how to say no to sex when your bf wants it ?

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my boy friend n i just got together within a week,,.. n he kept on asking me to sleep with him. I am not anti of it, it just that i dont want to do it too often .

i dont want the sex becomes the main thing in relationship. I told him that i dont want to move too fast. I want to do it in the right time.

well...guys what should i say to make him understand ? how to say it in nice way ?

gals, any opinion ?

[FredTravels]

Said pretty well as it was. If he does not want to respect that...ditch the bastard!

[superconductor]

... iit just that i dont want to do it too often .

i dont want the sex becomes the main thing in relationship.

Speaking as a guy, sex is extremely important in a relationship. It may not be the main thing, but it's pretty close to the top of the list.

[Adunaphel]

The way you said it *is* a nice one.

You might want to repeat it the way you said it the first time, just in case he did not get the message clearly.

If he insists, you might remind him that pushing you to have sex is not respectful of you or of your feelings.

If you do not like/are not confortable with whatever reaction he might have, or if he insists again, dump his ass.

[rina_r]

Speaking as a guy, sex is extremely important in a relationship. It may not be the main thing, but it's pretty close to the top of the list.

 

I am a gal but I agree to this.

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I am a gal but I agree to this.

 

i understand that sex is a part of the relationship. But we just did it 2 days ago and he wants it again . I dont want to do it as if taking medicine 3 times a day, and in the end, there is no meaning of it anymore. I want him to really treasure the moment .

and frankly, i begin to question his sincerity ...

i am just not into physical things....

 

btw.. i am not lesbian or frigid.