Guest Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 is it really just the appeal of doing something your not supposed to? i had told my guy on mon that i was done. had met someone new, ready to move on with someone who DIDNT have a significant other. went out with new guy mon night, it was great, he is great. were all set to meet up last night, however i was a little drunk (or a lot) and stupidly answered when my other guy called... needless to say, it instantly killed my mood, i told him i couldnt talk to him and hung up. then came the "dont hate me" text messages. then i finally answered and talked to him and met up with him, and lied to the new guy about being tired and going home. i just sent him a text tonight telling him we needed to talk. my phone immediatly rang, but it was his friend asking what was going on, they were at some family party. i told him to pass on the message to not call me anymore. he said ok, it was a good idea, then the friend asked me if i was ok (?) having thought about it, i wonder why he responded at all. i would have expected him to blow it off, we have only ever talked during the day when hes at work or on friday nights, which is "his"/ our night were he appearantly isnt expected to go home till the morning. i want to move on. im ready. i was caught off guard last night in a vulnerable situation which he took advantage of. how do i make it clear to him that im serious? any why is there a small part of me hesitant to move on? that im thinking him responding tonight means he does actually care? that maybe he might leave? but then reality sets back in. hes not married yet, he could still call it off if he wanted.
newbby Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 any why is there a small part of me hesitant to move on? that im thinking him responding tonight means he does actually care? that maybe he might leave? nah. it means he doesnt want anyone else to have you. he wants you there for his convenience. he doesnt want you distracted from adoring him and only him. my exmm used to do something similar. just before a date he would make sure he said the most sweetest things to me, just to make sure that he was in my head. stop talking to him. nc means that if he is serious about you and realises that cake eating isnt an option, he will make a decision. if he isnt serious he will try and pester you for a good few months, then probably move on to another ow, AND you get to enjoy your dates without interruptions.
Adunaphel Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 nah. it means he doesnt want anyone else to have you. he wants you there for his convenience. he doesnt want you distracted from adoring him and only him. my exmm used to do something similar. just before a date he would make sure he said the most sweetest things to me, just to make sure that he was in my head. stop talking to him. nc means that if he is serious about you and realises that cake eating isnt an option, he will make a decision. if he isnt serious he will try and pester you for a good few months, then probably move on to another ow, AND you get to enjoy your dates without interruptions. I think that newbby described the situation very accurately. Also, do not get surprised if once he understands that you are serious he will try to make you jealous trying to get back at you, or to get your attention again. I'm not saying he will, but he might.
kymberann Posted August 22, 2006 Posted August 22, 2006 how do i make it clear to him that im serious? Don't answer, don't call, don't text, don't tell him that you are even dating. It's none of his business! Don't let him ruin any new opportunity that may come your way, and that you deserve just based on the assumption that he might leave! Best!
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