john1775 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 I would say about 75% of the time a woman will not break up with you until she has found another interest. Unless she was abused or cheated on in some way then she will stick around in an unhappy relationship to pass the time until a better and more promising prospect comes along. Men often think that their girlfriends fall out of love overnight. That's not the case unless you cheated on her or abused her. I would estimate that from the moment her attraction for you starts to decrease it will take approximately 6 months for her to give her break up speech. Six months is the minimum. It could take longer than that. Men need to be on the lookout for these signs of her losing interest and heading for a break up speech: These signs include but are not limited to the following: 1. Decreased sex drive. She may use the excuse that she has a headache or is on her period. She may already be getting her needs met from someone else. 2. Increased sex drive. She may increase sexual activity with you in order to cover up a secret affair she's having just to throw off any suspicions you might have. 3. Decreased frequency of phone calls. 4. Overly attentive to you because she fears that you suspect something is wrong. 5. Dying her hair a different color because she's setting herself up for a new relationship. 6. She requests space to cool off because she gets upset with you over trivial matters. She's a fault finder. 7. Spends more time talking to one particular guy friend than she does to you. 8. She doesn't make eye contact with you as much when she talks to you. 9. She's in a bad mood when you call her. 10. She's in a super good mood when you call her. She might be flattering you. Watch out!
superconductor Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 I have a shorter list, and I think it's probably more accurate. Maybe Pink can help me with this: Signs She Wants to Break Up With You: She calls someone else's name in the throes of orgasm; She takes you off her speed-dial; She ties you to the bed with promises of an amazing sexual romp, then goes out for coffee and donuts; She's reading anything by Gloria Steinem;She introduces you to her new male friend, nick-named Buzzard or Flint, who sports a snake tattoo on his face, and tells you, "He's just so sweeeeeeet!"; She develops a penchant for peasant skirts, beads, Birkenstocks, and she refuses to shave her underarm hair; All she plays is her massive Sara McLachlan collection; She's seen Thelma and Louse over 5 times... There are more, but this is a good start.
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 I have a shorter list, and I think it's probably more accurate. Maybe Pink can help me with this: Signs She Wants to Break Up With You: She calls someone else's name in the throes of orgasm; She takes you off her speed-dial; She ties you to the bed with promises of an amazing sexual romp, then goes out for coffee and donuts; She's reading anything by Gloria Steinem;She introduces you to her new male friend, nick-named Buzzard or Flint, who sports a snake tattoo on his face, and tells you, "He's just so sweeeeeeet!"; She develops a penchant for peasant skirts, beads, Birkenstocks, and she refuses to shave her underarm hair; All she plays is her massive Sara McLachlan collection; She's seen Thelma and Louse over 5 times... There are more, but this is a good start. Don't forget these because in this case they may apply: She refuses to drink the refreshing punch served at the "meetings" She seems less enthusiastic to recruit more "members". She is caught trying to pass notes that say "help me" to strangers when you are out on "missions". She spends way too much time in the "weapons bunker" alone.
stoopid_guy Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 1. Decreased sex drive. She may use the excuse that she has a headache or is on her period. She may already be getting her needs met from someone else. 2. Increased sex drive. She may increase sexual activity with you in order to cover up a secret affair she's having just to throw off any suspicions you might have. Or if sex drive is consistant, she's trying to hide something too... 3. Decreased frequency of phone calls. Or increased just to run up your phone bill. (Women are evil that way.) 4. Overly attentive to you because she fears that you suspect something is wrong. Or under-attentive because she thinks you're a looser. 5. Dying her hair a different color because she's setting herself up for a new relationship. Always a bad sign, especially when she dies the hair "down south." Of course, if you're not sexually "active" you may not notice. 6. She requests space to cool off because she gets upset with you over trivial matters. She's a fault finder. Or she's trying to get closer to you carrying a knife or pot of hot oil. 7. Spends more time talking to one particular guy friend than she does to you. Or posting on LS type message boards. 8. She doesn't make eye contact with you as much when she talks to you. That could just be food stuck in your teeth, wouldn't worry... 9. She's in a bad mood when you call her. 10. She's in a super good mood when you call her. She might be flattering you. Watch out! Or she doesn't answer at all when you call her. Wow John! I never thought I'd say this, but I think we almost have women figured out!!!
superconductor Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 I never thought I'd say this, but I think we almost have women figured out!!! LOL! You'd be the first!
tine_23 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Unless she was abused or cheated on in some way then she will stick around in an unhappy relationship to pass the time until a better and more promising prospect comes along. WHAT??? That gives us a good idea of what is your opinion of woman... Do you really think we are that dependant? I wouldn't stay in a realtionship if it was an unhappy one... I have a life you know and I CAN live without a man!!! Any woman can! If my man doesn't treat me right (I'm not talking about abusing and cheating... just saying l like a i love you once in a while or a smile or a touch that tells me he loves me...) I ain't gonna stay! even if he says he loves me... I deserve respect... We all do!
