BUTAFLY Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 I saw my ex today. Its been about a month r & I found myself wishing bad things apon him. I have waited for Karma, God,to serve him his just dues but nothing. I am so tired of waiting...I had bad thought run through my mind after seeing him and I feel kinda guilty but I do wish hurtful things upon him. Is this bad? Do any of you wish bad things upon someone?...did it come true? did you regrete it if it did?
SW2408 Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 I am sorry for your hurt. I would never wish bad things upon anyone. What I do wish for is the other person to move on and find their own happiness. I do wish the same for myself. I also do know there is a lesson to be learned from a breakup. Why would you want someone else to hurt? Because you do? How selfish is that? The faster and easier you get thru the pain (deal with it not just shove it away somewhere) you will start to heal and from there you will begin to wish for better things to come. Good Luck, Shari
ZICKAR Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 You can wish all the bad thoughts you want so what Never heard of anyone get killed by a bad thought...So what the hell think all the bad thoughts you want and remember..........have fun
Author BUTAFLY Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 You can wish all the bad thoughts you want so what Never heard of anyone get killed by a bad thought...So what the hell think all the bad thoughts you want and remember..........have fun Although I truly don't normally do wish bad things on people but he diserves it. but nothing but good is coming his way, new job promotion, new truck, won a work raffle; who the hell wins these things! you know the kind. You fill out a form and put it into a box never to hear from them again and you never hear of anyone winning the damn thing and low and behold he wins....I'll be a money's uncle! He just got back from a cruise with his wife and if I hear one more F'ing story about how lovely it was I will bloody scream!!!! He dated me for 7 months, I fell deep in love, he told me he wanted to get married. We browsed catalogs for rings, looked a place to move together, I met his family and friends....I was one cloud nine. Then one day a coworker of mine informed me that my bf was getting married in a few days:eek: I thought there was some mistake or cruel joke, but turned out it was true. I'm sorry but he doesn't deserve any of this good fortune.
superconductor Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 ...one day a coworker of mine informed me that my bf was getting married in a few days... See? It worked. Channelling all that negativity towards him, and now he'll be saddled with a wife and, likely, a divorce settlement. Karma. It's a bitch, ain't it?
Author BUTAFLY Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 See? It worked. Channelling all that negativity towards him, and now he'll be saddled with a wife and, likely, a divorce settlement. Karma. It's a bitch, ain't it? He was engaged WHILE we were dating, while we were looking for a place of our own, while we were shopping for wedding rings. He had no intention of any of that with me because he was scheduled to get married in Aruba in 6 days . MY problem is Karma is not a bitch, more like a sweet ol' lady giving candy to a F'ing predetor. I am fed up on waiting, fed up on watching good things come by him. ARRGGG!!!!!!! Divorce? No she is just as bad...she fought long and hard for him and she got him. Llike attracts like I guess.
no1really Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 butafly.. i know how you feel iam having the same feeling for my ex i know it wrong but i cant help it really. i do try but knowing they together and doing things we used to do ..well things we should be doing together it hurts. so you are not the only 1 atm karma isit around for me but iam it will be for us all
swirly27 Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 BUTA- I am so sorry to hear about this ordeal, that must be horrible. I am going thru my own grieving process of being hurt over a guy that I dated for a short time.....I could not even imagine to begin planning on moving in and talking of weddings to only find out he was engaged already. What the hell did he say to you when this all was confronted??? The only thing I can say is at least you know he is POND SCUM and alot of other words I can't really type here. He is a coward and a lowlife and he doesn't deserve any thoughts you would waste on him. WOW. That is horrible. The best karma you can expect is that you will find someone that is loyal and respectful and you will be happy with him and this other guy, he'll probably never be happy. Did his fiance hear about all of this?
lonelybird Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 Once I ever wished ex's penis would broken:p , but he is still fine:laugh: . and I can wish he would get a better life now.
agoraphobia Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 You don't worry. Everyone eventually gets what's coming to them. It may not be today or tommorow or when you want it to happen, but Karma is a beautiful bitch that will bite you in the ass when you least expect it. We all get what we give, that is the beauty of life, and it's inescapable. You will probably not even be around when your ex will get it stuck to him. It may be years down the line when you don't even remember anymore that you ever dated him. But it will come back on him and he WILL think of you and all the other people he's hurt then. My ex cheated and lied to me and several other women he cheated on me with. None of us knew about the other. I leave him be and wait for that one woman he's going to give his heart and soul to and she will take put it in a blender and grind it up for him to drink. ..oooh it's coming. I'm not even worried about it one bit.
