vlhs004 Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Ok me and my girlfriend broke up about 4 months ago and we were together for about 2 years. . . . when we broke up it wasnt a typical breakup . . . she told me she knows we are going to end up getting married and she knows we will end up together in the end and she needs to go out and date other people to see what she really wants and make sure we are right for each other. The next night she was at another guys house with some friends . . she had knew the guy for about a month but they were just acquaintances really. . . but anyways they "messed around" with each other about a week and a half after the breakup and she said they are dating . .. i dont understand how you can get with someone else that soon when we had a very strong loving and intimate relationship. we talked about the first 2 and a half months after we broke up about once a week and she would constantly ask if i was dating anyone or done wnything with anyone else. . . i did try to get her back that entire time. she called me crying a few times saying she needed someone to talk to . . .and just a little sidenote . . .the guy she is dating is someone i went to hs with and she knew b4 she started dating him that i couldnt stand him . . .and we also live in the same town and know the same people (small town) and i have to hear about it everyday.. .. . but anyways i havent talked to her for about 1 and a half months and shes tried to contact me about 5 or 6 times . . ..leaving me texts, voice mails, emails . . claiming she just wants to see how im doing and ive made it clear that i cant be friends with her that it is to hard for me to know shes with someone i hate and have no respect for.. . . . so i guess im just trying to get some advice from some women on what she might be thinking or if you guys just think this is a rebound relationship. . they have been together for about 4 months now. .. .and she has admitted to me that she hates to be alone and didnt deny the fact that she only got with him in the first place because he was there! . . .so i just need some advice on what the women think . .. even though i dont think i could ever take her back i still care for her and dont want to see her with someone like him. shes also told him a couple times that she misses me and misses talking to me!!. . as u can probobly tell im not over her yet and ive decided not to go for a rebound because i have always heard it is better to let your heart heal naturally. .. .but whenever i would talk to her after the breakup its almost like she wouldnt face it and wouldnt show any emotion and would avoid talking about it . . she also just texted me 4 days ago and it said "wow thanks for being there for me" i didnt respond . . .but dont u think she should be going to the new guy if she needs someone to be there for her? . . and why do u think she keeps trying to contact me if shes happy with him . . . and i also talked to a mutual friend and he said when he sees her out at partys and someone mentions her new guy . .. she looks ashamed or embarrased by it . . . so what do u think about this big mess?
KarlCox Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 dont want to sound rude but the breakup seems pretty typical to me. how frequent you hear breakups on this forum that "we know we would get married but i just want to try it out to make sure"? in addition, also finished up with "this ain't the typical breakup" it appears to me that you guys are sorta young... throughout the time you guys last she had a great crush on you... while it lasted the relationship stay strong.... many people fail to keep the spark going.... infact it is rather hard to do so... eventually it will start to fadeout... it doesn't mean she doesn't like you; however, when it starts to fade, she starts to look for other poeple... you said she dated that quickly after the breakup... and you were wondering how come she can forget you so quickly... probably within months prior to breakup .. she already develope interest on the other guy... and she already lost interest in you... no longer like you the same way as she used to... except that she wasn't sure that she should breakup with you or not.... now she did.. and date that guy within a week or 2... (she probably wanted to hookup with him awhile back when you guys were still dating)... you probably didnt see that coming.... goodluck... we are all typical people... very few people make the exception of the rule... so sometimes try to fix things using typical ways.. instead of making yourself believe that your relationship is special and try differently.... otherwise people wont logon to the forum if everyone is an exception... No contact for instance is a very typical way to fix a typical relationship... goodluck..
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