unsafe Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 So I've gone over and over and over again on this subject. My boyfriend and I are great. I couldn't ask for more. He is so good to me, very attentive, affectionet, wants to spend most of his time with me. I love it. There is an issue I can't stop playing in my head. My boyfriend I live with his brother and his brothers fiance. I knew this before we got together so its my own damn fault But now I have fallen in love with him and I'm so happy that I don't want to leave him because of his past. I am hoping some of you can help me out with some wise words or something. Anyway my boyfriend "tag teams" His soon to be sister in law a couple of years ago with his brother. And from what she tells me the soon to be sister in law they also did it with out his brother twice. It meant nothing to them it was sex. Blah blah blah. Whatever its his past I can't really hold it against him. I have done stuff I wouldn't tell him because like this he would probably hurt him. But she told me before he and I were together and now I know. I can't stop picturing them together. have sex, flirting. Its making me sick. Its all in my head. Someone help me please! They both swear there is nothing and the brother of my boyfriend said if he can get over it so can I. The truth is I want to get over it because I love my boyfriend. I know he doesn't want her I know this. But why can't I let his past go.
norajane Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 You can't let it go because she's right there in front of you, and she's engaged to the brother, so she'll be around forever. Lots of people experiment with sex and threesomes (though it's unusual with a brother, IMO). If she were some other girl that you weren't living with and who wasn't engaged to the brother, do you think it would bother you less or just as much? You might try forming a plan with your bf on moving out and see if it's still troubling you after you've moved out. If it still bothers you after you move out, you might as well end the relaitonship since she's not going anywhere.
Author unsafe Posted August 24, 2006 Author Posted August 24, 2006 Blue chocolate....what does that mean? I asked for wise words not hurtful. If you think I should get out why can't you just say that without trying to put people down for who they are and the choices they make. Its not like I'm killing or cheating. And I agree my boyfriend and I need to move out. But right now its to soon for us to move out together. I'm trying to be patient. But this thing is killing me.
bluechocolate Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 Hurtful? I was simply pointing to a previous thread on this very topic started by you. I suppose I've could have cut & pasted my previous posting into this thread, but I fail to see how that would have been any less hurtful.
lone she-wolf Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 Ummm....the two of you need to move out, no matter what the excuses are...ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!! Where theres a will, theres a way. Make it happen. Nothing is worth that kind of torture. My 2 cents. Sorry if it seems harsh.
Walk Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 Hurtful? I was simply pointing to a previous thread on this very topic started by you. I suppose I've could have cut & pasted my previous posting into this thread, but I fail to see how that would have been any less hurtful. I think she read the signature you've got as your post... so it showed a link and then telling her you can't see her point of view because your head wouldn't go up your *** that far....
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