Jizzosh Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 Sup people, you can call me Josh. That's not my real name, but everyone online calls me that, so it's kinda like my second name Anyways, I'm dropping in to say hi everyone, just joined today and this place looks like a tite site. I'll probably become an active member of this forum when I can. As for me, I'm just gonna get this off of my chest. I'm currently 16, a Junior in High School. I've never had a girlfriend in my life, mainly because up until late sophomore year I never really cared about having a girlfriend, or I thought a girl was hot but never got the courage to ask her out or get to know her. I never really put any thought into a relationship or cared to have one up until a couple months ago. Now, I'm still not sure where I stand. I'd like to say that I'm attractive but I just don't know. I've worked out since freshman year and have an alright body, and I just got contacts, but I'm shy, so I don't go out of my way to talk to girls. I'd like to think girls look at me, as sometimes when I turn my head I see them looking in my direction, but I don't know if they're looking at me, and I don't stare at them a lot even if I think they're hot. Right now I'm just not sure what to do. I want a girlfriend, but I don't know if it's the right time. I'm doing my first year of football, and it's taking up a lot of time. A lot of guys on the team have a girlfriend, but if I got one I wouldn't get to spend much time with her and have a meaningful relationship. Here's basically my average school day: Get up at 6:00, go to school 7:00-2:00, have football practice from 2:45-anywhere from 5:00-6:00. After that I have to do homework and I don't feel like doing anything but resting. I'm thinking of waiting until after football season to try for one. I'd appreciate advice, but I know I have to make the decision on my own. So that's my story! Have any of you had situations like this before? Also, how would I approach a girl I think is attractive? What would I say to her? How would I start to talk to a girl if she's got a bunch of friends around, or should I never try this? Thanks for any help. And just in case you were wondering..I didn't join football because I wanted to be popular or get a girl, I just realized my love for the sport early this year.
Sally00 Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 Hello. I have dated a guy who played football. Yes, he was pretty busy so I can understand where you're coming from. And I have never had a boyfriend in high school... the guys would just lead me on or I just wasn't interested. So don't feel pressured to be with someone just because everyone else is. I was actually happy not being with someone because there would be no drama in my life. Oh, and I didn't want to end up having a relationship and then in the end, both leave to go off to college. But honestly, I don't think you should go around looking for a girlfriend when you're ready. You can't look for love... it just comes to you. And I've never approached a guy before... proooobably because that's the guy's role. But if I were a guy, I'd find some common interest you have with her and casually bring it up and then start the conversation from there. Good luck and have fun!
Pink Amulet Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Hi Josh, first let me preface by saying you write very well for a 16 year old. Your use of punctuation and proper grammar is far better than many 30 year olds on here! You seem like a really sweet and wonderful young man. Athletic, intelligent, ambitious, and dedicated. I wish I had met someone like you when I was 16! Your modesty is just another personality trait worthy of admiration! I have some questions for you: Do you have one particular female in mind? I am not sure what you mean by being ready to date? I am thinking this could be because you are feeling peer pressure from your friends who are dating other females. I could be wrong. Dedication to school is imperative to you at this stage in your life. So here is what I am thinking... In any of your classes, is their a pretty, smart, and approachable female? Perhaps if you claim to be struggling with some aspect of your study, you could ask to get some tips off her? A study session at her house?... sexy. Damn, that's so hot p.s (call me when your 21 )
Author Jizzosh Posted August 26, 2006 Author Posted August 26, 2006 Thanks for the comments guys. No I don't, that's really the problem for me. Well, I guess it's not good to only have one girl in mind, but the problem is I don't know who to pursue. By ready to date I mean before I didn't think I could keep up with a girlfriend. I couldn't see myself dedicating my time to a girl, but now I can so vividly. Hmm, there's a lot of pretty and smart girls in my classes. I just don't know when to approach them alone, and I'm not about to stalk any to find out
blind_otter Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 IME it's better to wait to get involved with people when you have the free time to devote to hanging out with them. If you have a lot of stuff on your plate, you end up just adding to your stress and frustration in general. I've dumped guys before for no other reason than I just had too much going on in my personal life at the time, no offense to them, but I need to focus on ME! hahah. I mean. You're 16. Your horomones are raging, so you might not be the best at prioritizing right now and how you perform this year in HS could really be the determining factor on which college you attend. I'm just SAYING.
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