Ripples Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Don't forget these because in this case they may apply: She refuses to drink the refreshing punch served at the "meetings" She seems less enthusiastic to recruit more "members". She is caught trying to pass notes that say "help me" to strangers when you are out on "missions". She spends way too much time in the "weapons bunker" alone. Brilliant!
stoopid_guy Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 LOL! You'd be the first! John's almost done it. I'm just greatful he's willing to share with the rest of us! (Ladies, you're almost in our clutches!) :lmao:
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 John's almost done it. I'm just greatful he's willing to share with the rest of us! (Ladies, you're almost in our clutches!) :lmao: Alas, you are too close to the truth. I will now submit to your manly ways. As I as this humble and not so intelligent woman creature realizes now that it is indeed in my best interest to throw myself under your manly masterfullness..... Forgive me for getting out of line and not knowing my place. I just hope you will find me worthy enough to be allowed into your divine shadow and grace me with your willingness to allow me to serve you. Your humble servant, womankind :p
dgiirl Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 oh oh i have one... if you feel the need to read a list of the signs a woman's about to break up with you... she's about to break up with you!
Walk Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 1. Decreased sex drive. She may use the excuse that she has a headache or is on her period. She may already be getting her needs met from someone else. One that John here has experienced lately. Isn't that true? 2. Increased sex drive. She may increase sexual activity with you in order to cover up a secret affair she's having just to throw off any suspicions you might have. So she wants to put out now.. but since you decided she was using PMS as an excuse, her now wanting sex is also an excuse? 3. Decreased frequency of phone calls. Becaues she's realized your won't return her calls except for every 5th day and only in months ending in er. You crack me up Johnny boy. Your insecurity is astounding. She doesn't call enough, then she wants someone new. She calls too much, then she found someone new. She's friendly, she's distant, she's on the rag, she isn't on the rag, she wants to see if you're alright.. she doesnt' care if you're alright. Basically.. if she farts, then she found someone new? Way to really narrow that down John. Nice and ambigious. Can't go wrong with that, can you? Keep it general, keep it overly simplistic. Then all your bases are covered. I left my exH without someone new. Left the guy before that, without replacing him for over a year. Left a lot of men without needing to "replace" the jerk with a new jerk. I like time alone prior to entering the dating world again. Regain my sanity before plunging into that world again.
Walk Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 oh oh i have one... if you feel the need to read a list of the signs a woman's about to break up with you... she's about to break up with you!
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Basically.. if she farts, then she found someone new? . I usually fart a lot on the day after my period is over..... but man that takes the bloat away instantly..... 3-4 good rippers... I think I go down two sizes. Number One Sign a Woman is about to dump you is: SHE TELLS YOU TO STRAIGHTEN THE HELL UP OR SHE IS LEAVING That is what I do......... but then again I am pretty blunt.
Touche Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 This whole thing is hysterical. You know, in my experience a "normal" good guy doesn't sit around making and thinking up these lists! They just don't. John, hate to be blunt but unless you change your attitude and your ways and/or get help, I can almost GUARANTEE that you will NEVER have a successful relationship. In fact, have you EVER? I'll bet not. HINT: There's a REASON for that.
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 This whole thing is hysterical. You know, in my experience a "normal" good guy doesn't sit around making and thinking up these lists! They just don't. John, hate to be blunt but unless you change your attitude and your ways and/or get help, I can almost GUARANTEE that you will NEVER have a successful relationship. In fact, have you EVER? I'll bet not. HINT: There's a REASON for that. ah yeah because he keeps getting sucked in by the wrong women! He needs to find a woman that is willing to assure him, fulfill his needs, and understand that his needs need to come first...... he just has the wrong woman at this point.
Touche Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 ah yeah because he keeps getting sucked in by the wrong women! He needs to find a woman that is willing to assure him, fulfill his needs, and understand that his needs need to come first...... he just has the wrong woman at this point. Oh I'm quite sure you got that right. That's probably EXACTLY what he thinks. It's sad really. And I wonder where/how the bleach tasting cravings factor into all this insanity.
