TheSilentType Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 So there's that saying that you will meet someone when you least expect it... How many of you believe this? Has this happened to anyone? I'd really like to hear any stories...
allina Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 It's happened to me several times. One of those times being a couple of months ago. I was just 2 months or so out of a relationship (this relationship lasted only 3 months but it ending still ended up hurting for a little while) I was over my ex and planned on being happily single for a while, I have always been a firm believer in taking time between relationships. Being that I was once again single I got in touch with some old friends and started hanging out with many different people. This is how I ended up meeting my current bf. At first the idea of being exclusive with anyone was out of question for me, but there was something about him that I could not get out of my damn head. We started talking everyday and hanging out pretty often, I would get the stupidest grin on my face each time we talked and get all excited about seeing him. Within only a couple of weeks of this I knew that I wanted to be with him and that he felt the same way. I took a long, critical look at myself to make sure I was ready and wanted this for the right reasons and went for it
bluechocolate Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 It is one of those ironies of life when it comes to relationships. When you're 'searching' you send out a vibe which screams I'm needy, I'm desperate & I'm uncomfortable with myself. This vibe is most noticeable by the very people you are most likely trying to attract & they run a mile in the opposite direction. What you end up with are people who are needy, desperate & uncomfortable with themselves and these relationships are unsatisfying & seldom last. Has this happened to anyone? I'd wager that almost everyone has gone through this at some point in their adult lives.
Guest Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Hi there, I am 39 and can confirm that this has never happened either when I have not been looking or when I have, it is generally a "cliche" that several well meaning people use to make single people feel better. Have always found you generally have to make things happen in life and finding the right person is no different, if you have a very good social life, are outgoing or very young or good looking, the option of this happening is definitely more likely.
superconductor Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Yep, it's happened to me too. About six months after my divorce, I was approached by a luscious young thing that had had her eye on me for a while. (I had no idea she even existed, frankly.) I wasn't looking, wasn't even interested, but we did hook up for a while and had a good time together. It didn't last long, mind you - only a few months - but it was a good morale booster. She was a real cutie.
rina_r Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 I belive, because this is how it always happened. I met my b/fs when I least expected it.
Stunner Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Well, I kind of met my man online...sort of. I saw his profile and "winked" at him, he "winked" at me..and that was it. I noticed we had the same love of music and knew that we would meet. Sure enough, two weeks later I turn around and he's standing there. We are in love with each other now and are taking slow steps forward with our relationship. So, I EXPECTED t
quietintrovertgirl Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I never had a boyfriend in my life but i still believe i might meet a man when I least expect it.
johan Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 Whether you expect it or not, I don't think you can control it. I think it's sort of a wive's tale that "when you least expect it" thing. It gives you the impression that if you just go around not expecting it, then it will happen. As if you can pull a little reverse psychology on the universe. And then you can control it. But you can't.
Touche Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I never had a boyfriend in my life but i still believe i might meet a man when I least expect it. Don't listen to what anyone else says. It really and truly DOES happen when you least expect it! That IS a form of control in a way. Because when you're expecting it, you send out all kind of desperate little vibes. It's a turn-off. Stop expecting it and will happen. It will. Ignore those who say that that's a wive's tale. It really isn't. People who say that, just don't get the deeper psychology and meaning behind this. It has nothing whatsoever to do with "reverse psychology." It's a state of mind. It's a state of being. It's a sort of "aura" that people pick up on. It's true. Please don't listen to the naysayers of this world. Don't let them drag you down with them.
