AlwaysHope Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 i broke up with my LDR boyfriend over the phone yesterday, and not that it matters anymore, but should i have taken the time to go see him to do it? HE was the catalyst for the breakup. i had finally had enough of his cruel/rude/disrespectful behavior and told him that i thought we were over. he also told me recently after 2 years of dating that he "wasn't sure i was the person for him" and that he is far from ready to get married, and i was really serious about a committment. so anyways, he was an @$$ over the weekend and i had enough. i broke it off over the phone. has anyone else had this experience? i think that LDRs might be an exception to the Break It Off In Person rule.
ImmaBeAlright Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 i broke up with my LDR boyfriend over the phone yesterday, and not that it matters anymore, but should i have taken the time to go see him to do it? HE was the catalyst for the breakup. i had finally had enough of his cruel/rude/disrespectful behavior and told him that i thought we were over. he also told me recently after 2 years of dating that he "wasn't sure i was the person for him" and that he is far from ready to get married, and i was really serious about a committment. so anyways, he was an @$$ over the weekend and i had enough. i broke it off over the phone. has anyone else had this experience? i think that LDRs might be an exception to the Break It Off In Person rule. With gas prices the way they are and airfares (don't let me even go there), breaking an LDR by phone is perfectly acceptable.
InaPanic Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 if he hadn't been a jerk i would say it was wrong but if he was that way too you then he didn't show you much respect either so don't worry about it.
AriaIncognito Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 My last relationship is 30 minutes from me, but we broke it off over the phone. I don't think there needs to be an "in person" rule. However, via email is tacky. At least via the phone you can hear their voice and emotion and whatnot. So, the phone, is totally acceptable in my opinion, for LDR or otherwise. Jennifer
RecordProducer Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 Well you certainly won't fly 1,000 miles just to break up with someone. But up to a couple hours by car, you might want to do it person for the sake of the closure, not love etiquette.
Poboy Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 I broke off my LDR on saturday on the phone ... she is a far away in another part of the country , im glad it was over on the phone & not in person actually ...
magichands Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 With gas prices the way they are and airfares (don't let me even go there), breaking an LDR by phone is perfectly acceptable. Ohmygosh... suddenly the real impact of gas prices is clear to me. Those oil companies are breaking up LDRs all over the world. Mind you, if things are on that sort of knife edge... The best questions are asked in retrospect. You did what you thought was right at the time - by your standards. Good luck with getting past this and moving on to better times.
Author AlwaysHope Posted August 21, 2006 Author Posted August 21, 2006 i'm glad to hear so many people think phone breakups are reasonable. it's actually probably easier. the relationship i just ended has ended before...in person...and it didn't actually end...and here we are now! maybe the phone gives you more closure. it's harder to hug someone, smell them, or realize you're still physically attracted to them over the phone too!!
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