Author john1775 Posted August 21, 2006 Author Posted August 21, 2006 The thing is when a woman's interest level slowly drops she may not be consciously aware of it herself. But she will give subtle clues over time that her interest level is dropping. The good news is that if the guy detects it early enough he has the highest chance of salvaging the relationship before it's too late. How low would her interest level have to drop before it's too late? I would estimate anywhere below 60%. How can he salvage his relationship? By being a challenge and being unpredictable. Don't call at the same intervals or too many times per day. Don't apologize when you have done nothing wrong. Don't buy gifts every month. Don't initiate sex every time you see her and don't see her everyday. How much bordeom can a woman take from your constant presence & gifts and affection? A balanced man gives 60% of his time to his job/career, education, parents, friends, hobbies, volunteer work, exercise, & 40% of his time to his girlfriend. Don't always be the one to initiate the words "I love you." Don't always be the one to reciprocate with the words "I love you." Sometimes reply by saying "ditto". With a smile of course.
a4a Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 The thing is when a woman's interest level slowly drops she may not be consciously aware of it herself. But she will give subtle clues over time that her interest level is dropping. The good news is that if the guy detects it early enough he has the highest chance of salvaging the relationship before it's too late. How low would her interest level have to drop before it's too late? I would estimate anywhere below 60%. How can he salvage his relationship? By being a challenge and being unpredictable. Don't call at the same intervals or too many times per day. Don't apologize when you have done nothing wrong. Don't buy gifts every month. Don't initiate sex every time you see her and don't see her everyday. How much bordeom can a woman take from your constant presence & gifts and affection? :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: A balanced man gives 60% of his time to his job/career, education, parents, friends, hobbies, volunteer work, exercise, & 40% of his time to his girlfriend. Don't always be the one to initiate the words "I love you." Don't always be the one to reciprocate with the words "I love you." Sometimes reply by saying "ditto". With a smile of course. OMG the last thing is an instant show ya to the door rule........ Later Ditto boy!!! :lmao: This is about power/control..... not keeping the interest of a SO. And news: rules cannot apply to all. But hell have fun getting dumped by using these "rules"
Touche Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Ditto Boy! Hey, DB you're REALLY showing your age and immaturity with this nonsense. I can't imagine a guy in his 30's or 40's thinking this is the way to go. That right there should tell you something. One day you'll look back on all this foolishness and even YOU'LL be laughing! You'll wonder what the hell you were thinking. I know you don't believe it now but you'll see. Oh and men who believe this nonsense, and who ARE in their 30's and 40's and beyond are....ALONE.
Author john1775 Posted August 21, 2006 Author Posted August 21, 2006 1. Decreased sex drive. She may use the excuse that she has a headache or is on her period. She may already be getting her needs met from someone else. One that John here has experienced lately. Isn't that true? 2. Increased sex drive. She may increase sexual activity with you in order to cover up a secret affair she's having just to throw off any suspicions you might have. So she wants to put out now.. but since you decided she was using PMS as an excuse, her now wanting sex is also an excuse? 3. Decreased frequency of phone calls. Becaues she's realized your won't return her calls except for every 5th day and only in months ending in er. You crack me up Johnny boy. Your insecurity is astounding. She doesn't call enough, then she wants someone new. She calls too much, then she found someone new. She's friendly, she's distant, she's on the rag, she isn't on the rag, she wants to see if you're alright.. she doesnt' care if you're alright. Basically.. if she farts, then she found someone new? Way to really narrow that down John. Nice and ambigious. Can't go wrong with that, can you? Keep it general, keep it overly simplistic. Then all your bases are covered. I left my exH without someone new. Left the guy before that, without replacing him for over a year. Left a lot of men without needing to "replace" the jerk with a new jerk. I like time alone prior to entering the dating world again. Regain my sanity before plunging into that world again. Actually this past week I have once again proven that my theory about her is correct. That theory is that the more I call her the less she calls me. The less I call her the more she calls me. I actually got soft for awhile last week and stopped being a challenge by calling her 3 days in a row. That was Wednseday, Thursday, & Friday. She stopped calling as a result and therefore I pulled back and stopped calling myself. She didn't call me Saturday but she did call on Sunday. I should have known better not to call so many days in a row because then she will just pull back. It's only when I pull back that she starts coming to me again. I only have to pull back a little most of the time.
stoopid_guy Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Alas, you are too close to the truth. I will now submit to your manly ways. As I as this humble and not so intelligent woman creature realizes now that it is indeed in my best interest to throw myself under your manly masterfullness..... Forgive me for getting out of line and not knowing my place. I just hope you will find me worthy enough to be allowed into your divine shadow and grace me with your willingness to allow me to serve you. Your humble servant, womankind :p I HAVE YOU NOW, MY PRETTY!!! << Evil grin emoticon here >>
Touche Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 "She stopped calling as a result and therefore I pulled back and stopped calling myself." You stopped calling yourself? So you were calling yourself but when she stopped calling you, you stopped calling yourself? Are you in NC with yourself now? I don't think you should play those mind games with yourself, John. It's not good for your mental health. It might lead you to...I don't know...drink bleach or something. Please call yourself soon and be well again!
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