monkey00 Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 It is one of those ironies of life when it comes to relationships. When you're 'searching' you send out a vibe which screams I'm needy, I'm desperate & I'm uncomfortable with myself. This vibe is most noticeable by the very people you are most likely trying to attract & they run a mile in the opposite direction. What you end up with are people who are needy, desperate & uncomfortable with themselves and these relationships are unsatisfying & seldom last. I wouldnt vouch for that just quite yet. Searching and being desperate is one thing, keeping your eyes and options open for a potential date/gf/bf is another. The true irony that i find is that when you're taken, you automatically become more desirable. it's the vibe that you're attached and/or have your sh*t together...but regardless having your life together without the need of a woman/man is an equally attractive trait. it's all about the vibe...you can accomplish the same in being desirable if you arent* needy, insrecure, clingy, and desperate...and at the same time still be single. As for me, i was in a college class with a girl, whom i hadnt noticed at all until 2 months into the semester she made her move. "can you show me the way to the train station, im lost." At that point i was single and wasnt looking..so it was unexpected. She's now my ex, whether or not we get back together is pending. not that there's anything wrong with thinking 'when you least expect it'... but its best not to wait for opportunities to fall in your lap...rarely does it happen (unless if you're female), but truly it is an unrealistic way of approacing life. Everybody loves a good chase...
Kittiecat Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 It's bullcrap. I have no expectations and rarely search (conciously, anyway). Damn, I must be really ugly!!!
Road Rage Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 The when you least expect it part is what explains it. You are occupied doing things, achieving goals, living your life according to your inner guidance and that gives out a positive vibe. It is like what woman always say, they want a man who knows what he wants. I think that is why women seem to gravitate to me in the supermarket. That is the only place I know what I want:laugh:
monkey00 Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I think that is why women seem to gravitate to me in the supermarket. That is the only place I know what I want:laugh: indeed...and a man who knows how to cook is secsy!
Author TheSilentType Posted September 5, 2006 Author Posted September 5, 2006 I think it's sort of a wive's tale that "when you least expect it" thing. I always thought you had to be more proactive than passive in order to get a gf... I mean, everyone tells me its a numbers games....go out there and ask a bunch of girls....yeah, you'll get rejected but someone may say yes... I just don't understand how not be out there and looking for someone can actually help you find someone....
johan Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 That's what I'm saying, SilentType. Go out there and inflict yourself on womankind. At least one of them will be saying she didn't expect it at all.
Touche Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 Ok, let me clarify. Men you have to get out there and play the numbers game and expect to be shot down more than you will be accepted. Don't expect a THING! Women, don't even expect anything at all. Ever! Got it now? Good!
whichwayisup Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I met my now hubby at my previous job. I worked in the same area with him but we were casual buddies. I didn't "like" him like that at all. Infact, I do remember never giving him a second glance. About a year or so later, something changed (maybe the timing was right??) I noticed him...Which inturn, he noticed me. So, whoever your future gal is, you never know WHO it will be... Stay confident, keep your humour and smile!
Author TheSilentType Posted September 5, 2006 Author Posted September 5, 2006 I met my now hubby at my previous job. I worked in the same area with him but we were casual buddies. I didn't "like" him like that at all. Infact, I do remember never giving him a second glance. About a year or so later, something changed (maybe the timing was right??) I noticed him...Which inturn, he noticed me. So, whoever your future gal is, you never know WHO it will be... Stay confident, keep your humour and smile! I really like your story WWIU....
burning 4 revenge Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I really like your story WWIU....If you liked that story ask her to tell you a story about showerheads
whichwayisup Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 I really like your story WWIU.... Thanks! Hey, what happened to your cute little puppy picture? If you liked that story ask her to tell you a story about showerheads Geez, maybe we ought to get the HOT THREAD on FRIDAY's going again in the watercooler section...Get that going over the winter!
Damos Posted September 7, 2006 Posted September 7, 2006 I think the reason that people say that you have to stop searching and you will find someone has more to do with confidence than anything else. You have to be happy by yourself before someone else will be happy with you. But to answer your question, yes I met someone while I was not looking. Actually I had sworn that I wouldn't date anyone for two years while I figured some stuff out. Early this year, a beautiful girl started working where I work (a museum) and we just couldn't stop talking to eachother, it was really incredible. We started dating and it's been (mostly) wonderful ever since. -=Damos=-
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