NamesJake Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Hi guys, My names Jake and I just broke up with my girlfriend a little while ago. I'm new here so please take kindly. We broke up because of issues that were out of our control. Well more or less, I am moving because of my job. She unfortunately cannot come with me for her own reasons, nor do I want her to give up her life to follow me. I saw no other way for us to be together and she is not the type to go into a long distance because she loses her mind. Inevitably I had to walk out the door. I didn't want the relationship to be over, but both of us could see no other way at the time. She called once after our split but I haven't heard from her since. I admit I have alot of feelings for her still but I don't know how she feels. She told me she won't contact me until she is ready. So I have done the no contact thing since the break up. I'm sure she thinks I'm an arse who doesn't give a crud, but it's because I am respecting her wishes. I know she logs into her myspace account everyday and hasn't reaquainted herself with me in the slightest. The thing is I use outlook and it send me read receipts. It is showing me that she is re-reading emails that I sent her. I am wondering if she is regretting the walk out? Could she be missing me so much that she is reconcidering our relationship and does want to try? Should I contact her or will that make me seem weak? I mean she is re reading emails for pete's sake, doesn't this say something? Advice would be appreciated. I hate feeling like she is hurting (the re-readings), but I don't want to contact her if it only leads to prolonging recovery if she doesn't want to do long distance till we can be together. I miss the heck out of her though, it hurts. Jake
amaysngrace Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 She told me she won't contact me until she is ready. I think you need to respect this. Maybe she's re-reading the emails as a way of getting through the hurt. I know you want to call her, but don't. She told you she'll contact you. You need to allow her to heal from this. And since the break-up was your idea, you need to trust yourself that it was a good decision. Everyone second guesses themselves from time to time. It's only natural. But to contact her will only add your confusion to her pain. And that's just not fair. What do you hope to accomplish by contacting her? Do you see the two of you getting back together? Will you refuse the job to be with her? Or insist she come with you? If you haven't got it all sorted out, then you owe it to her to let her be.
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