luvtoto Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 Well, I just had my fifth date with my new guy. He is really great and very nice to my kids. HOWEVER, we never seem to have any alone time. I am a single mother, with two kids that only have me to care for them. Can't drop them off at the babysitters cause my daughter is 14. Can't just leave town cause my daughter is 14. The last time I left my daughter alone and came home early, she was prancing around the house in a playboy Tshirt (that she borrowed from a girlfriend)...'bout ready to go walk around town. So, I never have any time to myself to date much. I guess I could take the time, but then I worry about what my kid's are doing. He seems like a patient guy, but this is the 5th date that ended with a hug at the door with my 11 yr old son walking out to the car with us and lurking on. He has his 4 year old daughter 2 weeks out of the month, also. When she's around, it's the same story....no alone time.
norajane Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 You're the mommy, so you can send your son back into the house while you say goodbye to your date. Your daughter can have a sleepover at a friend's place - a friend who has parents you can trust to keep an eye on them.
Author luvtoto Posted August 20, 2006 Author Posted August 20, 2006 You're the mommy, so you can send your son back into the house while you say goodbye to your date. Your daughter can have a sleepover at a friend's place - a friend who has parents you can trust to keep an eye on them. If I send my daughter to a sleepover, then I will have to find a place for my son also. Which is next to impossible. If I'm going to leave my kid's home alone, I want them both home. I told my son to go back in the house, but my BF just laughed because we were all watching a scary movie just before he left. He figured that he was just scared. But, dang!! How much of this is acceptable? I mean, 5 dates and no kiss yet. What must he be thinking?
norajane Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 Hmmm...why can't you kiss him with your kids in the house? Surely they're not in the same room every single second? I'm thinking teenage daughter would retreat to her room to talk on the phone or get on the pc instead of hanging out with you, and your son has a bedtime?
Author luvtoto Posted August 20, 2006 Author Posted August 20, 2006 My kids lovvve this guy I am seeing. The newness is causing them to be around all the time. Especially my son. If he wasn't here, my kids go their seperate ways in the house.
Author luvtoto Posted August 20, 2006 Author Posted August 20, 2006 Then kiss him even if the kids are there!!! Well, we haven't even had our first kiss yet. Right now, we are just basically friends. If we had our first kiss in the middle of the living room, with my kid's right there, it would be kinda weird.
magda Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 I guess you should talk to him about it. At least let him know that you would like to kiss him.
norajane Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Well, we haven't even had our first kiss yet. Right now, we are just basically friends. If we had our first kiss in the middle of the living room, with my kid's right there, it would be kinda weird. So many excuses!!! Ask him to help you with something in the kitchen, or that you'd like him to help you with a stuck window in your bedroom...and PLANT one on him!!
Touche Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Can't the 14-year old babysit the 11 year old so you can at least go out to dinner? I started babysitting when I was 12. Or rent them a movie and set them up in another room and tell them that you want alone time with your friend. You ARE the adult. You ARE the one in charge as NJ implicated. Don't let your kids call the shots. Explain to them that when they're with THEIR friends you don't hang all over them and you expect the same courtesy.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted August 21, 2006 Posted August 21, 2006 Can't the 14-year old babysit the 11 year old so you can at least go out to dinner? I started babysitting when I was 12. Remember what the OP said the 14yr old in the playboy shirt? If your 14yr old isn't mature enough to babysit the 11yr old, then hire a mature babysitter for the evening for BOTH kids, or send the 14yr old to a "trusted" household for a sleepover and get a babysitter for the 11yr old. Your daughter may suddenly mature at the prospect of you hiring a babysitter to watch her. Or at the fact that she will earn $$$ if she can show she is responsible enough to care for her younger brother. P.S. your boyfriend can help pay for the sitter.
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