Brittanyjean06 Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 Not gonna talk about the stages or the sleepless nights. But about the eeryiness( if thats how you spell it, which I doubt ) and that weird feeling you get, the hazyness...of the world outside your door step when going through heartache. I have been on here for a year now, and it is almost the fall, halloween..the fair chrismass ex...and all those same feelings are just submergeing just because I remember how TERRIBLE i felt last year..anyone know what im talking about?
loveinlife Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 I know what you are talking about, most definitely. Fall and Winter, those cold days that my ex and I used to go out and wear tons of cloths and in the car driving to go shopping and rent movies to watch. Esp those holidays too. Buying gifts for her family and all and Thanksgiving Dinners. But its gonna be okay. However, it would be better to have someone share those times and listen to those Christmas songs tho. Yeah those sleepless nights.... I still get those, its been 6 months that my sleeping cycle has been wack! Ever since the day before Valentines Day when I tried to ask her out for dinner, but wasn't able to reach her. Damn I remembered how fast she moved from me to another guy. Crazy! I could never do that to my ex. Its disrespectful. Esp from one relationship to the next. Good luck to you BrittanyJean06, we'll be alright!
sickkitty Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 Yep it definitely sucks huge ass!!!!!!!!!!! My sleeping patterns r sh*t when im awake all i wnt 2 do is go 2 sleep forget about everything, then when i try and sleep my mind wonders Its not helping that my ex is going on holiday with his new gf (which he got with 1 week after he left me) so i no what u r saying loveinlife & BritanyJean and how u r feeling! it is totally disrespectful and makes me especially feel rejected and deeply hurt! I only hope our ex's feel deeper pain than we do right now! Amanda xx
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted August 27, 2006 Author Posted August 27, 2006 well my ex is engadged I'm sure hes not feeling anything at all of what I'm feeling But I am ALOT better:)
loveinlife Posted August 28, 2006 Posted August 28, 2006 Yeah things happen quick and it just seemed like all the things we used to do doesn't mean much. Maybe its for the better that it happened. They are happier and we just need to find someone else who will treat us better than our ex. Actually, let them come to us, looking does not help trust me, it seems forever, I think BrittanyJean06 said something about that before and its true! _____________________________________________________ I know my ex wasn't perfect, but being my first she was special.
Delicaterose00 Posted August 29, 2006 Posted August 29, 2006 Oh my Brit, how are you sweetie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Still no BF, me neither, keep finding jerks!! I know what you are talking about. My ex and I used to go to every fair or carnival in the summer and this summer I remembered it as I saw the signs and such and its been a year with out him and a few months... Yes honestly, I miss him and his family still... but I do not dwell on it. As soon as we find another BF we wont care anymore, but until then, they are our last memory of comfort and happiness.... so therefore; we think about it. I actually am truly looking forward to moving out again ... I have put worrying about getting a BF on the side and am deciding where I want to work and were I want to live... .. and I dont have anyone stopping me. .lmao... so thats good right.. i hope your doing as good as you say you are.. dont worry... we will be juuusssttt fine.
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted August 31, 2006 Author Posted August 31, 2006 hahahah HEY!!!!! You always tend to be pop up some how:) We will be just fine, I know that hehe:) Muah!
Rooster_DAR Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 I know this post is a little old, but it's relevant to me right now. Heading into the holiday season, I fear the memories that I will be experiencing. Embracing the one you loved on a cold day, visting their family on the holidays and the special moments. God how pathetic I sound.
loveinlife Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 I agree with you Rooster Dar... We may never forget about them, but we shouldn't allow our past be in our way of doing our best and enjoying life. I understand your pain, hope you are doing better.
Rooster_DAR Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Thanks loveinlife. I don't know your story, but it sounds like you got burned just as bad. Someone that moves from one relationship to the next that fast has major issues.
CrushedOrgans Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 and all those same feelings are just submergeing just because I remember how TERRIBLE i felt last year..anyone know what im talking about? i know exactly what you mean. i don't have much advice, but i just wanted you to know you're not alone.
Ruff Ryder Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 Well the pain is forever alive inside. Its almost a year since me and the ex fiance split up. We saw eachother for a long time after infact only till 3 months ago did the NC start. She has moved on and in with the new man and Im sitting at home infront of my PC. Do I miss her YES is it harder this time of year YES but Im stronger everyday and have a date with a wonderful lady tomorrow night (the second date infact) YAY. It gets better with time. I dont think it will go away completly for a while but it is fading to grey. Good luck all.
My_Other_I Posted September 3, 2006 Posted September 3, 2006 I've read somewhere that your body has an internal calendar, like it celebrates anniversaries regarless of what your life is about now. Let's say that you did something special with your ex last Halloween. Even if you try not remembering it, your body does somehow recognize it. I don't know if it's true but I believe it. My 'anniversaries' are already making me sick, no matter how insignificant the past is at this point of my life.
