Diver012 Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 I read an article earlier today that basically describes what I believe happenes to a lot of people here posting... A series of questionaries were published and numerous experiments conducted and a conclusion was drawn that insecure people, who claimed that their loved ones could never accept them for who they were, would distance themself from this person, and dump them first, before the other had a chance to, thus protecting themself from the pain and rejection of not being good enough for the one that they loved. Just thought it was an interesting article...
leopardprint Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 Whoa. Whoa. You just described my ex to a tee. Did you read this article online? If so, do you mind PMing me the URL - I'd love to read it.
magichands Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 , thus protecting themself from the pain and rejection of not being good enough for the one that they loved. The cruel irony of it, though. Self-sabotage. One could argue that the deeper in you are, the more it hurts - if it doesn't work out... but that's what makes trust (and love) so special. So powerful. If you can meet with triumph and disaster and treat those two impostors just the same?? You can't get a whole heart without giving a whole one. And no - I'm not drunk.
TheSilentType Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 Interesting. I'd like to read that article. What's the source?
Mollyanna Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 I don't believe many of us SHOULD read it. It just gives us one more false hope to hold onto, that somehow we can change the situation and make it better.
In Sync Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 I agree with Mollyana's statement, "I don't believe many of us SHOULD read it. It just gives us one more false hope to hold onto, that somehow we can change the situation and make it better." Acceptance that something ended is hard, don't make it harder for yourself trying justify why your ex pulled away. They did. Forever reason they did. And why should we care what their reasons were anyway?
Author Diver012 Posted August 24, 2006 Author Posted August 24, 2006 Im to much of a tinkerer. I like to understand why things are the way they are. That helps me put things into the proper perspective I suppose. In my case my Ex had some serious insecurities, but I think at the end of it all, it was here CP side that took over. I guess the closure that I came up with for myself is that shes completely mental!!
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