Becoming Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 Understand. Do you have to call him back? Can you txt him or say all this in a short, simple letter and be done with it, playing with the same scenario he has set up? --i.e. "Charlie--I'm flattered you're interested in dating me from viewing my profile on Together Dating. But I will not give up my relationship with TCK and am not interested in dating anyone who would give me ultimatums regarding who I should or should not have in my life. I cannot play controlling and manipulative games with my life anymore. I wish you well and am sure you will find someone since you are {insert a few adjectives here}. But that someone is not me. Thank you for all the time and attention you have given me. I wish you all the best with your future. But please do not contact me anymore. Pada"
Author basscatcher Posted August 24, 2006 Author Posted August 24, 2006 WOW SuperConductor--I do believe some form of contact is appropriate to give a full clear answer BECAUSE-I was being a little wishy-washy with him during my short-time of confusion. Even though he and I havent been a couple since April we still carried on some contact till July and until recently. He is awaiting an answer. I will give him my answer. Becoming-- You have a super idea. Texting Charlie or even sending him snail-mail is a great idea. He will always answer his phone if I call unless by a fluke he doesn't hear it or have it on him. I don't believe that would be the case if he is awaiting an answer from me. Your idea is good. Even the words you suggested were awesome. I do need to use my own vocab and way of speaking or he will know I was told what to say and didn't use my own words. The weekend is coming so that would be a good time. (Friday) He wont be working--I know he is taking his kids to the cabin with his brothers. The answer won't affect his ablility to work if it should upset him. He will be in a place where he can be free to deal with his feelings and with the love and comfort of his children and brothers (family) near.
quankanne Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 "Charlie--I'm flattered you're interested in dating me from viewing my profile on Together Dating. But I will not give up my relationship with TCK and am not interested in dating anyone who would give me ultimatums regarding who I should or should not have in my life. I cannot play controlling and manipulative games with my life anymore. I wish you well and am sure you will find someone since you are {insert a few adjectives here}. But that someone is not me. Thank you for all the time and attention you have given me. I wish you all the best with your future. But please do not contact me anymore. Pada" good, but shortened it so that it doesn't include references to dating other men, which is really none of his business, IMHO: "Charlie--I'm flattered you're interested in dating me from viewing my profile on Together Dating. But I am not interested IN DATING YOU. I wish you well and am sure you will find someone since you are {insert a few adjectives here}. But that someone is not me. Thank you for all the time and attention you have given me. I wish you all the best with your future. (P)lease do not contact me anymore. Pada" same message, but kindly and to the point that while you appreciate his good qualities, ain't no way in hell you're interested in future dates with the guy. You know how they say "the ball is in your court"? Well, you're saying, "I've returned your serve, please notice I've hit it out of bounds because I'm just not interested in playing with you. Good day!"
Author basscatcher Posted August 24, 2006 Author Posted August 24, 2006 :lmao: Bravo Bravo... Love ya all. I adore my virtual friends.. Ya all are good people!!
Rubber_Chicken Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 My gosh the 6 month drama that has unfolded from some guy that won't leave a girl alone.
Author basscatcher Posted August 24, 2006 Author Posted August 24, 2006 My gosh the 6 month drama that has unfolded from some guy that won't leave a girl alone. One Life to Live, these are the Days of Our Lives,the Passions of the Young and the Restless that lead us to The LoveShack, wheres it truly Another World.
Becoming Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 "Charlie--I'm flattered you're interested in dating me from viewing my profile on Together Dating. But I will not give up my relationship with TCK and am not interested in dating anyone who would give me ultimatums regarding who I should or should not have in my life. I cannot play controlling and manipulative games with my life anymore. I wish you well and am sure you will find someone since you are {insert a few adjectives here}. But that someone is not me. Thank you for all the time and attention you have given me. I wish you all the best with your future. But please do not contact me anymore. Pada" good, but shortened it so that it doesn't include references to dating other men, which is really none of his business, IMHO: "Charlie--I'm flattered you're interested in dating me from viewing my profile on Together Dating. But I am not interested IN DATING YOU. I wish you well and am sure you will find someone since you are {insert a few adjectives here}. But that someone is not me. Thank you for all the time and attention you have given me. I wish you all the best with your future. (P)lease do not contact me anymore. Pada" same message, but kindly and to the point that while you appreciate his good qualities, ain't no way in hell you're interested in future dates with the guy. You know how they say "the ball is in your court"? Well, you're saying, "I've returned your serve, please notice I've hit it out of bounds because I'm just not interested in playing with you. Good day!" Fabulous, Q! I think you're right. Don't leave the door open if you don't want it open.
quankanne Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 thank you ... now, anyone up to drunk calling my ex and telling how badly he sucked in bed? Not that that matters anymore, just feel like being beetchy for a change :lmao:
blind_otter Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 One Life to Live, these are the Days of Our Lives,the Passions of the Young and the Restless that lead us to The LoveShack, wheres it truly Another World. that's a good one.
alphamale Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 that's a good one. ahhhh....i'm about to lose my wireless internet conn@*&,#...ahh
Becoming Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 Alpha, you still with us, buddy? Q: I'll do it. Imagine this in a sexy breathy voice like on one of those late-night commercials: "Oooh, Baby, this is Ursula from Sex Kittens R Us. We wanted to congratulate you for being top of our list for who not to get all hot and bothered because it'll just annoy you. Call me sometime so we can set an interview up for our international newsletter. The number's 1-800-877-8223. That's 1-800-uscrubad (You screw bad.). Call me!" Leave it on his voice mail. I double dog dare ya!
Author basscatcher Posted August 25, 2006 Author Posted August 25, 2006 ahhhh....i'm about to lose my wireless internet conn@*&,#...ahh HUH????
Author basscatcher Posted August 25, 2006 Author Posted August 25, 2006 I sent the Text message.. In my own words. Charlie, I got ur message. Thank u 4 ur interest in me. Im not interested in meeting or dating.. I wish u all the best. Ur a outgoing, attentitve, social man who deservies 2 b the only man in a womans life. I'm not able 2 do that. You will find her but its not me. May God bless u with a woman who u can truly b happy with. I will hurt u n upset u if we r 2gether. There is another man in my life I dont want 2 let go of. I'm truly-truly sorry. Best of luck. Pada It's brief, to the point, honest, and in the same simple context he left on my answering machine at home--without bringing up too much past info. I sent it this morning and havent heard anything back. I will resend the msg tomorrow to make sure he received it. I know he is out of town at the cabin with his family and doesn't always get good reception. I will not answer his phone calls if he should call unless he is in the hospital. I gave him all the answers to the questions he asked in the past in this short statement. I feel content, and I dont feel like I have any doubts, questions or regrets, I dont feel any concerns either.. Now if PMS would just back off. I've been suffering for two days with severe low-back pain, achy shoulders and neck and a slight headache.
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