BannaBee57 Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 Ugh! My anniversary with my ex is Halloween...would have been 3 years. It was our favorite time of the year. I don't know how I'll feel in two months but I hope it won't hit me as hard as I fear it will.
Rooster_DAR Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 How long have you been broken up? Did she/he dump you? Hang in there, it will get better with time. Crap, I hope I don't fall apart around the holidays.
the_alchemyst Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 Well the pain is forever alive inside. Only if you let it. The pain inside is precisely the very thing you want to void yourself of, if you are ever to attain inner peace, tranquility, and happiness. Or be able to truly move on.
loveinlife Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 Its labor day and I am working today. The feeling of being a holiday makes me think that my ex is going to go on a trip with her current bf really sucks. I wish I have someone special to hangout with. :lmao:
Rooster_DAR Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 Well if you lived where I'm at I will chill out with ya. I understand the holiday this weekend, I'm in the same boat. Whats different with me, is my EX starting taking trips out of town over a year ago and about every holiday since then she's done that. She claimed it was either business or with friends, but my gut tells me different, and I wasn't included. I guess I'm used to it by now. I used to live in the Bay Area, what part do U live in? I lived in San Jose, Santa Clara, and Santa Cruz.
loveinlife Posted September 4, 2006 Posted September 4, 2006 Thanks Rooster_Dar. I guess I feel a bit better now that I know I'm not the only one having felt this way. Im from the Vallejo Benicia area. Just have to stay kewl... I'm sure we'll find our next mate. First Love is hard to break though.
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted September 4, 2006 Author Posted September 4, 2006 On chrismas will be 1 year and 6 months of my break up and Nc. I'll be thankful for all that precious time that has gone by because I can't even compare to how I feel now to How I felt a year ago when all this happen and when the holidays came. Though the cold weather and the leaves blowing opens up my heartache a little bit because they trigger an emotional spot with the ex. Sometimes things still feel weird and hazy but I can easily jump out of them better now. I sympathize with your heartache people. and wish you luck on the holidays are coming up. Especially those who have just broken up. Happens everyday so you are not alone:)
Rooster_DAR Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 Brittany, it's always a pleasure to hear your topics. As for you lovinlife, fist lov eis only the beginning of a long jouney. Hate to sound pessimistic, but you will proably expreience this more than once in your lifetime. I wish I could say it gets easier, but for me each time as been as bad or worse than the first. Keep chuggging along..
loveinlife Posted September 5, 2006 Posted September 5, 2006 Hopefully things will ease a lil for me. Same for all you guys who are trying to make your day go by without feeling bad. I didn't expect all this to happen, maybe I was living in this fantasy and felt that everything was going to work out between my ex and I before we broke up. I hope I don't have to go through this again. If I find a decent woman that I will fall in love again, I would make it happier and better.
Joyvke Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 I asked my ex if he wanted to keep 14 october availble. It would be our 3 year anniversary. He said yes. I don't know. He is the one who broke up, but he wants to be friends when the ex relation isn't in the way, or so to say... Hello I AM the one being dumped here? ;p. Djeez. Hope he'll think different by then but I'm afraid he won't. He might be coming this christmas, because my family will be in Australia and I'm not sure if my brother is at home or with his girlfriend. Don't want to spend it alone, but can't leave the house because of our dog with diabeties (??). Only thing I would really miss if that if it's snowing here, which is quite rare, I can't watch it with my hubby... And he doesn't hold me while we will both watch it . *sigh*. I liked to watch stars as well but since he got a new job he's always too tired. Well when we were together, just pretend my grammar was written in the past tence ;p.
swirly27 Posted September 8, 2006 Posted September 8, 2006 I agree, the holidays can be a bad time, but luckily for me I didn't experience any holidays with my ex.....but if you miss someone, the holidays can still suck because I would have liked to have spent them with him. But when we are going thru the pain and heartbreak, everything can trigger a response or a memory. Think back to your first heartbreak though and something can come up that reminds me of that person and it no longer 'hurts' at all, it is just a mere memory....so at least one day thats how it will be with the current person you are heartbroken over. I agree with you Rooster_DAR though that with each breakup, not always even being the one dumped but also the dumper, gets harder and harder....you'd think it'd get easier but its not usually the case. UGH! Last time I went thru a hard heartbreak, I tried to throw myself into things, projects and traveling to make myself feel better. Guess I need to start that again, but I always try to do things to make myself happy cause we have to take care of ourselves. Being lonely just sucks!! Too bad they didn't have an LS conference or something where all of us broken-hearted could come together and meet and chat and it would be something everyone could do to get away and get out of the house! HAHA
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