Guest Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 Hey guys I'm in highschool becoming a sophmore... Well the problem with me is i dont really call girls,cuz im scared because ill run out of things to say.. Well i think i can hook up with this girl if i start calling her, which i dont...I just wished i had that "Game"... im probably just to nice, sweet kinda guy... Well guys ive chatted with her many times online, but that gets kinda boring... Well i need some strageties, i need a spark, so i could keep on calling this special girl all the time but no over doing it, i dont wanna run out of things to say, and have ackward silences, i wanna make her laugh And when we are in our lunch tables... i get quiet and get bored, i hang out with all the kewl kids and stuff, wish i had better conversation, so anyone please...girls, guys help...thanx Matt G.
Guest Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 think ahead. just try to get on one topic for a while, and things could come together. if they dont, then think ahead. if u have to, write a list of stuff to talk about just in case you do have that silence. and remember that if it gets to that point where you are completely clueless on what to say, tell her u hafta go b4 the awkwardness starts. having a short conversation with her will show her you are intersted. and obviously, ask her to a movie over the phone or something if that silence comes. i hate ttalking on the phone, and i am soooo quiet. ive been going out with my girlfriend for 2 months and i still get momenets of silence almost everytime when i call her, but im fine in person. im 17 by the way. so, ask this girl out to dinner, or something. if your nervous and have nothing to say, you cant go wrong with that. trust me, ask her to a movie or if you cant drive,find a way to see her no matter where it is , as long as its in person. just do it.
pseudofemme Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 The secret to being good at conversations is to ask questions. Most people love to talk about themselves. If you can get this girl to start talking about herself, you won't have to say much, except to add in more questions so she keeps talking. It sounds stupid, but she'll remember the conversation as being awesome and will think of you as a good conversationalist. The key here is to ask open-ended questions. That means questions that can't be answered with yes/no. Get her to elaborate whenever possible. Ask questions about how her summer was, what she did on vacation, what classes she's taking, how the teachers are, gossip about other students, her family, her friends, her favorite class, that awful test in math (or English or whatever), so on. Whatever she answers, form another question from her answer. If she answers with just one word, make her elaborate on it. Not everything you say has to be a new topic. In fact, that's bad, and will kill a conversation faster than anything. Example of what NOT to do--vague questions, one-word answers, changing topics too much: You: "What's up?" Her: "Not much." (Silence) You: "So did you have a good summer?" Her: "Yeah." You: "That's good." (Silence) You: "Are you taking _____ (some class) this year?" Her: "Yeah." You: "Cool." (Silence) etc. Example of what to do--keep building off her answers and let her talk about herself: You: "So did you have a good summer?" Her: "Yeah." You: "What did you do? Go anywhere fun?" Her: "Yeah, I went to Mexico for a few weeks." You: "Awesome. I've never been there, what's it like?" Her: "It's really cool, the beaches are [blah blah blah] and we stayed at [blah blah blah]." You: "That sounds fun. I went to Canada (or another country) last year, it was [blah blah blah]. Do you go to other countries a lot?" Etc. What makes someone good at conversations isn't that they say all kinds of witty comments and do a lot of talking; it's that they know how to encourage the other person to say more, and are good listeners who don't interrupt. That's what most girls love. Act very interested in her life and she'll appreciate it. There won't be awkward silences if you keep building off the things she says to you. The conversation will progress naturally.
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