differ Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 I've only posted a couple of times but I feel compelled to tell our story for some reason today. I had been in a marraige with 2 kids for about 5 years and she had been married with 1 kid for 8 years. We met due to our company doing business with her company and we hit it off immediately. We began spending hours on end talking secretly and there was no misunderstanding that we had feelings for each other. We would go on double dates with our spouses and end up having a riotous time together with our spouses basically along for the ride. With no sexual encounters things became very emotionally intense so I walked away without so much as a goodbye or explanation, trying to do the right thing by my wife and kids. Fast forward 3 years of no contact. The entire time the OW was still on my mind daily, wondering how she was, missing her badly, the flame never even flickered. So I email to see if she's even reachable, I get a response that was beyond an asschewing for leaving her twisting in the wind and was advised never to write again. I persisted with replies of apology for not at least offering an explanation. Eventually she warms up to the idea and we meet. The connection was there even more than I had expected and we had a great talk, we were still in love. We began meeting regularly, both of us knowing that this time things were going to get physical, which they eventually did. Alot. Both of us were unhappy in our current marraiges, they were loveless and unaffectionate and existed for the sake of the kids, but you can only live like that for so long before you'll seek happiness. Thats my opinion anyway. Her relationship was not only loveless but physically abusive and mine was borderline mentally abusive, and we had found something with each other that I didn't know existed. It seemed like everything that went on between us felt how two people were supposed to feel. Love wasn't supposed to be something that had to be constantly worked at, and counseled over etc etc, it was supposed to be....well....love. We finally broke the news to our respective partners and after alot of drama and heartache we've now been married to each other for four years and to this day it couldn't be any more of a night and day difference when compared to our old relationships. The kids were spared from most of the drama and are very well adjusted, healthy and happy. Both ex's have moved on to new spouses and everyone sees the kids with plentiful visitation. If you ask the kids if they'd rather have things the way they were or the way they are, their answer is that they'd never go back, they've seen for themselves that everyone is happier and theres more love to go around now that the misery of the old marraiges has been replaced by what we have now, the betrayed spouses would tell you the same. Sometimes there is happy endings in these situations.
yousaveme Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 I read your story just as i feel like my world is falling apart. Just when i feel the worse i keep my hope that . When two people truly are in love they will somehow find a way back to one another.
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