What Is Love And More?

[CinderellaElla]

A very straight forward, but hard question to answer. What Is Love? How do you know when you are in love? And can it really happen? and workout?

 

Iam scared to be in a realtionship, becuase i feel that guys dont mean what they say. How can I change that? WHen all i ever see is people getting cheated on or dumped? Or divorces? Or people threatening eachother to leave them for someone else?

 

How do you know that a guy is telling you the truth?

What are the signs of a guy in love?

 

And does actions really speak louder than words?

[Kittiecat]

How do you know that a guy is telling you the truth?

 

When he tells you he's either (a) hungry or (b) horny.

[DaNziNgQuEeN1]

I hear ya girl! I feel the same way sometimes. I don't think there is a concrete answer to your question "What is love?" It really depends on the guy you are talking about. From what I've gathered, love isn't just being attracted to a person or having things in common or someone who is nice to you. Love goes deeper than those things. It's about mutual respect, communication, trust, and affection. There are probably others that I missed but those are the ones that stand out.

 

In order to minimize the risk of getting hurt you have to look at your partner...not only through your heart's eye, but your mind's eye as well. So often people get caught up in the notion of love and being in love that they miss seeing certain actions or hearing certain words that prove the other person may not be in love at all.

 

It's hard to tell when a guy who says "I love you" is actually in love with you. Some guys say it because they ACTUALLY BELIEVE they are in love, when it fact it's just infatuation. Others straight out lie to you because they have other motives.

 

I've never been in love, but a common thing I've heard from others is that you just know it when you're in love. You feel completely safe with this person. You trust each other, you're honest with each other and you are communicating effectively. You not only tell each other you love each other, but you also show it as well.

 

Actions do not always speak louder than words. It also depends on what you're talking about. Someone can shower you with roses and kisses and all the rest when they actually only want to have sex with you. On the other hand, I think that a person who really loves you will do anything to demonstrate and prove to you that they are in love. And by anything , I mean more than just give you presents. They'll want to know all about you and try to get along with your family and friends and probably want to be involved in all that you're involved with....things like that.

 

I believe love can really happen because I've seen it happen to others. And yes, it can workout. I'm afraid of relationships myself, but I'm taking it slow and trying to find someone decent to date.

 

If there's anything I can say for sure it's this: don't let your fear of being hurt take over your life. You don't want to, one day, look back on your life and think, "Wow. I was always so careful and I never once got hurt...BUT I never did get to discover what it's like to love, even if that meant getting hurt along the way." Don't wonder, "What if...?" You go for it!

 

It's easier said than done to just get rid of your fear. Believe me, I know. However, this is just another one of those things in life where you have to take risks. One can't expect to fall in love with the ideal person and NEVER get hurt. You probably will get hurt someday but that will serve you as a lesson that you are stronger than you thought and that one shouldn't take love for granted.

 

I wish you all the best!