STLguy Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 My GF and I have been dating for around 9 months. Everything moved extremely quick in the relationship. I've loved this girl from the start, and have never felt such a connection with someone before. Recently she was on an internship and everything seemed to go fine al throughout the summer. We both just got back from summer break and she tells me that she wants to break up, that she wants time for herself, and wants to be able to experience this time of her life alone. She's going out of the country in 4 months until next summer, when she will be working at the same internship she just completed. The past few nights have been horrible, we both spoke each night since we've gotten back from summer and she ended up running out of my apartment in tears two of the nights. Last afternoon I ended up talking to her again after really pissing her off the night before and again she ran. I ended up calling her last night, she came over, and we actually had a civil conversation. We ended up agreeing that it is best for the relationship if we explore these next months that she's gone, and that it wasn't a breakup, the relationship was just on hold. This girl is the most independant person I have ever met. I honestly think she isn't ready to give up her independence, she said it's been on her mind all summer. She said she loved me and that all the feelings from the relationship are still there, and that I could not have been any better to her in the relationship, but that she doesn't want any guy in her life right now. She said that she just needs to be independant and alone right now to do her own thing, and that she doesn't know how long it will last. We agreed to try to start the relationship up again at some point. She told me that I very well may be the person for her, and that she has no idea why she feels the way she does right now. The thing is when she was over last night and we were actually talking for once our body laungauge is still that of a dating couple, we cuddle, hold hands, etc., but she wouldn't let me kiss her, maybe it would make her doubt herself? I really don't understand that part of it. We agreed not to see each other much this next year, but that she would come over occasionally the couple months we do have left, and would keep in contact once overseas. She told me this has nothing to do with wanting to date other guys at all, she said she doesn't want a man in her life whatsoever. I really don't understand what's happening right now. I know it's over, and I hope to hell it starts back up in a year. She said that she wants to do it now because it'd be so much more difficult to do this once we have 1 year under our belt and everything. At one point I told her I had our one year planned already and she kept telling me not to tell her that, that it was too hard to hear. I really just wanted to get a lot of my mind, any feedback would be greatly appreciated. I really feel like I"m losing my soulmate. We have never fought, or even had a reason to fight, these last 9 months. I just don't understand ending something with no reason whatsoever. She said she was 100% happy, that everything was great, that she still is in love, that all her feelings are still there. So why end it like this? Even if, as she says, we're just ending a chapter in our relationship, and that there could be many more chapters yet to come. I feel like life itself it tearing us apart.
Road Rage Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 And she knows what she wants. So, If you were able to do the impossible, when she gave you the bad news you would have taken it calmly and said yes, you need a break and you wish her well. you got a few things you been thinking about too. But, that is water under the bridge. But, just take that attitude now at first opportunity and get on with your life. A year from now she may be the one wanting to get together and you have found the love of your life and have no intention of going back.
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