Laura291 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 I had posted as a guest about my bf wanting to get engaged and meanwhile I'm not ready. Lately he has been driving me crazy. All he thinks about is himself. This last week my grandmother passed away and I was very close to her. Because I have been spending a lot of time with my family I haven't seen my bf all week. I did not ask him to accompany me to the funeral activities becasue before my grandma died I had confided in him that I wanted to see her as much as possible (in the hospital) and my bf shared a story that when his grandmother was diagnosed with a brain tumor he didn't go to see her at all because "he knew he'd see her soon enough in a box (casket)" and that was good enough for him. That insensitive remark really hurt me and I did not want him around for the funeral. So I haven't seen him all week. Instead I've been surrounded by my family. For some reason this death has been hard on me, my grandfather died about a year ago and it wasn't this difficult. I'm depressed, dont' want anyone around me, can't stand to be touched and am very irritable. My bf doesn't understand any of this. He wants to have sex since we haven't seen eachother all week but I can't even think about it. I have NO interest. Then on saturday we were trying to spend some quality time together and all he did was bitch at me because I haven't spent time with him. He wanted me to spend sunday with him but I was going to visit my parents. (they live a few hours away) he got mad because I saw them during the week (for the funeral). I tried explaining that I am going thru a hard time right now and I just need him to be patient. He just gets angry at me and starts with his ME ME ME attitude. Everything is about him, his feelings, his discontent. He kept arguing with me and saying mean things. He kept telling me EVERYTHING that he doesnt' like about me and bringing up things that I did months ago (didn't go to a party with him) that upset him. I just said jokingly wow is there anything that you do like about me? And he said honestly not really anymore. He kept telling me all this hurtful things. I dont' understand why he is treating me so horribly especially when all I need is some comfort right now. If he keeps acting like this I am leaving him because life is too short to associate with people who treat you badly. do you think things will go back to normal? Why is he acting like this? I know that lately a lot of little things have started to irritate me about him- he has NO common sense at all- he told me he added up his hours at work for the week and came up with 89 hours!! He said that sounded like a lot and he knew he only worked 6 hours one day (five day week). I told him he'd have had to work 20 hours per day to get that many hours!! He said well he added it up twice so it must be right. There is no way he worked 20 hour days! Also he's trying to get a loan to pay off debts and because his credit is so bad the bank told him no loan unless he has something for collateral. Well he came up with the brilliant idea to use his truck. The only problem wtih that is another bank owns the truck (he makes payments) and his sister's name is on that loan. I just don't know what to do.
hotgurl Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 That is really crappy of him to make this about him when your grandma just died. I say you saw his true charater and should run.
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