pricillia Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 I Am So Madd Right Now... The Man I Was Seeing Was Married And He Lied To Me So Now I Am Two For Two This Whole Thing Sucks! I Hate Myself For Believing Him And Trusting Him. I Am So Sad Angry Disgusted And So So So Devistated. I Opened My Heart And Fell In Love With Someone When It Was A Waste Of Time. I Am So Stupid This Whole Thing Just Makes Me Want To Scream
silktricks Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 So get out there and scream. Then next time be sure to check him out first!!
Author pricillia Posted August 25, 2006 Author Posted August 25, 2006 You see before him I was with a MM for about 8 months I knew that he was married and I knew how to protect myself. Before that I was alone for 5 years I made that decision to do so Then I said ok I can not be alone forever so I decided to trust someone and now with this happening... You say to yourself oh that is why I made that decision. I found out he has 5 kids in total three are living with him and one is through marriage. The other two are out of the country. He had not enough balls to tell me the truth when I asked him he looked me in the face and lied to me. I am sure that all the MM men out there are laughing at us Something like this is what causes people to get depressed ect ect ect. How does someone get over such hurt and pain. I guarded myself for such a long time and now this...
bluechocolate Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 So it wasn't his father's ring after all? What a jerk! How did you find out?
Author pricillia Posted August 25, 2006 Author Posted August 25, 2006 We work in the same building but not for the same company. I was baited this evening to ask some questions by one of his co-workers that was willing to give the answers, so I went for it...it seemed like he had alot on his mind. so... I mentioned that I saw a ring on his ring finger and he said that he was married. He has been married for 5 years with 5 kids this is is second marriage. (I knew about the first) This is a man who told me he loved me after we were toghether and told me all the time. I feel like such a fool! (tears) I am going out tomorrow to have a couple of drinks I think I need them, I really don't drink... is this why one becomes an alcoholic... I called him and told him he hurt me, not that he cares he only cares for himself and his sexual pleasure. Why why why... I feel like Nancy Carrigan being hit in the leg by Tanya Harding...
BUTAFLY Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 I don't know what to say pricilla. I read of these stories over and over...men lying, deceiving, cheating, all for what? Sex? They are willing to go to such great lengths with total disregard for anyone else. I am fed up with excuses, theories, sepeculation as to why they do it. The fact remains they will continue until they are forced stop. I am sick of seeing people like you get hurt and I am sure there will be another innocent victim who will go through the same hurt. I am an advocate in telling the spouse situations like yours, mine, unkowinglyow and a few others,(thoseof us tricked into being the ow) that the wives/husbands MUST be told. This man has calculated and plotted his every move, careful that you & his wife won't find out the truth, and he has taken note along the way to what works and doesn't, only to improve his game later. Please don't let him get away with this. Let the wife now the real man she is married to.
UnknowingOW Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Pricilla, Yes, they do lie. My xMM did the same thing for 5-years. Notice I said x MM. Walk way, don't speak to him again, give him nothing more of you. That is the only way to get though this with your head in tact. Good Luck and Hugs...I've been there and know exactly what you are feeling. It will get better I promise.
Author pricillia Posted August 25, 2006 Author Posted August 25, 2006 I hope that this will get better as I opened my heart to someone who lied to me. What ever happened to the trust between two people. The funny thing is He called the person that told me and told him not to "hate the player to hate the game" He did not know I was standing right there when he said it, so I called him back and left him a message letting him know that I knew what he said He was so mad about at that time... kinda like he flipped his lid Why does it have to be a game and what is the BS with telling someone that you Love them without prompting, he said it to me all the time. If you don't love someone then why tell them that you do. This whole things really hurts it may get better but when.
superconductor Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 I'm sorry that you're going through this, Priscilla. Please rest assured that not all men are *********s. Really.
BUTAFLY Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 I hope that this will get better as I opened my heart to someone who lied to me. What ever happened to the trust between two people. The funny thing is He called the person that told me and told him not to "hate the player to hate the game" He did not know I was standing right there when he said it, so I called him back and left him a message letting him know that I knew what he said He was so mad about at that time... kinda like he flipped his lid Why does it have to be a game and what is the BS with telling someone that you Love them without prompting, he said it to me all the time. If you don't love someone then why tell them that you do. This whole things really hurts it may get better but when. Why? Why tell someone you love them and not mean it. If any men out there can answer(I won't flame) please explain. Ever since my encounter with the ex I wonder the same thing. I just can't wrap my head around that. He was the first to say it, he asked me why I could't say it back. I told him I have to feel it inorder to say it, the L word has a lot of meaning to me; he SAID he agreed. But after the discovery of his other life, I don't know what was real and what wasn't....Was it all a lie, any thing real, if so what part, my ex literally turned my wolrd, my faith in people/men upside down and I am having a hell of a time coping with the aftermath.And of course things like hate the game makes me hate them even more...because my feelings are not to be toyed with. That line is similar to my ex's when he said "your such a hater". I think he said that in response to the letter I wrote his fiance/wife (if she even got it), I assume that was her sentement also.
Author pricillia Posted August 25, 2006 Author Posted August 25, 2006 I'm sorry that you're going through this, Priscilla. Please rest assured that not all men are *********s. Really. Thanks... I don't hate men at all we need them like they need us. I just wish that I was not played the way I was. It really does hurt. The only thing good about hurt is you know that you are alive... sad but true. I am very sad!!!
whichwayisup Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 He hurt you, he fooled you and he's also playing his wife for a fool as well. He's the selfish man who thinks he can have it all and then some. If you can't do this on your own, seek some counselling to help you cope. You were taken in and deceived by someone who knew exactly what he was doing...So, don't be worried about family/friends will think if you need therapy to help you through this pain.
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