pricillia Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 what the F**K I think that I should just give up why bother being with someone if they lie about thier life. Not disclosing information about if they are married or not. You fall in love with them and then you find out I would not advise any women to be with a married man there is only hurt a pain and a loss in self esteem. Listen to your intuition if you think that he is not telling you the truth about the marriage, it is usually right I should have listened to mine but I wanted to believe him Why are MM with other women??? If you carry on a relationship with another woman why??? Why not just go pick someone up in a bar for a one night why keep it going???
lyfelite Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Not all women loose their self esteem that are having affairs. You can only loose your self if you put your self in the situation where the MM is your world. YOU are the only one that can give any other person power over you. And with that said that means you can take it away as well. As for why some men start affairs the reason vary just like men do. You have the self idiots. the emotional ones that just can't get to gether. the ones that need more needs met than you can count-- ( and for those I say they should have more than one woman to begin with because they have probably exhusted their wives out to begin with). I think there was a study done that showed men cheat because they can and women cheat out of necessity. But you should keep in mind it isn't just men who cheat. And I can tell from heading your thread that your hurting. I know how it feels my MM didn't tell me he was married at first either- although he was technically seperated at the time. It still hurt for about 2 weeks in the beginning. I would like to believe he hasn't lied to me since in the last 3 years. But who knows. Good luck with your situation.
Author pricillia Posted August 25, 2006 Author Posted August 25, 2006 yeah men cheat because they can, still does not make sense to me at all
whichwayisup Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 yeah men cheat because they can, still does not make sense to me at all Your quote from your previous thread: You see before him I was with a MM for about 8 months I knew that he was married and I knew how to protect myself. Does it make sense to you that you knew the first man you dated was married and you knew about it? I guess I don't understand why you're so angry at MM who cheat on their wives, seeing as you were an OW a while previously. Yes, I do know that you found out another man you're dating is married, and you're pissed, rightfully so...Be angry at him! He deserves it for leading you on. I also really hope you never see him again and don't become OW to him seeing as you've been through it before.
Author pricillia Posted August 25, 2006 Author Posted August 25, 2006 Your quote from your previous thread: Does it make sense to you that you knew the first man you dated was married and you knew about it? I guess I don't understand why you're so angry at MM who cheat on their wives, seeing as you were an OW a while previously. Yes, I do know that you found out another man you're dating is married, and you're pissed, rightfully so...Be angry at him! He deserves it for leading you on. I also really hope you never see him again and don't become OW to him seeing as you've been through it before. I understand that you are questioning me being upset. I ended it with the first MM because he was married. I knew he was married and I went into it knowingly. I decided not to continue because I wanted more out of a relationship. End of story. The new guy was someone that I fell in love with thinking that I could have a healthy relationship not be someone on the side. I asked him many times. My question is to the MM why develop a relationship with a woman if you are married. I asked him many times if he was married because I did not want to be with a MM he knew that, he lied to me He should have just picked some random girl up and have been with her not develop a relationship with me... IT HURTS
whichwayisup Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 The guy obviously has issues and couldn't care less about your feelings. That isn't your fault, at all! He is a big loser and sooner or later karma will get him...Gotta believe that. Don't let this bad experience ruin your any future relationships with men. Not all are jerks!
Author pricillia Posted August 26, 2006 Author Posted August 26, 2006 The guy obviously has issues and couldn't care less about your feelings. That isn't your fault, at all! He is a big loser and sooner or later karma will get him...Gotta believe that. Don't let this bad experience ruin your any future relationships with men. Not all are jerks! Thanks which way is up I know you are right. I just need to get over this and move on. I know that all men are not jerks. I truly believe that. Unfortunately I was with one of them.
whichwayisup Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 You're welcome. Ok, no more tears over him. He isn't worth crying over! Right??
Author pricillia Posted August 26, 2006 Author Posted August 26, 2006 RIGHT, I definately don't want to be a person who lets themselves get caught up in sorrow about something like this. I was dating him since march the 20th so it has been just 5 months. I just had a connection with him and it was really nice to have. Thanks I am going out to get a drink this evening Peace out
RecordProducer Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 Dump him and don't look back. You just found out he lied to you about his marital status. Isn't that a good enough reason to break up with him? Where is your limit of tolerance, where do you draw the line? Would you date him if he cheated on you with your best friend? What about if he slammed your mother or touched your sister's boobs? See? It's YOU who thinks this is not a big deal - that's why you're staying with him. And you will keep believing in his lies. Next one will be they live in a bad marriage, practically non-existent, then they are divorcing then he has filed for a divorce... until you realize that years have gone by and you've been fooled. And still you will be saying that you love him and he is the best man on earth and you will never find anyone like him. Dump his lying ass right now!
Author pricillia Posted August 26, 2006 Author Posted August 26, 2006 Dump him and don't look back. You just found out he lied to you about his marital status. Isn't that a good enough reason to break up with him? Where is your limit of tolerance, where do you draw the line? Would you date him if he cheated on you with your best friend? What about if he slammed your mother or touched your sister's boobs? See? It's YOU who thinks this is not a big deal - that's why you're staying with him. And you will keep believing in his lies. Next one will be they live in a bad marriage, practically non-existent, then they are divorcing then he has filed for a divorce... until you realize that years have gone by and you've been fooled. And still you will be saying that you love him and he is the best man on earth and you will never find anyone like him. Dump his lying ass right now! oh no record producer. I agree with you and I am done. I don't want to ever see him again. As far as I am concerned He does not exist to me and I do not exist to him I never said I was staying with him. I will not and I will not believe a word he says to me HE IS A LIAR!
RecordProducer Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 oh no record producer. I agree with you and I am done. I don't want to ever see him again. As far as I am concerned He does not exist to me and I do not exist to him I never said I was staying with him. I will not and I will not believe a word he says to me HE IS A LIAR!Yeah, after I wrote that post, I realized it sounded like you WOULD let him fool you, but I thought I would try to stop you in any case. Glad you broke it off. Good girl!
Author pricillia Posted August 26, 2006 Author Posted August 26, 2006 Yeah, after I wrote that post, I realized it sounded like you WOULD let him fool you, but I thought I would try to stop you in any case. Glad you broke it off. Good girl! Thanks Record Producer, I want to be a self respecting woman, I personally can not do that in that situation. He knew that so he lied to me. I hope things are going well with your decision making. It is never an easy one to make. Only you know what is right for you.
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