pinkFirm Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 yrs on and off but the last 2 yrs we have not broken up. I am 23 and he is 35 -yes he's older but love him to death and i cannot go on a day without talking to him. The past year he has been staying at my house with my mom. But my mom wants me to work full-time to support her and i want to finish college- my boyfriend supports me on getting my education beacuse he accomplished his Bachelors Degree. We have decided to move into a nice apartment and he will take care of me as i finish my education and proceed to get a Master's. I am a little scared and well i think that if we been together this long it shouldn't be a problem. I am very happy when im with him that i get A's on my classes than when im without him i get miserable and my mom doesnt even care that im going to college. My boyfriend is my inspiration and the one who supports and encourages me to finish college. I want to get my education but i believe that with my mom on the way I will get behind and not finish. Am I making a smart decision moving out with my boyfriend to finish college in peace?
britchick Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 This is a difficult one isn't it? You have been together for quite a long time but then again you're only 23 and you don't seem certain that moving in with him is the right thing to do. It's such a shame your mother isn't supportive of you finishing your education, is there any particular reason she wants you to support her? My daughter is starting college in September and although it means I will have to work extra hours to support her I wouldn't dream of her not going (I'm back at University myself). Is there any way you could rent a room in a houseshare and work part time to support yourself? I'm not sure how it works in the US, but aren't there any educational grants or state maintenance you can apply for, while you complete your studies? In the UK we have student loans that are practically interest free, would you be able to get something like this? Sorry this is a long list of questions, it just seems that if you are unable to support yourself financially you are on your way to compromising your independence and living with someone who you don't seem sure of.
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