alphamale Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Exactly, Alpha. If he doesn't want to meet your parents I would question his real intent to your relationship. yes YAMAHA. See....when I'm dating some chick-a-dee and I want to make her think I'm more serious than I really am so that I can string her along for sex I don't mind if she meets my relatives. But me meeting hers is a different ball game.
konfuzd Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Apparently I'm a retard too, because I agree with Tanbark, ya big jerky retard! lol. One minute, you're saying, i don't know what to think of him making me eat dinner with his dad the first week we met Then, you go on to say, But my boyfriend when it comes to me attending his things, it's "you can come if you want." I want him to really, really want me there and be even just a little sad if I'm not there with him. he's more like "whatever, come if you want. if you don't, that's okay. i'll be fine either way." I think perhaps you are being a bit overdramatic about the whole thing, and taking it more personally that perhaps you should. The fact is, he had plans already, and for you to expect him to change it to spend 3 hours with your parents is kind of silly, especially if he was looking forward to a nice dinner, and the alternative is to meet your folks, with obviously a lot of pressure on him. From what you say, he's a laid back guy and doesn't want the awkwardness of the "meet the parents" being a big event as you're making it out to be. You say you don't like the conversation to be about you, he likes it to be about him, so it sounds like a good match to me, otherwise, what are you going to talk about?
tanbark813 Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Apparently I'm a retard too, because I agree with Tanbark, ya big jerky retard! lol. Thanks!
SmoochieFace Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Exactly. I'm trying to get out of a relationship with a jerk like you. ... It never fails to amaze me that some guys out there really think they know EVERYTHING about women and what they really want. These guys will generalise ALL WOMEN based on their own experiences which appear to have made them bitter... which is cool if they only generalise about the particular TYPE of women they go for instead of saying ALL women this or ALL women that.
sad-in-seattle Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 ... It never fails to amaze me that some guys out there really think they know EVERYTHING about women and what they really want. These guys will generalise ALL WOMEN based on their own experiences which appear to have made them bitter... which is cool if they only generalise about the particular TYPE of women they go for instead of saying ALL women this or ALL women that. Huh? What does that have to do w/my quote? I still think it boils down to, oh god forbid, break plans with his "friends/sister" to go hang out with the parents. It's a responsibility all partners take on when dating someone (even if it isn't fun). It's being considerate of the person's feelings that it may be important to them, which meeting the parents after 1 year 1/2 usually is! Poor baby.. he'd have to break his plans.. I still can't believe you think this girl is being too demanding... To top it off.. he has no idea why she's mad?? come on.... Every girl I've told this scenario too has been like "Ouch!".... And ya know what.. girls are a bit demanding and dramatic.. that's what makes them fun
tanbark813 Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 It's being considerate of the person's feelings that it may be important to them That's implying that the guy's plans with his sister aren't important. I'd be offended if somebody thought their family is more important than mine. And to clarify, I only think the OP is being too demanding in this one case. It's lame that he hasn't met her parents after 1.5 years. And to the OP: ALPHA is right. you're not important to him. But she picked a bad example to demonstrate her case. I certainly wouldn't expect someone to cancel plans for something spur-of-the-moment with no notice. That comes across as arrogant and presumptious. And I can't imagine anyone wanting to be with someone that weak-willed anyway. Every girl I've told this scenario too has been like "Ouch!" konfuzd is a girl and she agrees with me.
Pink Amulet Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Maybe he has some kind of sick crush on his sister and that's why he would rather spend time with her? It would explain the wine... Just throwing it out there.
tanbark813 Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 Maybe he has some kind of sick crush on his sister and that's why he would rather spend time with her? It would explain the wine... Just throwing it out there. "If anybody's gonna f**k my sister it's gonna be me!"
Pink Amulet Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 "If anybody's gonna f**k my sister it's gonna be me!" That's all I'm sayin'
sad-in-seattle Posted August 25, 2006 Posted August 25, 2006 I'm not saying spending time with his sister is less important then his family. I am just assuming that his sister and roommate tend to be around more often then her parents that live 3 hours away. My bf's little sister was hanging around all the time (little as in 21). If my mom or dad came into town and I hadn't seen them in a long time I'd expect my bf to come with me. If anything I'd invite his sister as well. I don't think she's saying his family is more important then hers. I mean she's been on tons of family trips w/him and he hasn't seen them once. I guess it all depends on the situation at hand. I don't know if the sister is always around and it's like a daily routine to hang out with her or maybe it was just a special occasion... In that case I'd think to be more understanding..
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