hbd1981 Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 I need some help de-coding my ex's odd behavior. Well, first of all, a little background on the situation: My ex and I broke up 2 months ago. I techinically initated it, but it was very mutual. He virtually ignored me the last month of our relationship, and I felt very neglected. He knows what he did. Anyway, we were both unhappy. We said we'd remain friends, but definitely didn't follow through. We went our separate ways, but with no hard feelings. We're still friends on myspace (yes, the DREADED myspace!), even though we don't talk. I'm so proud of myself...I don't check his page at all (I know it would torture me). I want to actually remove him from my friends list, but don't want to seem bitter. I WANT him to see that I'm living it up (the pics from myspace prove it...haha). A little passive-aggressive? Sure, but I want him to get the message that I am doing well. Ok, now about his odd behavior. He posts those surveys on myspace bulletins, and he posts little jerky remarks...for instance, one of the questions was, "Do you miss your ex?" and his reply was, "NOPE!". I have also remained friends with his friend, and she told me he complains to her that he is jealous that we hang out "all the time" (we hung out TWICE since we broke up) and he has made bitchy comments about our friendship. It gets me angry. I can be friends with whomever I want, but I am trying to stay away from her b/c I know where her loyalty is (they have been friends a long time) and I am trying to keep the peace and stay away from the drama (they're a very dramatic bunch). I know this all sounds ridiculous (hey, at least I can admit it, right?) and childish...but I am trying to understand why he is doing what he is doing. He seems a little bitter. What I especially don't get is why he seems angry at me when HE'S the one who was jerky in the relationship. I wanted it to work out. Is it because it seems as though I have "moved on" (I haven't...but I pretend well!)?? Is NC really that powerful?? Some insight would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
bluegal79 Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 He does sound immature! I think he posts those bulletins because he knows you are going to see them. He must see you are living it up, so he wants to do something to bring you down or remind you or him. Maybe he thinks you will call him and ask him if he really doesn't miss you at all. I would suggest removing him from your friends list so he can't see what you are up to.
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