Author Ariadne Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 Hey That starts with loving yourself and knowing that you are complete. Being complete and sharing yourself with someone is so much more fulfilling. You don't need someone to be happy... Oh, I feel like I've been over and over that topic before (even in the other forum). The one that says that you should be happy with yourself without anyone else etc. I don't know Hopeful, I think people were meant to couple down. Is just that some have it easier than others. Ariadne __________________ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥
Author Ariadne Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 Hi, In future, maybe you should try not to make a relationship the main purpose of your life. Find something else meaningful... I've been trying to do that, that's like the million dollar question. Ariadne __________________ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥
Author Ariadne Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 Hi, Thanks for your input Tony. I always liked what Forrest Gump had to say about life: "I don't know if we each have a destiny, or if we're all just floatin' around accidental-like on a breeze. But I, I think maybe it's both, maybe both happening at the same time." Well, in Taoism I read that the same way that seasons change, that's how humans go through whatever it is they are going through, in their floating around ways. Maybe the universe has an answer that I don't, Ariadne __________________ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥
Author Ariadne Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 Hi, So WHY are you here? Not on LS, but on the planet? This is the existential question we all have to answer and until you do, nothing will satisfy you, all will disappoint. Yeah, I can't even figure it out. Ariadne __________________ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥
Author Ariadne Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 Hi, Accept your grieving process. The more you try to push it away the more it will encroach on other areas of your life. Thank you, Ariadne __________________ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥
Mollyanna Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 Ariadne: have you ever thought of getting a new career? One that you can be passionate about? I am thinking about it. Maybe I will go back to school.
Author Ariadne Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 Hey, Ariadne: have you ever thought of getting a new career? One that you can be passionate about? Rofl, hey, I'm thinking of becoming the Mother Teresa of LA, the Peace Corps woman, the new Lady Diana... Sigh.... who knows what on earth I'll do. Maybe the therapist will help me with that, I'll see her on Thursday. Ariadne __________________ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥
Mollyanna Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 i am still thinking of the Peace Corp. Or becoming a guidance counselor, or a psychiatric nurse I need to make a therapist appointment myself... So glad you are doing that for yourself.
Author Ariadne Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 Hey, i am still thinking of the Peace Corp. Or becoming a guidance counselor, or a psychiatric nurse Yeah, psychiatric nurse is a good one. Because I think that people are not understood. People want to impose their way of thinking in the patients and trying to make some sense, when people just think differently. Hey, I forgot monk, that another thing I might like, I think. I need to make a therapist appointment myself... So glad you are doing that for yourself. Well, this is the first time ever. All the others I quit after two or three sessions, so not sure how long I'll stick to this one. But we'll see, I'm running out of choices. Ariadne __________________ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥
Mollyanna Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 Can Monks have sex? If not, I can't do that one. lol
Author Ariadne Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 Hey, Can Monks have sex? If not, I can't do that one. lol Yeah, that's the thing. I don't know. But when I read stories of sages I feel like I want to be one. That would be the coolest!!! (Ariadne the wise sage.......) Ariadne
Mollyanna Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 lol how funny. I don't have enough self control to do anything like that. I am way too spontaneous and impulsive.
Author Ariadne Posted August 22, 2006 Author Posted August 22, 2006 Oh, That's a trait of the sages. They are spontaneous and impulsive too. They mean what they say, and do as they please. Here's an article about the Modern Taoist Sage. I feel like I have some of those traits (crazy and all) Ariadne _________________ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥ ~ ♥
Outcast Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 I figured if you were with the right person they you'd be happy forever. I figured that all those things were nothing and easily overcome if you were with your soulmate (or whatever you want to call it). Nope. Sorry. Life doesn't work like that. Sure, it's great to have a nice person around, but that absolutely does NOT make you happy forever, nor does it make the stuff that happens to you easy to overcome. I don't want to be medicated though. What would you say to a diabetic who said that? Your body is supposed to keep your serotonin and dopamine levels regulated. However, it screws up sometimes and gives you too much of one or too little of another and that affects your mood. You are being 'medicated' daily by your own body in that it manufactures chemical substances that make your systems work. When they get out of balance, there is nothing wrong with topping up your levels with meds - just the way if you are short of iron you have to take iron pills or if you have scurvy you need to take Vitamin C.
Author Ariadne Posted August 23, 2006 Author Posted August 23, 2006 Hi, Nope. Sorry. Life doesn't work like that. Well, I really have no experience with that because I have failed at every soulmate attempt. So it's hard for me to say. But I've read tons about it, and I do believe that there's a blessing with being with your soulmate. And I think it is easier to shoulder the trepidations of life when you are two to support each other...when one is down, or sick, than to do it on your own. I'm not saying it is impossible, just harder. Your body is supposed to keep your serotonin and dopamine levels regulated. I believe that. Just that there are other ways of regulating those serotoning levels without resorting to medication. Exercise, sun, a healthy diet, music, and other natural ways. But thanks for your support, I think I'm feeling better today. I have my moods and despairs sometimes. Ariadne
Becoming Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 Did it ever occur to you that this belief in Prince Charming and soulmates is bogus? There really is no such thing as the happily ever after. Perhaps because if we knew what happened after we married the guy we'd never bother and never procreate.
Tony T Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 Did it ever occur to you that this belief in Prince Charming and soulmates is bogus? There really is no such thing as the happily ever after. Perhaps because if we knew what happened after we married the guy we'd never bother and never procreate. Beliefs are never bogus...they just ARE! We cannot search out soulmates and neither can they find us. Soulmates are meant to be that and the universe puts them together if only both are open to it and recognize each other. The process happens without our knowledge or control. The universe is so gentle is makes no point of advising that this person you have just met is your soulmate. It will happen just like the rain falls gently in the very spot each drop lands. We can only begin to live life and be happy when we cease to try. The act of trying, of searching, or forcing creates fatigue and disappointment. Desire creates a need to make things happen...and some things cannot be made to happen. Only when we leave our home each morning and let the sun and earth control our day can we find our soulmates, our personal contentment, our happiness. When we make those things important to occur, they will not. They cannot. The earth spins around the sun, not because it HAS to, but because it DOES. The ice melts, not so much because of the temperature, but because it is time to move on.
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