pinklace Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 My friend recently recieved a phone call lately and from her ex out of the blue. She enquired as to why he'd called her and he'd said that he had been wondering how she was, what she was up to these days and so they got talking. He'd revealed he was a happily married man, has been married for four years and that things had never been better in his marriage. HUH? Why in this case and if his marriage is so happy, did he take it upon himself to contact my friend, his ex. I don't understand?? Not only that, but after this phone call, he'd called her again asking to meet up? Why would he do this and why want to meet up, if he's so happily married? Is this behaviour normal in happily married men? My friend told him where to get off by the way.
stoopid_guy Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Truly happy? It depends. He could be a "player" looking for another conquest, in which case he's probably happy (but an a$$-hole.) On the other hand, he could be miserable and just looking for affection and comfort. In this case, he may realize what a great thing he gave up with your friend.
silktricks Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 It could also be that he has some unfinished business with your friend that he felt the need to have closure on. If she left him, he might have wanted to rub her nose in his current situation. If he left her --- well, he may have wanted to rub her nose in his current situation as well.
superconductor Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Happiness is not something that you get out of marriage (or anything else). Happiness is what you bring to it.
Author pinklace Posted August 26, 2006 Author Posted August 26, 2006 It could also be that he has some unfinished business with your friend that he felt the need to have closure on. If she left him, he might have wanted to rub her nose in his current situation. If he left her --- well, he may have wanted to rub her nose in his current situation as well. She left him, he was a committment phobe. She did mention that he talked about himself an awful lot and bragged about his material possessions. But that's what most men do anyway. Maybe he was also a tad, trying to impress. As for closure, well she'd made it clear to him why she ended it, although she says that he wasn't ok with it. He'd still wanted to see her, but she'd wanted more than he was willing to give and she knew she'd never recieve it from him. He may realise what a great thing he gave up with your friend So he may have regret, yet perhaps isn't letting on? I agree with you Superconductor. To be happy in anything, we need to be happy in ourselves first and foremostly. I think that perhaps he is saying he is happy, but he may feel there is something missing. There has to be, for a truly happily married person, 100% content with their lot, does not go seeking old flames. Thanks for the replies all, much appreciated.
whichwayisup Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 Even if his marriage is good, maybe he's one that needs alot of attention and maybe right now things are not 100% so he is feeling abit neglected and wants an ego boost.....
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