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[blueman19]

Sorry, this got a little long as I was explaining the story Help!

 

So, just 2 days ago my girlfriend broke up with me. We were dating for 2 years, and everything was awesome. We had maybe 1 tiny little fight in the whole of the relationship. We always loved and enjoyed each others company. We did everything together and we never wanted to be apart.

Im only 19, and she is 18, so when we started dating we were both rather young, highschool. The thing is, I know what I want and thats what I go for, people keep telling me i'm too young to go through stuff like this and what not.

 

Anyway, down to the breakup. About 3 weeks ago, she told me over aim that she wasent sure that this is what she wanted anymore, so i was like "Ok", not sure what to do. I went out to eat with my parents, and when i came back I got a phonecall from her, crying. She said she was coming over but wouldn't tell me what for, i finally got it out of her and she said she was coming to get something back. ( which happened to be me, but being the dumb guy I was like er, wtf do i have that you want)

 

So, we got back together that same day, so everything seems like its going great. Then Last tuesday, we break up again...(wtf) she was even back to saying i love you and i want you in my life and I want to be with you forever and stuff. So, we're apart for 2 days, then on thursday a lot of stuff happens and yet again, we are on the phone..."I love you, please come over" so....i did, which was confusing me even more.

 

I probably sound like a doormat by now, w/e. the story goes on.

 

So, we're back together...again, well she decides that shes going to go out to eat with her mom on sunday, 6 days ago, well she ends up meeting one of her guy friends( it was a group of people, like 6 of them) at a coffee house after that, well thats all fine and dandy. then she calls to tell me shes staying at a friends house for the night...which she hasent talked to in over...4 months (my lie detector kicked in) and it so seemed that i was right, she lied to me because she knew i wouldnt approve of what she was doing. She was just having a few drinks with some friends, but all that night nobody knew where she was, her mother and aunt were calling me non-stop to try and find her, none of us got any sleep that night. We didnt hear anything from her and knew that she had been drinking...so we were all just genuinly concerned for her well being.

 

PS: She wasent answering my calls because she thought that she had ruined our relationship and didnt want to deal with that fact at that point in time + she was surrounded by a lot of people...(who wants to talk to their pissed off boyfriend when you're around tons of friends anyway, I guess?)

 

Well, after ALL that, we find her the next day and her mother and I went to pick her up after some of her friends called and said she was not in a condition to drive home. All the while we are riding back to her house, shes laying in my lap saying she loves me, she wants to be with me, she wants a future for us....etc, etc. that was monday night.

 

Tues, i go to her house and she says im not sure if this is what iwant anymore, im like WTF!!! make up your mind, so shes like...i need some time to think about everything, i want us to continue on our regular path and be partners until everything is figured out. Well, wed. I go to her house, and she says, i dont love you like a boyfriend anymore, i love you like a best friend. So, we broke up and it seemed like it was for good that time.

This was only 2 days ago or so, keep that in mind. I really would give us another chance later on when we both have our priorities in the right places, but she said i dont love you anymore, that hurts like hell and im not sure what to do, ive only talked to her once briefly. Pretty much a Hi, Bye type of thing.

 

Do I give it some time and tell her that she can call me if / when she is ready to talk about things...or do i just let it go and assume that she was too immature to handle a very serious relationship.

 

Help!

[blueman19]

More or less of a bump, my thread came out with a weird title and I didnt want to post it again.

 

Im still confused, I love her more than anything, shes going through alot right now and i'm not sure if she really, truthfuly meant that she didnt love me as a partner anymore.

 

I know time will tell, but any advice of how to tell her how I feel without sounding desperate. I want her to know that there could still be something for us, without pressuring her. I mean, I know we are young, but we talked about a future, a family, getting married, everything that a couple that is very serious talks about. We never really argued or faught...It was all happy and fun, and serious at the same time. I went out of town with her on long trips, even out of country once, and we both said it was the best moments of both of our lives, which is what I don't understand.

 

Is she scared that it wont work later on, or what?