Stunner Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Ok, my boyfriend and I love each other...I can see it in him, he eludes to this by the weight of his words and strong compliments. We spoke this week about him relocating, not far, but to a place that both of us belong and want to be...we are both outdoors/nature people. So he comments again how much he wants to move from the city and mentions where he wants to buy and move...then says, "Who knows, if things are going well with us in a year we could all be living in ***** together." He was dead serious too. Luckily, the conversation was over the phone and he couldn't see me beaming at the thought but I made sure to articulate that I thought that would be wonderful if that were to happen. Last night he I mentioned one of my good friends is going to propose to his girlfriend and how happy I am for him...blah blah...He chimes in with he'll only get married again if it is to his best friend. Then he looks me in the eyes and asks me, "Will you be my best friend?" and smiled. Of course, I took his face in my hands and said yes, then proceeded to melt onto the floor. THEN, he follows up with, "I've never enjoyed anyone's company as I do yours." We have been dating for two months now and have spoken with each other daily since we met. I feel we are very close and if such a thing as soul mates exists, he must be mine. Next weekend I am kidnapping him and taking him to a undisclosed place overnight. I really want to tell him how I feel....but I'm afraid. I feel that he is on the same page with me but how do I tell him without the "obligatory" I love you in return. I want to take the leap, I think but don't want him to say it just because I did... Should I hold off a little longer or burst out with it???? It's almost more than I can contain anymore!!!
alphamale Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 sorry to burst your bubble but its impossible to love someone after only two months unless its your newborn infant.
Author Stunner Posted August 25, 2006 Author Posted August 25, 2006 No worries I'm too old to have my bubble burst. No spring chicken here. Just self aware. I know it is impossible to know everything about a person in two months to say you love the total package but I do believe one can be in love with someone or be falling in love with someone sooner than the textbook six months to a year. I don't feel time lines are reasonable as every person is a unique individual. Each coupling can't be tossed into a generality. I won't explain in detail as no one needs to read my novel and I don't need to validate my feelings to anyone not in my relationship...that is pretty much impossible and a waste of everyone else's eyeball energy. Regardless, I appreciate your response. BTW, I am mother to four children and I loved them from the moment I knew of their being. Hopefully, THAT isn't seen as unreasonable...hahaha
whichwayisup Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Maybe go a different route here...Instead of saying I love you, say things like, I love how you make me feel when I'm with you. I appreciate you so much and I'm lucky you're in my life....Lead up to it. I'm sure he's feeling alot of feelings for you too but after 2 months it's very soon to say the I LOVE YOU's. The way I look at it, if you have to stop and think about it, then it's too early.
Sally00 Posted August 27, 2006 Posted August 27, 2006 How long have you known this guy before you were dating? And you've only been together for 2 months? I've been friends with my bf for over a year before we started dating. Maybe about a month into our relationship, he told me he had fallen in love with me. He said he's loved me ever since he saw the picture of me (before we met). This was like Sept.-Oct. of 2004. And now we've been dating for 7 months. Honestly, you should wait till HE says I love you. I think he's waiting for the right moment.... and waiting a little longer to do so. Afterall, it's only been 2 months. Don't rush everything.
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