing's more of a turn-on than driving a woman to ecstacy like that. I just don't get why some guys aren't into it.
westernxer Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 Oral is another form of eating... does he enjoy food in general?
alphamale Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 no, he just likes to get oral from a variety of women...
whichwayisup Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 What is it with guys who won't do oral? Gawd... I just love it! I could spend all day enjoying that and pleasuring my partner. Nothing's more of a turn-on than driving a woman to ecstacy like that. I just don't get why some guys aren't into it. Can you tell my husband this? I could spend all day enjoying that and pleasuring my partner. Lucky Duck!
Author trulycute Posted August 27, 2006 Author Posted August 27, 2006 yes his partner would be a lucky duck....i think its perfectly healthy and normal to want to pleasure your partner.....we all deserve that!!...
superconductor Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 yes his partner would be a lucky duck Alas, I'm without a partner right now, and not looking either. Unless, of course, you're available...
pinkFirm Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Maybe he is seeing someone else... I had experienced something similar. My EX-bf just completely ended the whole sex thing but kept calling me telling me that he still liked me as a gf. But the SEX wasnt there, but ofcourse he would ask for oral. I was like "yeah i dont think so.. you dont deserve it." Unfortunately, i caught him at the convienient store with his new beautiful blonde GF that he had been with for 3 months. Ofcourse i confronted both of them and Karma struck back on him. She cheated on him a few months later. ha.
LaraV Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Wow. I had the same issue. I was together with someone for about a year and I always basically had to be "begging" for sex. We never made out; he rarely kissed me, etc. And no, I'm not ugly. I'm rather pretty and I've been told by plenty of exes that I'm great in bed. Sigh. I hope that guy was just gay...
LaraV Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 OK, I'm reviving this thread because I found myself in a similar predicament as the OP and it drove me crazy the entire relationship. What makes a man not want to have sex that often, or even make out, with his very attractive girlfriend? It just doesn't make sense to me!
virtualkat Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 i sooooooooooooo feel your frustration!! my boyfriend and i spent a year and a half calling ourselves 'friends' but were secret lovers behind closed doors. i thought the sex was great, we clearly couldn't keep our hands off each other even though neither of us wanted a real relationship. we are committed now, have been living together for nearly two years but our sex life is mostly pathetic. we've had countless conversations about how rejected i feel all of the time, to the point where i'm scared to even try anything with him cuz i just can't bear to be rejected anymore. that said - he fully expects oral sex, and *very* rarely reciprocates. we're talking once a month if i'm lucky. i know i'm attractive, guys hit on me all the time - it's all i can do not to cheat on him... it sounds horrible, and i'm sure i would never do it, but come ON. i've told him flat out that i'm not a blow up doll that is here for his enjoyment, and that he needs to figure out what his deal is because i'm on oral sex strike and until he starts treating me the way he wants to be treated, he's gonna be one lonely man. i just don't get it - he admits that he knows it's wrong that i satisfy him and he rolls over and falls asleep. he says he knows he shouldn't let me do that for him if he knows he's not gonna do anything for me - but this has been going on for over a year. i sometimes worry that he's gay, or that he's cheating - but i honestly don't think either are the case. he says that he loves me and i'm his best friend and that passion was just never part of the equation but i was there, yes it was. he's mentioned a couple of times that he isn't as attracted to me when i'm less active, but i've never been a terribly active person so i don't know where that's coming from. i quit smoking a year ago and put on a few pounds, but i'm still nowhere near obese... hopefully he'll figure it out, and then i can share the big mystery and maybe it'll help some of you.
alphamale Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 because i'm on oral sex strike so are you going to make a placard and walk in circles on the front lawn? that could be sorta embarassing.
LaraV Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 Thanks for sharing with me Virtual. Yeah, I just don't know what is up with this guy. Honestly, I give up in trying to figure him out.
virtualkat Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 so are you going to make a placard and walk in circles on the front lawn? that could be sorta embarassing. brilliant! i might just do that
HopefulOne Posted September 1, 2006 Posted September 1, 2006 What is it with guys who won't do oral? Gawd... I just love it! I could spend all day enjoying that and pleasuring my partner. Nothing's more of a turn-on than driving a woman to ecstacy like that. I just don't get why some guys aren't into it. I read this and thought of my boyfriend... He says the same thing and I am very thankful that he feels that way... we still can't keep our hands off each other and I hope that feeling doesn't go away... I feel bad for those of you in these relationships mentioned... We all want to feel wanted and attractive and we should all be with someone who we feel that way about and who feel that way about us...
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