finalf72 Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 formula for happiness. .01) im writing this because of all the sadness posts here. i hate to see ppl so sad. 0) dont sit around thinking "how do i be happy" do something fun and dont think about it. thinking about how to be happy means u are sad. and always thinking about how to be happy will make u always sad. put ur thoughts to the side, and play a videogame or buy lemonade and chips and rent V for Vendetta. 1) ur sadness now, in the broad spectrum of things, really wont affect u alot at all 2)look to the future 3) yesterday is history. tomorow is a mystery. today is a gift, thats why its called the present 4) sadness is a behavior. and ur behavior is totally up to you. no one made u sad, u made u sad. 5) dont let ppl influence you. do what you want to do to ensure ur happiness. 6)happiness is also a behavior. 7) to be happy, well, listen to a happy song. or a bad ass song. or a cool song. or take a walk, or go autocrossing like me. 8) dont stress it. if ur always sad, ur makin urself sad. YOU are stressing it. stop it. dont think about sadness. its just a feeling. but so is happyness. stress happiness. stress happy thoughts. think only good happy thoughts. and i learned in PSY107 that the way u percieve things changes ur attitude about things. like, lets say, u lost ur girlfriend, like i did cuz of my mom. now there are several ways to look at it. 1) oh, ill never get another girl cuz of my mom. 2) this sucks, im moving out. 3) there are alot of girls. and knowing ive had a crush on several diffrent girls, there will be another girl. till then, i can wait and enjoy my time on earth till then. i choose 3. so i become positive in life and be happy till i have a crush on anoter girl that crosses my path. see? if i picked 1 or 2 id never get a girl with that attitude and id always be miserable and sad inside. so in conlcusion, change the way u think about things, so u can change the way ur life is. because the way u think about things, is what ur life will be for u. sad. happy. positive. negative. its totally up to u. ur behavior is totaly up to u. the way u see things and think about thinks is a behavior. trust me, this isnt what i thought up or something, i learned ALL of this in PSY107, and thru life experiences, i wish i wouldve taken that classes life lessons into consideration earlier in life. i believe the percieving thing is called ur ABCs i fogot what each letter meant. but first A is like what happend. B is how u think of it and feel of it. and C is like how B will affect ur future because in the future ull think that way for similar events ur whole life.
Yoohoo Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Great advice...I throw on a nice song and sing my bum off to it....it makes me laugh at myself, then I'm happy. I think this is what you're thinking of... "Attitudes come from judgements. Attitudes develop on the ABC model (affect, behavioral change and cognition). The affective response is a physiological response that expresses an individual's preference for an entity. The behavioral intention is a verbal indication of the intention of an individual. The cognitive response is a cognitive evaluation of the entity to form an attitude. Most attitudes in individuals are a result of social learning from the environment."
Guest Posted September 6, 2006 Posted September 6, 2006 no matter how much you try and think positively, and do happy things, i find that it's just like running from the problem. It'll come back... you'll feel it later on too. Atleast, thats what happens to me... I'm generally a really happy guy, I'm known to be one of the most carefree, funniest, genial guys at my school, but honestly while I try to have fun, later on at night I feel it...
nancyleeh Posted September 14, 2006 Posted September 14, 2006 Some great ideas listed. I spent a great deal of my life being depressed and sad and one of the biggests things that kept me that way was caring to much about what other people thought of me. So much so that I was always trying to be someone or something I was not. It's a process but I'm finally growing into myself and care more about what I need and want and the more I concentrate on what pleases me the more I feel alive. It has also helped me relax and enjoy life. I no longer feel like a shadow of myself. I'm not a young person so it's neve to late to 'just be'. nancyleeh
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