prfrogkisser Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 Good Morning: I have a dilema. How long should i wait until i meet someone ive chatted with online? What if he lives out of state? Should i have a deadline? We have been talking on the phone for two weeks now and honestly i dont want to waste my time if he will never come to see me. I think he is very interested since he calls me everyday but then again he doesnt talk about any future where is this going thing:( If anyone has any stories or experiences on this please feel free to let me now. Any advice will be greatly appreciated... Have a great day!!!!!
rina_r Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 I prefer to meet people in person ASAP. Online thingy does not tell you much. I need to see and feel the reality.
Author prfrogkisser Posted August 23, 2006 Author Posted August 23, 2006 I prefer to meet people in person ASAP. Online thingy does not tell you much. I need to see and feel the reality. I totally agree. People can pretend to be anything online or even over the phone. Thats why i want to meet him in person but of course he lives far away. Thanks for your response
serial muse Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 meeting in person asap is key. chemistry is difficult to read over a computer. little story. a guy i dated once (met online) was chatting with me over email. after a few emails, he said that he wanted to meet and was getting a bit impatient for me to ask. apparently he thought that women would prefer to be the ones to determine when to meet, as a safety measure or something. i don't know. i thought it was odd he wouldn't just ask me out on a date. but whatever; that was his reasoning, so i'm passing it along as one possible explanation. in other words, might as well bring it up yourself. why not just ask if he wants to meet up?
Sand&Water Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 I have a dilema. How long should i wait until i meet someone ive chatted with online? What if he lives out of state? Should i have a deadline? Have you only known him for 2 weeks? Usually one should wait at least a few months (4-6 months). You want to make certain that you've known him well enough online before you take the next step. If he lives out of state, then both of you have to discuss the implications of a LDR. Is he financially stable to visit you? Talk to him about the distance, money, and the progression of the relationship. I say, anything longer than a year without plans is a waste of time.
serial muse Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 wait, 4-6 months before meeting in person?!? is that for a LDR, or in general for online dating? i have to say, i really disagree with that. it's too hard to know a person well enough online. you should meet much, much sooner - a matter of weeks is perfectly reasonable, i'd say. of course, meet in a neutral place, not at your - or his - house. regardless of the distance.
bluechocolate Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 In my opinion the internet can be used a tool to meet people. Key word there - meet. You do not 'meet' people online, nor do you get to know someone through their online persona. So yes, meeting in real life is best done as soon as possible.
Sand&Water Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 wait, 4-6 months before meeting in person?!? is that for a LDR, or in general for online dating? I was refering to LDRs. And yes (I agree) if he's close to you then meeting within a few weeks is best.
Author prfrogkisser Posted August 23, 2006 Author Posted August 23, 2006 I have been chatting with this person for a month or so. We just started talking on the phone for two weeks.I believe meeting is very important but there is always the possibitity that once you travel so far you sadly find out there is no chemistry. So i understand his delay. I'm a risk taker... so I will be patient and give this a little more time but if i dont see any progress (more than a amonth) or effort on his part it would have only been a fantasy relationship like most people have when they meet online. Thanks for the help:D
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