Guest Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 me and my girlfriend got into a fight, and i was being a jerk and obvuiusly i was wrong. so i apologized. but for some reason, she thinks that i sad sorry and did all these things to make it up to her becuse i just wanted things to get back to normal, even if i was still mad. but i really am sorry, and i really was a jerk. and she still thinks im said it and didnt meanit. wtf. how do i fix this
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Well, IMO the honest approach is best. Get her some flowers or something she likes, write a heartfelt note saying that you know you were a jerk, and that you don't deserve it, but if she would forgive you, it would make you the happiest man on earth. Just a quick thought in the quick reply box. =P
superconductor Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 You did your part. You were a jerk, so you apologized to make it up. The rest is up to her. The danger here - and I've seen it countless times, in my own relationships and those of others - is that by fawning all over her, begging, buying presents etc., you'll be setting up an expectation for similar behaviour every time you and she have a little tiff. The bar gets raised each and every time you have something to apologize for, and before you know it, you'll be expected to do that sort of stuff even when you've done nothing wrong. I know this from direct personal - and impoverished - experience. You cannot make her forgive you. The only thing you can do is to heartfully apologize, which you've already done, and leave it behind. Whether she does or not is up to her.
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