AtLongLast Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Ok, first...I know this isn't a new topic and I don't mean it to be a male bashing session. To be frank, I would like men to comment too. \ My problem is this. I kinda like a macho man. Not so much that he is a complete *******, but I like a guy who can decide where to eat, plan a surprise, and be completly into his SO. I like a guy who doesn't care what his "boys" think about him being head over heels. I am not a feminist by nature. I actually believe that the women's movement has set things back in more areas than it has actually helped. But that is another thread.... I just think today, women have become too strong "something", but can't exactly place my finger on what exactly. At the same time, men have become the weaker sex. Call me old fashioned (I do), I am tired of dating men that I have to babysit. Put down the xbox controller for a second and talk to me. Let's go for a walk. Let's bitch about our day. Let's do something. I know that probably made no sense. Sorry about that. I am just frustrated about dating boys.
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 It is like the damn teenager thing..every generation thinks the newer generation is bad .... it has never been a matter of men not being men in this day and age, it just is once you reach a certain age you start to see things differently and your desires of the men in your life change.
Author AtLongLast Posted August 21, 2006 Author Posted August 21, 2006 My ideal guy. This is not all inclusive or a deal breakers post. Just what I like in a guy. 1. He knows what I like and will take the time to surprise me from time to time with little notes, gifts, and or make plans to do something fun without me having to spell it out for him. 2. He can talk or rather he can communicate. I don't care if a guy cries in front of me. Matter of fact, I find that sexy in a way. It's a trust thing I guess. 3. He doesn't have this raging obsession with video games. 4. He can hold a conversation with me. We can argue and he isn't hateful or a name caller. 5. We don't always have the same taste in food, music, or other things, but he is willing to try something I like. I will do the same. 6. He says "I love you" and really means it. 7. He doesn't let past relationships rule his mind or feelings for the present one. I don't think those things are very hard. Seems I always find boys instead of men.
Author AtLongLast Posted August 21, 2006 Author Posted August 21, 2006 It is like the damn teenager thing..every generation thinks the newer generation is bad .... it has never been a matter of men not being men in this day and age, it just is once you reach a certain age you start to see things differently and your desires of the men in your life change. Good Point. But it seems that men my age are looking for young tartlets. Guys who are older want someone my age, but they are full of crap on every level and I just can't deal.
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Good Point. But it seems that men my age are looking for young tartlets. Guys who are older want someone my age, but they are full of crap on every level and I just can't deal. I don't know about the tartlette thing but I would agree at this point I do not wish to deal. If my divorce does become a reality I will not date, just have sex with men when the need strikes me, and I will reside by myself at my lesbian soap making commune. I swore off dating and meaninful relationships 10 years ago.... but I fell off the wagon.
Asafan Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Roseanne: "Oh, you man, you!" (storms off). A.J.: "Why did mom call you a man like that? Isn't it okay to be a man?" John Goodman: "Naw, son. Not since the late sixties."
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 every woman would have a different idea of what a real man is. as every man would have a different idea of what a real woman is...... (barring trannies and cross dressers of course, that is not the subject)
Author AtLongLast Posted August 21, 2006 Author Posted August 21, 2006 Roseanne: "Oh, you man, you!" (storms off). A.J.: "Why did mom call you a man like that? Isn't it okay to be a man?" John Goodman: "Naw, son. Not since the late sixties." LMAO:lmao: . That's true too! But I would rather have a beer drinking construction working man than these pansy ass little boys I keep meeting. Geez.
JackJack Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 LMAO:lmao: . That's true too! But I would rather have a beer drinking construction working man than these pansy ass little boys I keep meeting. Geez. Kind of like how some women who have curly hair, want straight hair, and some women who have straight hair want curly hair and would pay big bucks to get it like that. Some women want a pansy guy, some want a rough construstion type. Some men want a a young looking tart, or one with really big boobs and no brains. Some want the librairain type. Very plain but real intellecutual type. Its the way of the world, maybe no one is ever truly happy with what one has.
