Guest Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 My boyfriend, and father of my child, has a history of getting serious very quickly in his relationships. He dated one girl for a little over a year and just a few months after they started dating, he brought her to Las Vegas for his sister's wedding. We just recently moved back to his hometown and, whenever we visit his parents or sister, I have to stare at pictures of him with his arms around her in his sister's wedding photos of the entire family together. These photos are hung up in the living rooms of both his parents and his sister's houses. It drives me nuts. What I hate also is that she's insanely pretty - I know this is my own insecurity but I hate it. I'm also not looking forward to our son being old enough to ask "who's that with daddy in the pictures"? Am I stupid for being upset about this?
Guest Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 My boyfriend, and father of my child, has a history of getting serious very quickly in his relationships. He dated one girl for a little over a year and just a few months after they started dating, he brought her to Las Vegas for his sister's wedding. We just recently moved back to his hometown and, whenever we visit his parents or sister, I have to stare at pictures of him with his arms around her in his sister's wedding photos of the entire family together. These photos are hung up in the living rooms of both his parents and his sister's houses. It drives me nuts. What I hate also is that she's insanely pretty - I know this is my own insecurity but I hate it. I'm also not looking forward to our son being old enough to ask "who's that with daddy in the pictures"? Am I stupid for being upset about this? That's a very frustrating problem. However, it would be really out of place for you to demand his family remove wedding pictures that hang in their home. Unfortunately, you will pretty much have to just suck this one up, in my opinion When you visit, try to position yourself so that you are not looking directly at any of those pictures. Also, try inviting them to your house more often if they like to get together. Maybe try to get your home the 'social gathering' place, so you don't have to spend as much time over there. And try to remind yourself, he is no longer with her for a reason. He chose YOU
MyRainyDay Posted August 24, 2006 Posted August 24, 2006 I think a great thing to do would be to take MANY family pictures or professional pictures of you two as a couple, and all three of your little family. Then when they come in, be sure to give his family Large framed copies of them ready to hang! So, although there may be pictures of this OLD ex of his.. there will be NEW and RECENT pictures of you 2 together with your child!! Just an idea! ) And heck.. ur the mother of his child... you have WAY more then a "pretty face".. )
luvstarved Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 Yeah I think it's just unfortunate. I agree with other posters, you can't ask them to take them down, but you can offer NEW ones with you! As for the son's future question: just say, "An old friend..." or something. I would answer the question quickly and without emotion. Don't give it importance it does not deserve...
Touche Posted August 26, 2006 Posted August 26, 2006 This is a perfect example of why it's a great idea to MARRY (now, there's a concept!) BEFORE you have a child. See had you done that, the ex would have been removed to make room for pictures of the WIFE. See how that works?
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