Guest Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 months. I spend every night almost at his house and he stays at my apartment a couple times a week. We get along great and are very much in love. We've met eachother's family and my mom loves him and his family feels the same. It seems like we've been together forever although it's only been 2 months. Is it too soon for me to be wanting him to ask me to move in with him? I've never ever felt this way about someone and he says the same thing. We have so much in common. We're going on vacation together in October. Should I wait and see what the outcome is after our vacation together? Should I bring up the issue then? Any advice is appreciated. Everyone says don't rush it. But we can't sleep without eachother. If we go a day without seeing eachother it's like torture. HELP!
Sally00 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 You should wait till marriage to move in together. There are so many things that can go wrong when you move in together before then... like say if you two broke up, it would be a lot harder to get over him. It's only been 2 months. Anything can happen. It's way too soon to even be thinking about moving in. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 6 months and we've been friends for a long time before that. We love each other very much, but aren't even thinking about moving in together. Marriage comes first, which is something we always talk about. And everyone is right... don't rush it. If my boyfriend and I go a day without seeing each other, yeah, it's torture. But it's only natural! Geez, you don't wanna get tired of them that fast lol. Plus, you're bound to be ATLEAST one day apart. It's reality... There is no way you can be with your boyfriend 24/7... husbands and wives don't even have that. You're going to have to learn that it's not like that.
norajane Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Moving in together after 2 months is the fastest way of killing the romance in a relationship. You'll burn out very quickly. If you have such a great relationship, it will still be great if you don't live together.
Outcast Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 When you've known him for six months or a year, you'll realize that you didn't know him all that well after only 2 months. Don't move in with him now.
heartbroken411 Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 My best friend moved in with her boyfriend after about 2 months and they've now been together for 3 years and are getting married in February. Of course, this is probably not the norm, but it can happen. It sounds to me however, that you are in the honeymoon phase and please don't kill me for saying this, but are not truly in love. Just by reading your post, it sounds like you're in lust and what gives it away is that you say you basically can't be without each other. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and trust me, sometimes I can't wait to get away from him! Haha. But I do love him very much. Also, the fact that you have to ask anonymous people if you should move in with your boyfriend or not means that you are not ready. It's like asking someone if you should lose your virginity. It's a very serious step and if you don't feel confident enough without having to ask complete strangers what you should do, that should be a tip off.
tikigods Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 wait till you ahve been together at least 6 months to a year! 2 months everything is still sunshine and lollypops, give the honeymoon a time to end and then ask him
rina_r Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 I moved in with my ex b/f after 2 weeks of dating. And no regrets. I soon found out what kind of person he was and after some time left him forever. Living together is a great way to learn a lot about a person.
Sally00 Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 It sounds to me however, that you are in the honeymoon phase and please don't kill me for saying this, but are not truly in love. Just by reading your post, it sounds like you're in lust and what gives it away is that you say you basically can't be without each other. ... Also, the fact that you have to ask anonymous people if you should move in with your boyfriend or not means that you are not ready. It's like asking someone if you should lose your virginity. It's a very serious step and if you don't feel confident enough without having to ask complete strangers what you should do, that should be a tip off. & I couldn't agree more.
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