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 My ideal guy. This is not all inclusive or a deal breakers post. Just what I like in a guy. 1. He knows what I like and will take the time to surprise me from time to time with little notes, gifts, and or make plans to do something fun without me having to spell it out for him. 2. He can talk or rather he can communicate. I don't care if a guy cries in front of me. Matter of fact, I find that sexy in a way. It's a trust thing I guess. 3. He doesn't have this raging obsession with video games. 4. He can hold a conversation with me. We can argue and he isn't hateful or a name caller. 5. We don't always have the same taste in food, music, or other things, but he is willing to try something I like. I will do the same. 6. He says "I love you" and really means it. 7. He doesn't let past relationships rule his mind or feelings for the present one. I don't think those things are very hard. Seems I always find boys instead of men. Just talking tongue in cheek here. When a guy is what you listed above, he invariably gets rejected or stepped on because he is too "nice". I'm struggling through that scenario right now. Sooooo, I'll counter with my ideal woman: 1. She appreciates the little things I do for her, like taking out the trash, fixing broken appliances or washing the dishes. 2. She is able to talk openly about her feelings, and doesn't play mind games that leave you insecure, questioning, or used. 3. She is able to understand that men are emotional being, maybe not to the same extent that women are, but men do need to talk about their feelings, their hopes and dreams. 4. She is not obsessed with her appearance, weight, diet or social status in society. 5. She understands that men are fundamentally different from women, and doesn't try to change or control me, but is able to express her needs and wants in a relationship. 6. She is a good communicator and loves to share her day with me. 7. She doesn't let past relationships rule her mind or feelings for the present one. So I'm with you, I always seem to find girls instead of women. Hey, you in the SoCal area? Heh heh just kidding.
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 duplicate post deleted, stupid broadband connection....
Author AtLongLast Posted August 21, 2006 Author Posted August 21, 2006 Just talking tongue in cheek here. When a guy is what you listed above, he invariably gets rejected or stepped on because he is too "nice". I'm struggling through that scenario right now. Sooooo, I'll counter with my ideal woman: 1. She appreciates the little things I do for her, like taking out the trash, fixing broken appliances or washing the dishes. 2. She is able to talk openly about her feelings, and doesn't play mind games that leave you insecure, questioning, or used. 3. She is able to understand that men are emotional being, maybe not to the same extent that women are, but men do need to talk about their feelings, their hopes and dreams. 4. She is not obsessed with her appearance, weight, diet or social status in society. 5. She understands that men are fundamentally different from women, and doesn't try to change or control me, but is able to express her needs and wants in a relationship. 6. She is a good communicator and loves to share her day with me. 7. She doesn't let past relationships rule her mind or feelings for the present one. So I'm with you, I always seem to find girls instead of women. Hey, you in the SoCal area? Heh heh just kidding. No, Florida. Sadly. Because I happen to agree with you. For the record the last several guys I have dated are not nice guys by any stretch of the imagination. I would give my left boob for a guy like you just described...
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 So I'm with you, I always seem to find girls instead of women. Hey, you in the SoCal area? Heh heh just kidding. I can be in CA in 5 hours or less.......
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 No, Florida. Sadly. Because I happen to agree with you. For the record the last several guys I have dated are not nice guys by any stretch of the imagination. I would give my left boob for a guy like you just described... I will give both YOUR boobs for a guy like that.......
SoCalCatman72 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 No, Florida. Sadly. Because I happen to agree with you. For the record the last several guys I have dated are not nice guys by any stretch of the imagination. I would give my left boob for a guy like you just described... Damm, why are all the nice girls on the opposite side of the country. Heck at this point I'd settle for one halfway across the country.... I can be in CA in 5 hours or less....... Sorry a4a, I've learned my lesson (painfully) about married women a long time ago.
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Damm, why are all the nice girls on the opposite side of the country. Heck at this point I'd settle for one halfway across the country.... Sorry a4a, I've learned my lesson (painfully) about married women a long time ago. Hey I am not going to be married for much longer!!!! Besides I am totally neglected and abandoned so I would be appreciative of the slightest amount of kindness or affection shown to me.
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