Tired of instigating sex. Want husband to make me horny!

[lovelylady1234]

I read the post about "how to make my husband horny" but this is a different situation. I want him to make me horny.

 

I have been married for 6 years and my husband had not instigated sex for at least a year, if not more. Don't get me wrong it usually doesn't take much to get him in the mood, but I am getting a complex. I am starting to feel "unattractive" I have recently stopped instigating to see how long it will take. I am starting to feel like I may never have sex again. I want him to want me. Can't a girl get taken advantage of once in a while. I mentioned it to him and he starts to feel like I am attacking him or his manhood. NOT THE CASE. And it's not only sex affection as a whole is a big issue. Advice please!

[dignity]

I have gone through this very thing. Find out if he is masturbating. Find out if he is looking at porn. I am attractive, young and thin. You would be surprised at how common a problem this is.

[dignity]

I have gone through this very thing. Find out if he is masturbating. Find out if he is looking at porn. I am attractive, young and thin. You would be surprised at how common a problem this is. Keep us posted.

[dignity]

i have gone through this very thing. find out if he is masterbating. find out if he is looking at porn. this problem is so common. i know it doesn't feel that way to you.

[RecordProducer]

Find a boyfriend!

[marriedwithtwo]

Sounds VERY familiar. I wish, just once in a while she would do SOMETHING to try to "get" me or attract me. Come into the room wearing something sexy, tease me, grab me, something. I just can't fathom how, if she loves me so much (so she says) that she just doesn't need or want me.

[a4a]

My H suffers from a respect issue with me...... he feels like if he comes onto me often or physically "assaults" me it is disrespectful.

 

However he is a hand holder, light lip kisser, and cuddler.

 

I want some throw me against the wall surprise sex.

 

In our entire relationship he has done this once.

 

And yes he is well aware of it...... thus his respect issue excuse.

 

He too makes me feel unwanted and unattractive. More so maybe because other men come onto me strongly.....but not him......the one that should be.

[JackJack]

Could be a number of things. Maybe he is depressed or stressed? Are there any medical issues going on that you know of? Anything else seem odd that you have noticed other than him not wanting sex as much?

[Guest]

I agree with the latter post. Get a boyfriend! I don't think that there is hope.