sad-in-seattle Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 You always hear it the other way around. I seem to be in the twilight zone. My boyfriend won't have sex with me! At the start of our relationship it was great.. for the first couple months that is.. then it dwindled down into nothing. I would admit that the past couple months we have had major problems, but even before that his sex drive tapered dramatically. I know he doesn't cheat on me and I know he has a sex drive because I have constantly walked in on him doing his "thing" to internet porn! I feel so insecure because I was just in the next room available to have sex yet he never even asked! I confront him on this issue and he says he just not that sexual of a person. He doesn't know why he doesn't initiate sex, but he does enjoy it and finds me attractive. He said he'd rather have me initiate sex. To make things worse the fact that he has no "passion" for me has made me not be too excited about sex either! I really don't think I'm nasty or anything... (I'm 5'6" about 130lbs brown hair, green/brown eyes.. I'm half asian/half white and I think I'm cute?) What's the deal!!!
Guest Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 I've got two words for you. "Porn Addiction" The idiot is going to destroy his relationship with a cute willing partner. Most guys turn to porn when their partner won't have sex with them.
Author sad-in-seattle Posted August 24, 2006 Author Posted August 24, 2006 HAHA. That's hilarious. Could be! I was starting to think he was gay until I caught him...
jerbear Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Porn addition and the loss of passion. When the next time you walk in on him, just help him finish. Get in front of the computer or go down on him. It is a distraction for him. It would take awhile for him to get back to the real thing. If he is your BF now and this is what is happening, any signs that it would improve? Changes in job, living arrangments, location, etc... Have you talked to him about the lack of passion?
Author sad-in-seattle Posted August 25, 2006 Author Posted August 25, 2006 When we first started dating he told me the last year of his six year relationship there was no sex. I didn't believe him. I thought he was just exaggerating. He said there wasn't much sex towards the last 3 years. He started dating her at like 16 and said of course his sex drive was pretty wild, but when he hit around 18 it slowed immensely. He told me before we started dating that he couldn't get off on oral. But after I tried.. he was able too. He will randomly ask me for oral, but at this point I'm so fed up that if he doesn't want to have sex w/me he can #*$& himself =P (which is the case) hehe I mean realistically do I really have to beg my boyfriend to have sex w/me? Do I really have to jump through hoops? Shouldn't it be the other way around?
dominsane Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 My ex didn't want to have sex with me...at first, because he had a bad experience with a girl who tricked him into thinking she was pregnant. Then..in the middle months of our relationship, we'd have sex alot, then it just..kinda died down again(because he has some health conditions).. But I'd suggest that you try some sexy lingerie..or...(usually guys are more 'up' to it in the morning ) so..suck on his neck or...whatever it is that he likes..when you wake up... Heh. my ex broke up with me about two months ago...and I've been horny ever since...
Author sad-in-seattle Posted August 25, 2006 Author Posted August 25, 2006 Yah he does have some issues from his past relationship. I know that is a little that has to do with the situation. The thing is I've tried for the last 4-5 months different things to try to get our sex life back into action. Nothing ever got stirred back up and I can't figure out the root of the cause. Since I can't figure out the cause (he never has an answer other then "I dunno") I'm not sure what to do. I feel that I have needs and he isn't meeting them... I don't know how to get through to him.
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