bestred2424 Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 My boyfriend and I have been dating two years, which is a miracle it's been this long. We are completely different, I just graduated with a Bachelor's in Chemstry and I am about to start graduate school, I am very serious and even when I am in a joking mood its sarcasm, etc. My boyfriend drinks and goes to parties, has friends that party and want him to drink, hasn't even started college, he is 22. You probably get the picture. The thing that kept us going this long is the fact that even when we fought due to our obvious difference someone was willing to give in and love pulled us through, which we have a lot of. The thing is, neither of us can play this game the rest of our lives, constant fights, constant make-ups, a "who's crying now" type of relationship. How can I fall out of love, break this vicious cycle that is held only by the ties of love, which aren't strong enough to keep this up forever, but I don't want to string along in a relationship that isn't going to work. It's just hard to do what is inevitable. Any advice?
norajane Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 I've been in your situation...eventually, I lost respect for him and that's what ultimately drove me to realize it would never work. It took me a little over a year of living with him after graduating from grad school and watching him waste his time in order to reach that conclusion, though. Basically, this is a guy who will never be an equal partner with you. Your paths will continue to diverge until you look at him one day and realize there's nothing left holding you together except you hate to give up and/or 'fail' when you've put so much love and effort into it. It will get old, though. It's just a matter of time. So, maybe enjoy it for what it's worth now, but you will one day have enough. You'll fall for someone else, if nothing else.
prncssfce9 Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 I know how you are feeling. I just had to break up with my bf of 4 years ..who for some reason I was and still am in love with. We are very differant, he lied to me ... we fought ... but we always made up. It got to where I just knew I had to walk away even though I still loved him just b/c I knew it would never work. It is really sad ... really hard ... but sometime life sucks. Hopefully your situation is not as bad as mine ... I hope you can make the right decsion. Good luck
JaneInVegas Posted August 20, 2006 Posted August 20, 2006 I have no words of wisdom for you ... I'm sorry. I'm going through almost the same exact situation as you, and I'm having a very VERY hard time just letting go. I have no clue why I can't. When the time is right, I hope both of us can just cut the ties & move on to a more peaceful life. Good luck to you!! HUGS
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