Guest Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 I've posted here before about my MM. Today he said he can't stay away from me, even at the risk of losing everything, meaning his family. The W is suspicious we believe she was tipped off by someone even though we are so very cautious when we meet. Yes I know its wrong but I can not help that I love him. He told me from the start that he would never leave the W or his kids, and I would never want him to! I like my life as it is, my kids are grown and I am free to go and do as I please. I never expected him to tell me that he can't help risk it because he needs to see me. I am in shock and to be honest scared because I do not want to see him get hooked on me. Yes I know we are both wrong, we both know it. We have a very close relationship and can talk about everything, but I always believed it to be just sex for him.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 Just relax. It is most likely only a temporary moment of passion that overcame his senses when he told you this. Give it a week or two. He will not want to leave his wife - or lose everything - for this.
Guest Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 Just relax. It is most likely only a temporary moment of passion that overcame his senses when he told you this. Give it a week or two. He will not want to leave his wife - or lose everything - for this. We have been together for two years, I know he has no intention of leaving his wife! Nor would I want him to, I am just worried he is becoming attached to me. He has said things in moments of passion before and I have just written them off to being in the moment, talk. This was told when we were just talking nothing going on if you know what I mean. There was no throws of passion when he said it. We have both told each other at one time or another that we love each other, that is not what this was about.
lyfelite Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 I agree with Knowhoelovefeels. Just wait it out. I have been there before twice. He's said he is leaving-- leaves but goes back after a few months. Look I was like you the first time. I Did and don't want my MM leaving his wife. And when it happend the first time I was like great now what? I mean do you think I'm suppose to take up where this other woman left off. Hell no. So I told him look you have it way better over there. He didn't and still doesn't agree with that statement but He went back eventually. And then the second time... I was very close to having a ready-made family. As he was fed up with the W and asked if I could look into school here to transfere his sons too. Now Image shock - surprise nearly vomitting. Because god knows at the time I was not ready for all that type change. Sometimes you have to talk your MM down from the ledge- at least this is the way I look at it. I said to him to take a few weeks or days and to think about what he was doing. And there you have it crissis averted. So tell him to stop being over emotional and to think about his decission. I hate to say it but sometimes we also have to put ourselves in their shoes. Meaning that if you were complete tired of dealing with this other person ( the W) or you really trueely wanted to be with this other person ( the OW) then what would you do.
reneet Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 Have you read my posts? He moved in with me right away. Told his wife he didn't love her anymore. End of story.
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