Guest Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 Been the OW for over two years. I am trying to get past this relationship and have been on a few dates with single men. Last night had sex for the first time with someone other than my MM, the weird thing I feel guilty! Will I ever get over my love for MM?
RecordProducer Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 Been the OW for over two years. I am trying to get past this relationship and have been on a few dates with single men. Last night had sex for the first time with someone other than my MM, the weird thing I feel guilty! Will I ever get over my love for MM?It's normal to feel guilty when you're sleeping with someone other than the one you love. You feel like you've betrayed your own heart. But, while sleeping with guys might not be the best coping strategy, you should move on and keep no contact with the MM until you get over him. Once you heal, you will be open to giving, not only your body, but your heart too to another man. Be good to yourself and don't go back to the claws of guaranteed pain. He is not single. You are!
Adunaphel Posted August 23, 2006 Posted August 23, 2006 You will eventually get over him, just prepare to the idea that it might take (some) more time than you'd like to fall out of love for him. Unfortunately feelings will not go away at will - but they'll fade away, eventually. The guilty feeling is normal, I think -you'd probably experience the same if you had recently ended a two year relationship with a single man. Do you normally feel confortable going on a date, and do you manage to enjoy it? Except for the guilt feeling, was everything okay with the guy you had sex with? I agree with RecordProducer that No Contact is the best strategy.
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