What does this mean?

[Foundinluvagain86]

First off I would like to start off with my name and my "partner" name, I'm John and the person i'm gonna be talking about is Jasmine. Me and Jasmine is engaged but lately things seem like they have been going down hill... i'm 19 soon to be 20 and she is 17, I know the age diffrence but have you ever met someone who was older then they were? Well Me and Jasmine first really started out being "sex buddies" then things elevated from there. She wanted to date me and I would say no because I didn't want a repeat of a past relationship with a certain girl named Kalena who I use to be in love with. After a month or 2 of me saying "No" she told me something and then I decided. She said either you date me or i'm done having any sexual and public relations with you. Well later that night I asked her out and I said "if we do this promise me that I will not get hurt again" well the reason I said this because I gave up on dating but I liked her and soon came to love her but I kept it inside. Months later we became engaged, every night we use to sleep next to each other, almost every day we had sex, we were always together. Well my problem with her started once I started to date her, she is into Smoking cigg's and marijuana and that bothers me. Many times I asked her to stop and she said she would and many time she lied and continued. We started arguing all the time and made up all the time, we were so close, I mean close. I lost some friends and family over her and she did the same, I mean I love her with all that I am but whats happening is she decided to take a break. She told me that this break would be for 2 weeks, she needed to get an outside view of our relationship. She told me she felt crowded by not only me but her family too. She wants to fix her flaws in that 2 week period *meaning stop smoking, lieing, fighting* and etc. She said it's a Guarantee that we will be back together after the break, I can still call her and see her but no kissing or any of the sort until the break is over. When she told me I cried and asked all the questions but she wiped my tears away and told me she loved me and that this break would be to fix things between us so we can last cause if we didnt take it most likely things would fail. She told me and gave me her promise and her word that she will not be with no one else and she will not have sex with no one else. She told me when she comes back everything will be like they were when we first fell in love + better. I cried some more then I asked "what if a guy ask you about the ring on your finger?" Or "what if a guy hits on you?" She said she will say "The ring is from the love of my life" and if a guy hits on her she would say "Im good and that she is in love"

 

What am I suppose to do? can I believe this or is she really saying she wants better and that im not good? Is she really trying to work on things because she loves me?

 

The same day she decided to take a break I took her to work and she Kissed me when I was crying and said " I promise i'll see you later " and most important she said "I love you"

 

I believe her but this space from each other will be hard... I promised myself I wouldn't fall in love again and all that but then she came into my life and once again I feel the pain.. I want this to work and be like it was before all this. What should I do and what do you thing our "break" means?

[missdeathwish]

Well, I'd say it means that she wants 2 weeks to think about things. She knows her flaws and she has a plan for overcoming them. It's not like (from what I can tell) that she wants to date other people, or never see you again. It seems like she honestly wants to spend a couple of weeks away from you. Setting boundaries is healthy in a relationship, especially if you're planning on spending the rest of your life together. I would say that you should tell her that you'll miss her, but that you're okay taking two weeks apart. Taking sex and lust out of the equation is probably a good test of your relationship. A wise thing to do before you get married... do you love each other enough that your relationship can survive/flourish without the physical involvement, at least for a short period of time? Life might make it so you can't be together all of the time, or always be able to be sexually active with one another (yes, including kissing). The most important thing this 2 week period will show you is whether you care enough about her that you can put her needs ahead of your own. It is hard, yes. But it's an essential skill to have. Good luck to you.