Author BUTAFLY Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 BUTA- I am so sorry to hear about this ordeal, that must be horrible. I am going thru my own grieving process of being hurt over a guy that I dated for a short time.....I could not even imagine to begin planning on moving in and talking of weddings to only find out he was engaged already. What the hell did he say to you when this all was confronted??? The only thing I can say is at least you know he is POND SCUM and alot of other words I can't really type here. He is a coward and a lowlife and he doesn't deserve any thoughts you would waste on him. WOW. That is horrible. The best karma you can expect is that you will find someone that is loyal and respectful and you will be happy with him and this other guy, he'll probably never be happy. Did his fiance hear about all of this? He told me that he was engaged and she broke it off. They didn't speak for weeks and a few months into our relationship she wanted him back, but he didn't want to loose me either. So he continued with the wedding plans and strung me along too. I think all that is bull....he think she never called it off and he was engaged the whole time, my world completely crumbled I wrote a letter explaining everything and giving dates and details, for ex we took a weekend getaway...he had to tell her something, so i wrote where we went and gave the dates so the letter would have some credibility to it. Well apparently I mailed the letter too late because they left on their wedding/ honeymoon for a week and when they got back , he moved into her house. So i don't know if he got to it first, if family she lives with opened it and read it and perhaps decided not to give it to her. Or if she got and didn't believe or believed & forgave him becasue they just got married. At times I think if i mailed it sooner would she still have married him? So many if's but the fact remains they are still together and he seems really proud of himself. And why not, he got away with murder and is constantly being rewarded.
swirly27 Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 BUTA- What sucks is you feel so strongly that he deserves to get his....and he does....and he will. Karma does always come back around...but not always in the ways we think. He may live happily ever after with this woman and you will move on and find someone that would never do that to you....that could be karma enough because he has to live with what he did and if he was able to do this to her and you now, imagine how it will be after being married. But, maybe I am wrong, either way, he is a schmuck and you deserve better and you should be glad enough to know you'll find better....and she won't. What sucks is getting to feel that way, because its gotta hurt now, but you will move on and find someone worthy. The worst thought I usually think of an ex is I wish I never met them.....but then once I am moved on, I always can look back and know I was meant to experience that for some reason or another. I can't wait till I feel that way about the current guy I am broken hearted over. Compared to my situation though, I can't imagine if I was talking wedding plans with my guy and found out what you found out, so stay strong and just know you deserve way better!!
Agent M Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 I'd be careful with the bad thoughts. I've had them bounce back to ME and create bad karma for ME, while the ex is skipping merrily along. On the other hand I don't blame you for being SO PISSED and thinking those bad thoughts. I've been there and it's gotten the best of me. I also believe as the above poster said that what comes around goes around. He'll get his just due, mark my words.
EnigmaXOXO Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 It happens. And it's pretty common. So long as it remains only in your head. "Thoughts" don't hurt anyone, Butafly. Words sting a little. But actions and vindictive behavior are the most hurtful of all. And for every action, there is a reaction … so that's when it can come back to bite you. Thoughts only become dangerous to yourself if you find yourself obsessing. It will make you physically and mentally sick. So the best way to safeguard yourself is to remove yourself from situations that serve as constant negative reminders, get busy occupying your mind with other positive things, even if that means taking a break from the forum if it isn't helping you to get past it and heal. Anger, disappointment and sorrow are only meant to be speed bumps on the journey of life … not our final destination. You don't want to get stuck there!
Adunaphel Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 Is this bad? It happens to many people to wish hurtful things to someone that made them suffer. It does not mean that you are a bad person - what is important is that you do not act on them. Do any of you wish bad things upon someone? Yes. Sometimes I do. ...did it come true? Sometimes it did, to a certain extent. Sometimes I wish someone something *really* bad, and it happens to them something not even remotely that bad but that reminds the 'bad wish' in some way. Coincidences. Yet... okay, I'm going to sound like I'm nuts, but who cares. It might be all coincidences, but I kind of believe...sort of believe...(or perhaps I would just like to believe) that hurting me brings bad luck to guys. did you regrete it if it did? No. Even if I*like*to think that hurting me on purpose brings brings bad luck to people, I know deep down(not even that deep ) that it is most likely nothing but coincidences. (okay, it is nothing but coincidences. without the "most likely" part). I still indulge in deluding myself from time to time, though, that something jinxes people that hurt me, but, hey, when I do so I'm basically fantasizing. Like I was fantasizing that I have super-powers (note to self: stop reading X-men comics) But let's pretend for a moment that it is not just coincidences. Just for the sake of it. (I am feeling like an idiot). Well, I'm sure that if I wished anything bad and *tried* with all my strenght to bring bad luck to someone who basically did not do anything bad to me (not on purpose, anyway), I could try all I want but it would not work. Shees. I'm as superstitious as a cave-girl from the Pleistocene. Now you know my dirty little secret.
Author BUTAFLY Posted August 23, 2006 Author Posted August 23, 2006 You guys have really good advice...Thanx for your posts it made me feel better.
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