Guest Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 I had a very brief relationship that just ended. I fell hard for the guy, we'll call him j. Anyway, twice he's been involved with other women and all he talks about is his ex. I know it's not good for me and was sort of a mutual breakup, but we're living together because he's down and out right now. Yes, I feel used but also I'm extremely hurt because he's now having an affair with the woman across the street. Before he and I got into a relationship we were like best friends and I told him I'd always be his friend no matter what. I don't think I have the strenght to cut him out of my life completely. I think I love him, but I don't think he loves me. I did no contact before when he wasn't staying with me but now it's impossible with him living on my couch. I know I sound like an idiot, but I needed to vent, and I was wondering if I could get some feedback?
whichwayisup Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 Your frame of mind now is saying you'll always be his friend, but once your heart closes to him and you start getting ANGRY for the way he was with you, you WILL see him in a whole new light. That will change your views on being his friend. A friend is someone who doesn't hurt you. A friend you can trust and know they'll always have your back. This man has hurt you, lied to you and disrespected you. WHY on earth would you want a person like that in your life??? Take some time for you! Let your heart heal through this and exclude him from your life. Go into NC (No contact) mode with him. No calls, emails or seeing him. Don't go out with him, talk to him, NOTHING. It's the only way you can look after yourself. he has other friends so tell him to go somewhere else. He is taking advantage of you! Big time!
Recommended Posts