Guest Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 I never get asked out - ever. I've been asked out twice in my life and I'm 33 years old. I've never had a boyfriend. When I was 26, a work acquaintance was dumbfounded by this. She said "but you're such a nice person". Now that I'm 33, I think people think I'm just plain weird or a loser. I can explain the rejection when I was younger - I was overweight and young guys hate overweight girls. I was always the friend that they were nice to so they could meet my thin friends. However, that's years ago now. But I have slimmed down a lot to a size 6-8, people comment on how attractive I am, I am well groomed and have nice clothes, I'm pleasant to everyone and have a lot of interests to share. I go out but I don't meet many single people socially because all my guy friends are married. What else can I do to attract someone? I feel really frustrated and it's beginning to make me feel bad about myself.
norajane Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 There's nothing wrong with you, unless you're a little shy or reserved when you do meet single men. You can change that pretty easily just by smiling more and making lots of eye contact with them. But it sounds like you're just not meeting single men? You can try getting involved in activities where you are more likely to, things like joining co-ed softball team, or hiking club, or after-hours social hours at museums (I know in my city they have those at the art museum and contemporary art museum). Other options are to let your friends know that you'd like to meet more guys. Someone always knows someone single, but if they don't know you're looking, they won't try to set you up. Going to every party you're invited to also can open up the options. Volunteering at something you like to do is a great way to meet other good people who like to help others - city gardens, habitat for humanity, animal shelters. Then there's the personals. I've never tried those, but some of my friends have met nice people online, so it might be worth a shot. If nothing else, put a profile out there, and the responses will probably boost your self-esteem.
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